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> I FEEL like I now need to baby and cater to prevent them from randomly getting the ick and dumping me like trash.
It's the complete opposite, becoming clingy like that, specially after being cool headed throughout the entire process is what gives them "the ick".
Women are very emotional, and by that I mean retarded and illogical and meanspirited, your man logic tells you that by showing affection, interest and effort, you will prove that you are a good man and that will prompt her to value you and reciprocate the same affection, interest and effort. But she doesn't work that way, getting the same things you put in is the way friendship among men works, women operate on feelings, not on the duty they have towards you, you don't build equity with women.
What is happening from her side is that, at the beginning, her female feelings feel that you are above her and thus you are worth chasing, because women only want superior men; you are just being cautious before "going all in" but because you don't cater to her you appear as superior to all other men that she knows, but when you make it official, she feels your sudden shift in energy and she feels that you were pretending to be "A MAN" all along, see, women get the ick faster from a guy being a clingy softie eager to please than from a guy being cold. Because they don't THINK "WOW THIS GUY LOVES ME SO MUCH, I'M GOING TO LOVE HIM EQUALLY" they FEEL "WOW IF THIS GUY IS SO NICE AND PLEASING TO ME, I MUST BE HOT SHIT, I CLEARLY DESSERVE A BETTER MAN"
it sounds like you have insecurities about falling short from the expectations in an official relationship, just remember, if you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan, if you treat her like a princess, she will treat you like a subject, celebrities marry celebrities, princesses princes, act above her, your love and gratitude make her FEEL you are beneath her.
