>>723368132 (OP)
I recently tried one of those evil better aesthetics mods, and I think I've identified what is off-putting about how BG3 is portrayed and, more broadly, what is off-putting about most modern corporate portrayals of fantasy.
The color spray Burger King Kids Club "diversity" you see in most modern fantasy combined with the very modern sensibilities makes everything feel like community theater. You're not being taken away to swept away to worlds beyond dreams or dark lands beneath strange moons, you're watching some people's community theater play. BG3's biggest fans are primarily fans of the characters and the game's reactivity, but I haven't seen any of them claim that they felt like they were taken away to a different world.
I think this partially explains why normies can largely tolerate it. They're mostly okay with the community theater vibe and aren't exactly expecting to be taken away to another world. It also explains why new fantasy properties keep face-planting. Fantasy thrives in whisking people away to realms beyond time, and the community theater thing ruins that and isn't compelling enough on its own, so both fantasy fans and normies stop watching.
What's more, the fantasy haters who make this slop openly approve of the community theater vibe because most of them are your theater kid type anyway, who have nothing but disdain for all genres and settings and only respect themselves and their own artistic ambitions.