>>715492570 (OP)
Invest in yourself first.
>lose weight
>workout
>work on getting promotions or better paying jobs
>be the type of guy that girls pursue not the other way around
You know how there are guys that will give up hobbies and passions to be with a girl or just follow her around a mall holding her purchases?
This can happen the other way too.
I had a girlfriend that read through the wikis of Dynasy Warriors characters just so that she could seem "nerdy" and talk about them when she watched me play. She would make my favorite kind of muffins because I casually mentioned once that they were impossible to find in store. She dragged my ass to her bedroom once to fuck me knowing I'd fall asleep afterwards (thus effectively canceling our date) as I had been unable to sleep the night before.
Focus on yourself. Don't compromise yourself. Be the kind of guys that girls want but don't let them take away what gives you enjoyment just to be with them. That won't make you happy in the long run.