Thread 76768326

It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhale

Were you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as well

What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.

Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own pace

We're ALL gonna make it

The motivation thread is open

Last week’s thread >>76744854

I’m getting close to benching 255 for 3 reps. My goal is to do that by the end of November

Hello fellow /fit/izens

I'm training to do a complete handstand, my goal is to do a full handstand at the end of this year. Hopefully being able to walk on my hands. I'm currently training to do a frog stand for longer than 10 seconds.

unclogged my sink drain today
feel great
WAGMI

>>76768326 (OP)
starting a new routine today, based around 5/3/1 Boring but big, with 2 accessory days thrown in. since i was doing 5/3/1 for a year my arms didnt get bigger but my lifts got bigger. now i think i want big arms too so the 2 days are added to get bigger arms and calves while still moving up on my main lifts
squat/OHP/accessory/Deadlift/Bench/Accessory/rest
HLR and pullups are accessory lifts on barbell days

big thanks to the looksmax suggestion poster on how to handle the wife. it got me into the mindset that doing unattractive stuff (poking the bit of fat on my gut, other things like that) is almost necessarily going to lead to some level of disrespect. so i started digging around for some of tighter clothes and they fit perfectly, tucking my shirts in, got my car cleaned inside and out, and booked an appointment to get the hair on the back of my neck lasered off. anyway, thanks for the new mindset. mires have been up which is good for the ego.

thanks to apple's new update, my vo2 max is now considered High has been for over a month. kinda sucks that it's due to an algorithm shift. i haven't been using the cpap but i did record myself for snoring the other night and there has been a drastic reduction.

went for my second bodyscan and it has me down 3 pounds but the distributions are also kinda f'd. don't regret buying the package but it's obvious that the thing isn't perfect. more importantly i averaged around 201 last week, really hoping to see below 200 before next Monday. 195 was the target from the sleep doc, but if i could get and stay under 200 throughout the holidays i'd be stoked.

also finished reading another book, and started another. slowly but surely getting through what's basically a decade long logjam.

goals this week are unfortunately the same from last week since i was burned out at work. expand my consulting practice. i also want to identify another useless certificate to get. i also want to continue writing out that meal prep guide as well as create an AI model for generating cover letters using my own writing style.

last week of November let's get it

successfully finished 2 weeks of my cut. gonna reduce my training volume a little this week and focus more on home projects. next week should be able to upgrade the home gym with a rack and barbell setup. WAGMI.
>>76768608
qrd on wife situation?

I WILL SUCCEED IN THIS JOB
I WILL STUDY HARD
I WILL PASS MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM

Work is difficult but I’m improving. Compared to the last filing cycle, I feel much more confident in my work. I still have many concerns, but I feel much more capable. As I continue doing this job, I’ll continue improving. I’m confident that I’ll survive this job and eventually grow to be above average.

I’ve finished learning new content for my exam. For the next 3 months, I’ll just be practicing and reviewing. I have enough time to master this content. This time I’m a little excited about taking my exam. I’m ready to complete the CFA program. Whenever I’m feeling down, I fantasize about how much better my life will be in a year after I’be finished it. I have a lot to look forward to. But I need to be strong and work hard. This time I will pass!

The man you are today must brutally mog the man you were yesterday! Use every day as an opportunity to improve! The chance to prove ourselves draws closer! WAGMI!

>>76768326 (OP)
My local supplement store is hiring part time. They are good and kind of hippie as well. Gonna go to the library and print of my resume and see if I can't get something there. If so, guess my calling is to be a druid of some kind.

>>76768647
nice, congrats on the cut.

got married this year, had a miscarriage early on (basically just shit luck), we were going to start trying again about now but she wants to put that on hold until next year because of her new job and a retarded certification. this comes after putting buying a house on hold, and spending most weekends studying. we also sleep in separate rooms, which started out as my snoring waking her up, so i got a sleep study, diagnosed with sleep apnea, and got a cpap. then it was me moving around in my sleep (allegedly) and that would wake her up. so back to the other room. then we got twin beds and put them in the king frame, worked great for a week until it didnt and she turned into a massive cunt in the middle of the night because she couldn't fall back asleep so now i had to buy another mattress and move back to another room.

none of that has impacted sex btw other than using protection again

>>76768477
Good luck fren! Your digits indicate that you’ll crush your goals

>>76768563
Congrats on fixing something around the house! It’s important to celebrate our little victories. WAGMI!

>>76768477
>I'm training to do a complete handstand
Hey, I'm training for the same goal! Practicing it against the wall for now, my biggest problem is psychological - when not leaning over anything I just get this lizardbrain signal that I'm falling down and my form crumbles. Do you experience something similar?

>>76768704
Give it a try! It’ll give you some money and you might get some samples. Good luck

>>76768608
That’s really good advice, I’ll follow it myself. Good luck on your cut! You still have time to reach your goal weight

>>76768326 (OP)
Day was surprisingly good for a monday. Sometimes I don't hate being a construction worker.

>>76768326 (OP)
Meeting a girl off the apps tonight, done this a few times before and usually these girls are just the most broken people I have ever seen but this one seems more normal than most. Honestly dating off the apps is fucking agony and I hate it but I have a few more months before I become a wizard and I'll be damned if I at don't go down swinging.

>>76769360
you try talking to women irl?

>>76769389
Look I'm 29 now and am well past college age when I was surrounded by girls my age. I spent those years being consumed by anxieties and other bullshit that I have since sorted, and now I want to actually meet someone. The bars around me are full of old decrepit losers and my industry is almost completely men so I am not gonna meet women that way. My friendgroup is mostly crabtank losers who either stay single or put up with the most harpy-like batshit insane women so they arn't alone, and while we share hobbies I am slowly getting disgusted with their inability to improve themselves, so I am not gonna meet women through them. I really don't know what my options are at this point, so I'm stuck with the apps.

>>76769469
I feel you. It's tough to meet new women at our age. The apps at least take the edge off and give you some options. I've met tons of girls off there, and while they're almost never long-term material, it's nice to have some company here and there. Ultimately, though, you'll find that meeting a girl the old-fashioned way is probably the only way to snag a sane, responsible one. I'm currently seeing two girls from the apps, and they're both "off" in one way or another. Makes me think of my ex and how much more complete we were as a couple. Not a great feeling.

>>76769535
Ya I was with a girl for a while who was basically perfect for me, but I managed to fuck it up with my insecurities so she left. I was pretty broken up about it, but my friends and family assured me I would meet someone new. That never happened and I still think about her. She deleted me off social media a while back but last I saw she was engaged to some new guy, I hope shes happy wherever she is.

>>76768586
Good luck on your new routine! Would you recommend 5/3/1? I need to grow my bench

I've been feeling quite sad lately. Whenever i have a social contact with colleagues or strangers, i get more sad and kinda feel like crying sometimes. Especially when i have to talk in groups it gets pretty bad and i kinda choke up.
I had a burnout 1.5 yrs ago and these problems have been here ever since. Idk what to do anymore, anyone got tips? I'm thinking SSRIs, i don't think i can do this much longer.

>>76769469
The older you get the harder it is to find one that hasn't been used up or is simply using you in that age bracket, there's also crazies to deal with. They're the ones who either couldn't find a mate in their 20's because they're unattractive/weird, had lengthy relationships that left them ruined and cold, or they're ready to settle down after going through men like water until they hit the wall. Or they have kids lmao.

Although you will have one advantage: the older and more financially stable you become the more you'll attract women who're in their early to mid 20's, who are redeemable. Or you could just lower your standards a little; there may be someone in that age group who's a little weird or homely but would make a great girlfriend if she were given a chance.

>>76769599
Damn, man. Those ones hurt. I've had a lot of time to reflect on what I messed up in my relationship, and I wanna say I've changed considerably since then and become a better person all around, but it's hard not to wonder how things could have gone had the change not occurred earlier. The only advice I can give is to realize that there is no going back. Relationships can be like quick-time events -- if you mess it up, that's it. All you can do is prepare yourself for the next opportunity and learn from your mistakes.
>>76769741
I was this way for a while. I'd held in my actual feelings for so long that almost any kind of social contact or negative emotion would affect me far too deeply. I felt like I was always on the verge of tears, despite being a rather undemonstrative person. I'd say that unless you've got some psychological issues or some unresolved "trauma," you're probably just suffering from the lingering effects of that burnout. It can last way longer than you might think. Mine lasted for years. (Part of the reason why I fucked up my relationship.) Don't rely on SSRIs. They're a diversion. You need to address the core issues in your life so that you can stand on your own two feet. What do you want? What's making you sad? Are you unfulfilled? What could change that? These are all questions you must ask yourself.
>>76769742
This.

>>76769741
you need to dig deeper within your brain to understand why that happens, how it started, how you're acting because of it
and then think about how you would want it to be different and how to change
don't take jew meds

>>76769763
The thing is, my life is going pretty well. I got a good job that's fairly chill usually, and i find it interesting. I got a gf, albeit a Mexican (bpd?) one, idk it'll last but she really likes me. I live in west Europe so it really ain't bad at all.
It's exactly as you said, feeling on the verge of tears large portions of the day when talking to people. I'm taking beta blockers here and there but it's so fucking annoying. I can't find a reason I'm feeling like this. Food? Exercise? Looking ppl in the eye or not looking in their eyes? Getting more friends? Nothing seems to matter to cure this issue.
During my burnout i was mentally completely fucked, i couldn't and still can't properly watch a movie lol. Very humbling to have your mind poop out on you like that.
What did you do to cure it? I'd do anything

>>76769354
Appreciate these easy days. A hard day will be here before you know it

Life is hard and it is only getting harder.
Whenever I thought tough times will be over and I can claim a better time, no, life will tell me something different.
You will reach heights which will open even harder paths for you. Greater paths, paths with even more impact for those around you.
But not comfier, not easier paths.
And even if you don't want to go that way, you know already and done already too much. You can't enjoy simple things anymore.
I do not claim that I am better than anyone else, no. I just choose a path nearly no one dares to go.
That doesn't make me better in any way, maybe wiser but not better.
And still, I do not wish for it to be different.

I wish you all a good day, a good night, a good week.
Do not fall into despair, do not fall for propaganda, it isn't over at all and even if something is bad, you can still be your best version.

May the /sig/ archive help you on your way.
May the motivational folder spark a light when times are getting dark.

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>>76768608
>Another useless cert
A tefl certificate would be perfect.

>>76769806
It sounds like you've got a decent life, which is great. I worry about those who have to start again from absolute zero. In regards to curing this -- it really depends on your symptoms, medical history, etc. Burnout absolutely messes with your emotions and physique and all that, and to me, it sounds like you're dealing with some longer-term complications from your previous burnout. It can sometimes take 2-3 years for someone to fully heal from that -- and that's if they're consistently getting better. It sounds overly simplistic, but that classic fixes work for something like this: proper sleep, proper nutrition, cutting out unnecessary stress, working on and maintaining social connections, etc. Try to be systematic about it and document things as much as you can. Now that you're a bit healthier, it might pay dividends to dig into your psychological well-being a bit more. You might find something that you were missing or looking for. Tackle the issue from multiple fronts. But in my case, I found that fixing my physical form helped greatly with establishing the resilience I needed to get back out into the world and be some form of happy again. I still get sad inexplicably, but I think that's just me, and that's also what's helped me become a successful artist. Hope this helps.

>>76770007
Thanks for the links, sigAnon. The path ahead is difficult. But I must progress with confidence in myself. I am strong enough to make it. I WILL make it

>>76769741
I'd honestly recommend putting yourself out there more often. The more you socialize, the more comfortable you'll feel

>>76768326 (OP)
What are your goals for this week?
I don't want to re-install videogames anymore. I want to break free of that vicious cycle. I've quit them countless of times, and regretted going back to them as many times.

I am still a 24 year old virgin traveling the world.

The cut seems to be going well as week by week I keep slimming down, with me seeing hints of bicep veins for the first time ever just the other day, a tighter, firmer midsection than ever before, and my cheekbones looking more chiseled. Still a ways to go, but my hope is that by the end of December I'll be low double digit body fat % and truly lean for the first time in my life successfully. Sadly I think I'm a bit smaller than I'd like to be or maybe it's just the low glycogen that's causing my body to look flatter, but the frame is good and once I slim down, I'll be primed for a lengthy lean bulk where every ounce of muscle makes me pop more. I am looking into gynecomastia surgery as well and thinking of doing it in South Korea, unless thailand itself has quality options for the price (I don't wanna skimp on quality). So as to not break the bank immediately, I'm thinking I'd pay in installments, or with a low interest credit card, or both. Need to get the plans on that sorted. Also, for future reference, is it better to prioritize bicep growth over triceps for a more aesthetician physique? Not that I'd ignore the latter but I hear a bicep dominant arm looks better.

Lastly, I am considering just seeing a prostitute now at this point. I turn 25 in not too long, and I basically got all the validation I needed just from dancing with girls and almost hooking up with one a few weeks back, it feels kind of arbitrary to me and I don't see why I shouldn't just get it out of the way now so I can say I have. But then I'm not super pressed about losing it either.

>>76770349
Good luck on quitting video games! As a piece of advice, try to have some hobbies you can immediately try out when you’re quitting a toxic one

It's rainy and it's 2 hours before the gym closes so there will be NO HOES at the gym
WHY EVEN GO, FUCK
wish me luck fellas otherwise I have to eyefuck the twinks :')

>>76768326 (OP)
today's lifts
>bench 3x6 @ 225
>incline DB bench 3x8 @ 75s + DB row @ 110
>incline front raises 3x15
>face pulls 2x20
was feeling pretty run down over the last week so I decided to decrease all my weights for the time being and work my way back up
moved my grip in a little for the bench today and will work on staying more upright for squats tomorrow, deadlift idk wtf to do it just keeps getting worse

is it 1g of protein per POUND of body weight or per KILOGRAM of body weight? I'm 195lb and getting nearly 200 g of protein every day seems excessive. 90 g is much more reasonable.

>>76770884
It's 1.67g per lb.

>>76770884
0.6-0.8g/kg of lean body mass

>>76770884
it's 1 gram of protein per pound of LEAN body mass

>>76768326 (OP)
I love this thread so much it's unreal

> off for months because wife had a daughter
> back at gym
> only fell back about 10kg roughly on each lift

>>76768326 (OP)
>went to thai boxing for the first time last night
>nice eastern euro guy called Igor helped me out with kicks and knees and recommended I watch a few videos
>could tell it annoyed him but he did it anyway
I reckon i'm gonna like this place. I may do nogi as well but i dont know where i'd start.

>>76768692
WAGMI

>>76769741
Avpid SSRIs, check your testo levels first, and go TRT then

>>76770893
>>76770902
>>76771336
>>76770884
It depends. PSMF? 1g-1.2g per lb/LBM

>>76771498
Alliance bjj
G13 bjj
Gracie Barra bjj

>>76770443
Don’t get plastic surgery unless you’re truly hideous. Focus on lifting and reducing body fat first. Honestly seeing a legal prostitute isn’t a bad idea. You’ll be a lot more confident afterwards
t. 28 year old khv

>>76768608
vegeta update - under 200. wagmi

>>76769741
dont do SSRIs. like others said, t levels and all that shit. i know literally no one t hat SSRIs helped.

>>76770822
Our greatest gains come from when nobody is watching. Work hard

This is going to sound fucking autistic but do you just walk into a barber shop and ask for a haircut or call in advance to get a timeslot?
I haven't had my hair cut in no joke 7 years or so and it's starting to get annoying as fuck to me now and I need it cut.
Also nervous about breaking their clippers, it unironically happened last time I got it cut because my hair matte's like crazy with how curly it is

You guys have anger issues?

Currently getting back into fitness since I became a fatass for like the fourth time in my life but I'm barreling towards thirty so I feel even more pressure. At least I know what to do to lose weight but everyone has been commenting about how I'm getting old and how I'm fat but I think its because I'm kinda hot when I'm at a lower bodyfat so I shrug it off but it does kind of hurt since I try my best to be nice. I've been getting my cardio in daily and it is finally helping me feel better unlike before when I'd do cardio I just got physically tired, it helps me get through my day. The hardest part is not having a steady income source, I just get what I can for food and no membership. I have some light weights and a calisthenics tower/Olympic rings so it isn't so terrible. I've lost a few pounds since being consistent for about two weeks, creatine and pre-workout at dangerous levels have pretty much kept me moving. I take probably way too much pre-workout because its the only thing right now getting me active. I'm also really sad right now because a distant relative tried to take advantage of a special needs cousin of ours and I've been trying to bring my family together to little success. I can't seem to get on my feet but I get by.

>>76772126
depends on where you live and how many people go there
but it's best to call
>>76772174
no I fucking don't and don't imply it
;p
I used to get irratioanlly angry at anything and everything but I've learned to control it and direct it towards useful pursuits

>>76772174
>Thats my secret Cap, I am always angry

>>76772174
Not towards other people, but I get really frustrated with myself personally.
I also get frustrated about humanity in general, but never really one person in particular- kinda just mad at the world and the status quo.
I’m pretty sure I’ve got bipolar, though.
It runs in the family, and when I got psych evaluated for ADHD I guess that was also part of the battery and I didn’t quite check enough of the boxes for it.
I also have reaaal bad reactions to certain medications that line up with bipolar, manic episodes brought on by SSRIs.
I was thinking back on it and I’m pretty much always either in a really good mood, or a really bad mood.
Like I can’t stop thinking about how fucked literally everything is, or I’m having an A1 day and am so glad to be me.
At first I figured it was depression or anxiety because the bad moods were so dominant and long-standing, but then I realized I’m literally never “meh”/ just alright.
I kinda think the reason I didn’t qualify on the evaluation was because most of the questions about being in a bad mood were either über-depression bait questions or were like
>”how often do you completely lose your shit at a total stranger?”
>”how many times per week do you go red in the face screaming at someone, wether you know them or not”
>”how often do you throw a tantrum in the grocery store and throw shit because someone looked at you wrong?”
Literally none of it was about being mad at yourself.
Sorry man, I kinda turned this into a blogpost about self loathing issues.
Short answer: yes but probably a little different than yours.

>>76768326 (OP)
Banned for racism again over the weekend. Had a productive weekend.

It's only been 3 days, but I'm really enjoying going to the gym and I actually look forward to it every day! I've only been using the treadmill because I'm too anxious to go to the free weight area just yet, but I'll build up the courage to in time. Right now on the treadmill I'm doing 10% incline, 3 mph, and working towards going for 40 minutes. I'm only at 25 minutes so far, but it really does get easier every day since I could barely do 15 on the first day and 3 mph felt way too fast-- Now it feels too slow! Every day I make myself do 5 minutes more than I did the day before and it feels good to see the progress. I'll keep doing my best.

>tfw my nemesis started lifting and he sucks at it
Hoh-lee I’m am pumped about that, haha.
I don’t know if any of you guys have an irl nemesis, but I do and I hate that motherfucker like nobody’s business.
It’s a beef that goes back to high school, and we still live in the same town and have some of the same friend circles, so we run into each other every once in a while.
I’ve tried to squash it a few times but god damn we both just hate each other so much, it’s honestly pointless lmao
It doesn’t help that we’re both capable of being total pieces of garbage.
I know it’s not healthy and honestly I hadn’t thought about it in a while, but I ran into a friend that I hadn’t seen in like a decade and we hung out for a while.
It was awesome, I was elated to catch up with the dude.
I missed that motherfucker.
He mentioned that I’m looking jacked as fuck compared to high school, and I told him I’d been lifting.
He then said that he’d gone to the gym a while back, with said nemesis, who is apparently “very into fitness nowadays, it’s like his new thing.”
It makes sense because we both went through a pretty gnarly alcoholism phase and got a little out of shape in our mid twenties.
I asked what lifts they were doing, and oh my fucking god it’s just dyel central dicking around with sub 20lb dumbbells, no bench, no barbell anything.
It’s such a petty thing, but that made me so happy that that dude is out there, sucking at lifting.
Probably not eating right either.
I know for a fact he will be getting mogged like fuck if we run into each other again, and honestly it’s been fantastic lifting motivation.
It will be all the more better because he’ll likely be expecting to mog me, thinking I’ll still be an out of shape alcoholic.
Am I petty? Yes.
Is it propelling me towards even better gains? Absolutely.
I’m only at 1pl8 reps but this will get me to 2pl8 in no time, I can feel it.

>>76772596
I don’t have social media anything- I feel like that’s somewhat relevant to this for whatever reason.
The mogging will happen in person, and it will be an unprecedented surprise.

>>76770857
You might be overtraining. Are you giving yourself sufficient rest?

>>76772691
not that anon but because of my schedule I’ve been going for either four or five days in a row, alternating workouts.
The workouts focus on different muscle groups, but it’s the same two just abab or ababa- if you have any info on overtraining I’d appreciate any links or general wisdom.
I just want to make the most of eating this god damned much and the weird schedule I keep to even be able to go to the gym.
My lifts don’t seem to be suffering too badly, but I’d like to know what to look out for.
Sometimes I am still a bit sore even though it’s been 48 hours since doing whatever workout I’m doing.
I’m in it for gains as opposed to prioritizing strength alone, if that matters.

>>76771450
Welcome back! You’ll be back before you know it!

By the help of the saints! let us have mercy.. from our lord and savior .. even tho we are unworthy sinners ....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BAB_LIVYkmk&list=RDmEeBlVEoA4w&index=2

S/O to my burgers munchers brooks over the sea , hope you'll have Wonderfull week and get those overpriced coffees in the big apple for me :D

>>76771537
WAGMI

>>76772596
>He has a nemesis in his fucking 30s
Small town hick shit or ghetto nigger coonery.
Stop it.

>>76768608
>gay woman-like behavior
>tranime pic
>reddit spacing

>>76773374
Don't forget:
>DBZ, so most definitely brown

>>76772189
There's a lot going on right now. First articulate what you want to achieve. Then figure out what short term (weekly or monthly) tasks you can do to position yourself for success. It's good that you're already getting back in shape without a membership. Better days will arrive soon

>>76772174
I've got lot's of self hate if that counts.

I've had a cold and lower back pain for most of the previous week so I did not have much progress in anything. No lifting, no going out with friends, no time on hobbies.
But this one will be different.

>>76772553
I’m glad you’re enjoying going to the gym! Go to the free weight section soon. There are plenty of good guides on easy lifts. You’re already making a lot of progress, soon you’ll be lifting heavy. Great job!

>>76773359
I live in a very big city, but it feels small if you grew up here.
I think everywhere does, honestly.
It’s not some kind of obsession, I honestly forget about it until we run into each other.
Just a fun way to refer to the fact that we hate each other’s guts, is all.
Yes, we are a little old for this shit (hence me trying to bury the hatchet multiple times), the guy’s just that much of an asshole though lmao
I just run into him every once in a while and we don’t like each other, can’t a guy have a nemesis?

>>76774567
>Alcoholic is an out of shape, sub 2 pl8 dickhead
I guarantee your nemesis isn't the only person who dislikes you. Kids, coworkers, """friends""". Get your shit together. Do not @ me if you are sub 5'11".

Just finished yet another interview.
This one went decent. I've learned from my previous mistakes and:
-was calmer
-wrote things down as they were explained to me
-asked questions
and they'll get back to me in 1 to 1.5 weeks so yeah, I'm actually looking forward to it.

>>76774681
Holy fucking projection, mane.
You might as well be talking to a mirror while wearing your two inch lifts.

>>76774726
Hell yeah, anon!
Grats. I don’t know that I’ve seen your posts in particular, but interviews are just vibe checks and I love them.
They put the majority of people out of their comfort zones, but once you get used to it they can be a breeze.
Hopefully that one was your last one for a while, but even if that isn’t the case you’ve proven to be a dynamic human bean, capable of growth and change.
Just think about how you’ve grown since your first post about perhaps not doing so well during one.
Try to hang on to the feeling that thought gives you and remember it when you’re having moments of self doubt or anxiety.
WAGMI

>>76772553
Hell yeah, anon.
Loving this for you, and if I have any advice for someone just starting out on their journey it’d be: consistency is more important than intensity.
It is fantastic that you’re able to do more and more each day, but there will inevitably be days that you face obstacles, and one must remember that going for a half workout is always better than not going at all.
If you’re ever seriously “not feeling it,” get yourself down there and just walk through the doors, doesn’t matter if you only do one exercise and leave.
Although it may not seem it, working out is not the hard part- consistency is.
Godspeed meng, you’re doing the thing.

>>76768326 (OP)
working overtime again, but lifting helps save the day.

>>76772553
Also- I had a gym membership for like a year before I did anything with free weights (only machines) and I regret it so much.
I was always afraid of them because I had a buddy that fucked his back up working out in high school and I would always hear him complain about it.
I absolutely love them now and have been taking so much satisfaction in the growth I’ve been achieving with compound lifts.
YouTube videos are your best pal, I’ve found that there are good channels out there but personally am wary of ones that put out a crazy amount of content.
If one does, they usually have okay/good videos early on when they’re covering the basics, but then shit goes downhill when they’ve run out of good content and have to keep churning shit out.
Do not harbor any shame in practicing stuff with just the bar until you’re 100% confident in your form.
Practice good form, make sure you’re engaging the proper muscles, know your limits, and all that jazz. WAGMI.

>>76775026
Sometimes working out is the only thing I do all day that I feel good about myself for doing.
But that’s okay, because I’ve done at least one thing that I can be proud of, and I’m growing.
When you’re bogged down like fuck from working like that, at least you can take solace in the notion that you’re not 100% complacent/stagnating.
I’m proud of you for that, too anon.

>>76775037
thank, anon.

>>76772596
There’s nothing wrong with being petty. Use this as motivation to reach new heights. I wonder what percentage of my high school classmates are obese now
t. Class of 2016

>>76774980
nice post, thank you
I've got another interview tomorrow
I'll keep showing up until I get hired

>>76773224
I’ll do my best and celebrate with discount Halloween candy on Saturday :D WAGMI

>>76774957
No. It's because I've met too many fuckers like you IRL. Drama causing faggots for the most petty reasons who never stopped acting like a dumb dickhead teen.

>>76775026
Gay faggot Reddit image. Go back and stay there.

>>76775433
>getting this pissy over a random image that was downloaded on google image
ease yourself there, nigger.

>>76773959
Feel better soon fren. Don’t rush yourself. There’s no point in getting back into lifting just to hurt yourself again. Do you have any hobbies you can do when you aren’t feeling well? In any case, you’ll be back before you know it

>>76774726
Good luck anon! And good job learning from your mistakes, it's one of the most important skills to have.

I went to the gym today after a 4-day weekend where I had all sorts of junk food and the first thing my trainer said to me is "you look fat"

On Wednesdays I was working at my second job until today, when my boss told me she was bankrupt and unable to pay me anymore. It wasn't that bad cause I foresaw a bad end to this job, it was fucked from very early on and at this point I doubted we were going to see it to the end.
So I'm relieved in a way. For one, I don't have to deal with the uncertainty anymore and the whims of an abusive client. Also, all the loss goes to my boss. If she pays what she owes me, which aint much anyways, I'm unscathed from that mess. I wanted to see it to the end tho but at the dame time it's nice to have free time again, working two jobs is exhausting, now idk what to do with two entire free days this week.
But I love my job and hate that it came to an end like that. My boss blundered hard against an extreme bully of a client who bankrupted her because she was unable to take control of the situation, when it was not a hard job to begin with. It's a tough world for weak people and she was too soft and naive.

>>76775921
Hope that gives you motivation to not relapse next weekend

>>76773374
>>76773403
guess again

>>76775429
man you are dumb as fuck if you’re calling this anon a cunt. look at these posts and their grammar/word choice/general tone or whatever
not to mention the timing of the posts
>>76774567
nemesis talk anon
>>76774980
same anon
>>76775014
same anon
>>76775037
it is the same person you’re calling a drama seeking cunt doing nothing but being kind and encouraging to anons in this thread
you are the drama seeking cunt
>as showcased in every single post that you have made in this thread that can be identified by similar means
fuck you you angry little bitch

>>76776437
Get rekt by detective anon, pretty sure he’s right.
>>76774957
obligatory
>kek
Because that was satisfying to read after that entire saga. You seem insufferable.

>>76776049
I'm sorry about your job. Hopefully you and your boss can land on your feet. There are some awful people out there. It's yet another reason to be strong

I got it
I FUCKING GOT IT

Just had a phone call and basically I will start the job on november 12th

>>76774980
>>76775832
thanks for the good lucks and encouragment from you two

and other anons who responded to my posts in the past and the whole thread

Yes

>>76777877
Let’s go! Congrats anon

Lost my 27 day no fap session. Those new photos of Sydney Sweeney just did it for me. Anyways. I'm still up for NNN.

>>76777877
Checked and congrats! You better thrive in this job!

My life is still kind of a mess if I´m going to be honest. Addictions and a persistent problem of just not knowing what the fuck I want to do with my life still have a hold on me and I've lately been neglecting my exercise routine. However I have been steadily losing weight. 13 Kilo´s down from a starting point of 106 kg (lenght is 186).

But the thing is, these last couple of kilo's lost have finally made it so I get micromired. Nothing spectacular, but I've noticed that men and women both seem to like me a lot more then they used to and the occasional glance from pretty women that just feels different to how they used to look at me and holy fucking shit is it a good feeling. Nothing so far has had a more moralizing effect than this.

Is the whole shtick of not lifting and exercising for women just a fucking psyop? Because damn if this isn't the primariy reason why I've decided to pick up the gym again.

>>76778427
You’re strong if you can go 27 days. Pick yourself up and try again. You can do it

I've been going to the gym for 2 months and today someone had to rush to help me rack the bench press bar. I think I could've made it but I was really struggling.

Is that embarassing or does it happen to everyone? I thanked him and continued.

>>76779243
>Is that embarassing or does it happen to everyone?
I think it's happened to many, if not most people at one point. It is embarrassing, but not the end of the world. Just in case, never bench with clamps on and learn how to do the "roll of shame".

>>76779305
Oh I always put the clamps on.

>>76778723
So you’re finding success in one area of your life. If you’re that disciplined, you can definitely apply yourself to other areas. Congrats on being mired. Different people lift for different reasons. It’s good that you’ve found a source of motivation

There's like 4 girls smiling at me at the climbing gym and 2 of them are with their boyfriends. What the fuck is going on

>>76776437
Detective anon you were right, those are also my posts.
Good werk there.
That anon was indeed being a salty little bitch to me lmao
>>76777877
Fuck yeah, homie.
Great to hear it.
Sometimes I think about how other people have an image/perception of us that is built exclusively off of the interactions we’ve shared, thus can have a VASTLY different idea of who we are compared to ourselves.
For me, this is a good thing because I’m near constantly being hard on myself and carry around all this self-critique with me.
Just years and years of it, compiled into what I think of myself, and I feel like many on this board may feel similarly.
When you enter a new job, it’s like any social situation- you get a chance to express your best qualities and give others an image of yourself that you can be proud of.
You’ve got a fresh canvas, homie.
When you’re this hard on yourself, nobody doubts you more than you do.
These people like you enough to have given you a chance, go forward and prove both them and yourself right by acting as though you deserve it.
Be diligent, display competence, and be always ready to learn.
Never give anyone a reason to doubt your tenacity.
Being a hard worker goes a lot further than being hyper-intelligent like 95% of the time.
Nobody expects you to know how to do everything day one, just try your best to ensure nobody has to tell or show you how to do something more than once.
You’ve got this.
WAGMI m8

>>76779308
Yeah, my logic is that it's best to have a spotter, then the roll of shame, and as a last resort not using clamps lets you tip the bar in one direction dropping all the plates on the floor. Sometimes you won't have someone around who can lift the bar off of you.

>>76779761
They probably want a threesome with their boyfriend, it’s only weird if you make it weird.

>>76779806
I hate the roll of shame so much, not even the act really, just that a shit ton of weight rolls down my abs and überisolates the last little bit of stomach chub that I’ve been battling with for years into one little bulbous roll and I have to stare at it all the while processing my failure.
I know our bodies aren’t like tubes of toothpaste that and the chub is already there, but it’s like someone is squeezing it for me.
So shameful.

>>76777974
>>76778627
thank you, I will do my best I guess

>>76778723
>(lenght is 186).
which esl country talks like this? I don't think I've seen this before
btw kilos doesn't need an apostrophe
>Is the whole shtick of not lifting and exercising for women just a fucking psyop?
it's a bit more complex
just lifting will not get you women if you're autistic and/or never talk to them
and also you should work out for the mental, physical and psychological benefits
I think if your motivation for training is women and you end up not getting any then you might be dissuaded from lifting

>>76779761
they want your dick
maybe

>>76779243
It happens to everyone. I'm pretty shy but even I try to lift with a spotter

>>76779904
I am fortunate enough not to have that issue, but it really hurts to do. It dips into my stomach since I tend to lift on an empty stomach and hurts to roll over my hips onto my legs, especially once it reaches my cock and balls.

I've been doing coke, heroin, meth, weed and booze a lot recently. I think it's time to get clean but I'm having difficulties. I'm about to ride gandalf's white stallion.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_ds5S-T9rM

>>76781014
Threw it away. I smoked some weed but that's okay. I think I'll stay cali sober this time.

>>76781014
Quit while you still can. You’re only going to fall harder into that hole

How to learn to not give a fuck?

>>76771804
My goal is to get lean first but I will most likely need the gyno tissue removed if I want peak aesthetic form, and it's something I've been wanting for years now. I've had a few slipups recently though since I noticed I've been hungrier recently and so I need to be careful that I don't get lax with 'refeed' days.

I isntalled tinder and this local thai dating app and have seemingly gotten some minor attention. I wonder sometimes if I'm just ugly, but I know it's better not to dwell on that concept. Maybe if I'm lucky, I'll get some action from a local girl. Fingers crossed, but if not, I'll keep chipping away at my other goals.

>>76781611
>pic very related

>>76781714
>me imagining this pepe when my boss asks for unpaid overtime.

>>76779991
>which esl country talks like this?
Dutch. And here I thought we were supposed to be proficient in English
>it's a bit more complex
Yeah, I figured. Still though I find it odd how many internet figures and forums talk about not lifting for women. I aint putting pussy on a pedestal or some shit like that but the general vibe I feel from the women around me has improved so much. I'm significantly less shy and far more willing to engage with people. Are these people talking about not lifting for women just coping uggos? Why emphasize it so much all the time? Perhaps I just hung out in bad social media circles.

>>76779463
>If you’re that disciplined, you can definitely apply yourself to other areas
Yeah starting to notice this as well. The fitter I get the easier it has become to do other shit.

>>76781611
I've struggling with that myself for a long time now. Ironically I find that the best way is to care much, much more about something other than what you're trying to disregard. Fixate on something meaningful that overshadows all the things that bother you.

>>76781764
So, just focus on gains?

>>76781611
I'm not really good at this, but moreso than not caring, you should focus on maintain a general positive demeanor. sigma lone wolf stoic shit is genuinely fake and only applies to people with millions of dollars or have a mental disorder.
it's like this:
are you sad over a girl? find a new girl
are you sad because you're bored? pick up a craft
no money? study for certs or spend your time looking for new jobs
there is always a problem-solution matrix you can find.

>>76781795
More like sad at trying my best and working overtime on holiday and weekend, but everyone thinks I am a lazy bum and no appreciation for it.

Still remember that hug from my teacher years ago desu.

>>76781780
If that's how it is for you, and you find that to be enough, then yeah, I guess. Might be easier to focus on the reason you want gains though

>>76781868
>Might be easier to focus on the reason you want gains though
One of the few things in life that I am proud of.

>>76768326 (OP)
need to quit smoking and drinking so much. I look good, but I have slight love handles left and I know they're 100% from alcohol because I eat pretty damn clean and hit the gym 4 days a week.
been chirpin a cutie from hinge. doubt that I'll see her for Halloween cuz she hasn't moved to the area yet but it's good to have someone's attention again. really wish I had someone's back to blow out in a scream mask tn lol

>>76781802
damn what line of work are you in? idk how old you are, but maybe a career change would be worth it if you're working hard and not getting paid.

>>76781014
Not endorsing those choices or anything but always stoked to see Pat out in the wild like this.

>>76781988
I am building back up plan for one right now desu.
Just gonna take a year for it to pay off.

>>76782003
just don't give up. i've been in a life rebuild before. it's all about keeping the course. wagmi

>>76782008
aye thank, anon.

>>76781014
what is it like to work out on all of that shit?

not planning on doing coke but, not gonna lie, i am a bit curious about what it's like to workout on coke.

>>76781611
Be so fit and disciplined that you subconsciously understand you could survive almost anything. Then you won't care because you naturally don't care about anything that doesn't threaten you.

>>76781718
Do it but just don’t get emotional about it. Keep on fantasizing about the success you will obtain

Almost jerk off.
Thank God I don't.
I have to battle this same fucking boss for over 6 years. Can't get after it

Found out through a DNA test that I'm genetically built to make it, so I will!!!

>>76781975
Make quitting those vices your priority. They’re the deciding factor in your reaching your goal

>>76781795
>study for certs
any tips on which ones to go for or where to find worthwhile ones?

>>76782239
Stay strong bro

>>76782098
I don't anymore. I collapsed. Time to start from zero again.
>>76782000
Based Pat enthusiast.

>>76782749
It's never too late to start over. Start over from here and don't repeat your mistakes

>>76782922
Thankfully I'm not withdrawing that hard, some opioid withdrawal but the worst one was the meth crash. At least, for me, weed doesn't seem to spur other drugs but alcohol and stress does. I use stims because of college but it got out of hand and I just stayed at home doing speedballs. I started using morphine from leftover packets when my mom died, that was during covid after a bad breakup with someone I really cared about. I just wanted to feel her warmth again so I took morphine a few times a week. Then I stopped for a while and recently started using heroin again because I feel lonely. It's time to start working out again, I'm only 29. It's not too late to get in shape even if I'm alone for the rest of my life.

>>76782323
>always thought I was naturally stronger
>it turns out that I am below average and everyone around me is just a fucking skeleton.

>>76782323
You have the right attitude. You need to believe in yourself through your grit and effort. YGMI

Monthly weigh in: 252 pounds
I have lost 30 pounds since I started around the end of June (first weigh in on 1 Jul.)

I've been going to the gym for 2 months
I go every morning Monday to Friday 5 times a week

on Thursday the gym owner and my trainer said they were impressed that I've been keeping up and not skipping the gym
on Friday I forgot to charge my phone and overslept. didn't go.

>>76784424
I've also started recently but not as long as you. It's a little addicting, I've had to force myself to take a rest day today. I hope you don't beat yourself up over missing a day, you've been so consistent!

>>76784231
Congrats on your loss! Keep up the hard work

>>76768326 (OP)
Shit I really thought it was Monday again..uh Halloween was pretty fun.

>>76783069
You need serious help. But you're correct. You're young, you still have a future

How do you get over the resentment of people only liking you after you got fit?

>>76785640
You´ll have to except it, anon. Fit and healthy people are just generally more well liked people than fatties, it´s just a fact. Also realize that you yourself have in all likelihood just become more pleasant to be around. Being ignored or disliked because your a fatass goes both ways. Trust me, you´ve become a far more tolerable person than you used to be, and other people in kind reward you by being more likeable to you.

>>76782434
chatgpt "what are the best certs in my field"

>>76784424
Don't beat yourself, you're doing insanely well. If you're really that upset about missing a session, go tomorrow

>>76785524
I'm sober today and feel great! A little agitated today because of the UK stabbing and I've texted my old friend who moved there to see if he's okay but he hasn't responded yet. He travels through that area and he has a new family and I'm scared. Yes, I do need help. I'm mad as a hatter.

>>76787119
Also cleaning my room. Time to turn this crack house into a crack home.

>>76787119
>UK stabbing

Which one, there's a stabbing every couple of days there now.

>>76787184
The train one that just happened in Cambridgeshire.

>>76787192
Andrew not take being stripped of his royal status well?

>>76787236
Kek

got a referral for a psychiatrist but I’m just not gonna go threw with it, I’ll let myself rot and just suffer. It’s too late. Thanks for reading.

Hope everyone's all right

>>76787373
No salary for this month again.
My employeer company is struggling.

Waking up every day is fun because I get to go to the gym and make myself a little better than I was the day before. Daylight savings is over so I won't be going when it's dark out anymore, either. Feels great! Today will be another good day

>november
>living somewhat up north
>max 9hrs of sunlight a day
I miss this little guy like you wouldn’t believe. I’ve been sitting here with the windows open, just soaking in the sun for about an hour now, as it seems like the sun is beaming through the clouds for the first time in weeks. I can’t even do that throughout the work week. It’s going to be months of
>commuting in the dark in the morning
>being inside in the office when the sun is out
>commuting in the dark in the evening
Any anons here also have their mood and energy being so dependent on direct sunlight? I’ve been in the sun for about an hour now and feel so charged up man…

>>76787845
make sure to take your vitamin d supplements, friend

>>76785640
Use the anger to lift harder. It isn't right that people judge you before they hear your thoughts just by looking at you, because these two things aren't related, at least in theory. But is it right to look bad when you could fix that, within the limits of what is possible for your unique situation? Is it right to stay ignorant when you don't have to be? To me these questions have the same answer.

>>76781764
This dude knows

>>76784424
Have you gone today anon? The important thing is not to maintain the routine at all costs, but to make sure you keep the momentum going. As long as you did go or will go today you're good. If you're physically incapable of going then find the closest day to now.

I accidentally weighted myself yesterday to find out I lost 4 or 5 kg. It's interesting, I thought my belly was growing bigger. Turns out it's not. Lol. I'll keep going to work by foot as often as I can. 1h a day seems to make wonders.

>>76787369
Unless you're truly mentally ill (schizophrenia), you don't need to see one. Focus on improving yourself

>>76785640
I don't have such a feeling

I'm gonna continue to spam chest to build up these titties to look good + fill out a bralette

>>76787373
Life is hard but I have to believe that I’ll survive this ordeal. This too shall pass

>>76787119
>>76787184
When did conservatives become hysterical fucking women, or has it always been this way? I'm as chuddie as they get, but walking around scared of black people is beyond pathetic.

>>76787502
That sucks. If they’re not paying you, you should consider getting a different job

>>76787892
I’ll go out and buy em after work tomorrow, fren

>dad has been morbidly obese my whole life
>finally starts working out with me this summer
>have to start going to the gym in the evening instead of the morning but willing to because it's my dad
>fast forward to now
>he went to the doctor recently and he's down 41lbs since we started working out
>mfw
He's noticeably slimer and getting stronger as well. Just need to help him get his protein intake

>>76788889
>I'm as chuddie as they get
You may as well have posted "how do you do fellow right wingers". Fuck off back to plebbit

>>76768326 (OP)
I saw my fumo /fit/ post from a year ago randomly scrolling on instagram. Shit's surreal!

>>76789538
Good joj you're a memelord

>>76787776
That's the right spirit! Every day we have something to look forward to and work towards! Eventually we'll make it :)

>>76787845
same here. my energy levels are so tied to sunlight it is insane. I need to move to Florida or some shit.

>>76788318
Congrats on your weight loss! Little changes really do add up if you do them consistently

>>76768326 (OP)
my brother in law (10 years older than me) locked in and got in shape for his kids. if that nigga can do it so can i.

>>76768326 (OP)
define "make it." hard mode: you can't just fall back on milhouse'ing the american dream while going "lalalala."

>>76788570
Good luck anonette! That's an admirable goal

I deleted all my social media. All it did was make me angry and feel like shit. I would only occasionally see something funny or positive.

>>76768326 (OP)
>What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve?
-I plan to work out from monday to friday, since i've stopped doing it regularly in february for family reasons(uncle had a stroke and i had to help taking care of him)
-take care of my plants
-Maybe buy some shirts since I lost a lot of weight and im still using shirts that are way bigger than I am right now, last week bought some jeans, "skinny" which i've never used before so im kind of nervous thinking i'll look bad, but in photos I look fine with them

>>76790754
if you make it, you will know

>>76788993
I am, but I am just finishing some stuffs, so they can easily open up again later on.

I WILL SUCCEED IN THIS JOB
I WILL STUDY HARD
I WILL PASS MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM THIS TIME

Work is going decently. I got a lot done last week but I wish I could have gotten more finished. I’ll work hard this week so that I can position myself for success. At least I’m doing much better than last filing. A couple of coworkers have praised me for my time management.

I’ve completed all of my CFA content. Now I need to study and practice for the next 3 months. The peak is in sight, I can almost see it. I’ve undergone so much and faced so many challenges. I’m ready to finish my journey. The path ahead is difficult but I must face it with confidence. This time I’m passing.

Never forget the reason why you started your journey. No matter how uncertain the path seems, strive forward! WAGMI!

>>76789447
You’re a great son. Your dad is really lucky to have you in his life. I hope you’ve also made progress

>>76768326 (OP)
Posting this because this is the only reliable improvement based source I have.


My aunt is dying. She’s in remission, so technically she’s not dying. Hopefully she gets past that 5 year mark. Luekemia.
I haven’t seen her since I was 19 when my grandpa passed. I haven’t felt close to her since I was maybe 5. My whole family is broken. We did stuff on holidays until I was about 14. My parents split when I was 7 and family stuff started to die off after that. Full blown kind of stopped celebrating holidays over time.
My aunt wants family to get together this year for thanksgiving. I haven’t even done thanksgiving either my parents or sister since I was like 17. It’s just weird to me, extremely uncomfortable and gives me nasty anxiety. My parents started doing holidays again in my 20s with my sister and her husband. I don’t go.
I feel like I’m being guilted into showing up as if the above never happened. It ain’t my fault. I was a kid. My cousins, her own children aren’t going. Their excuse is they moved to new states but one is close with a good job and the other is far with an amazing job. Both could easily take a few days off fly home.
Furthermore my aunt always made me uncomfortable
>talked about my cousins jacking off
Called one a “whoopsies” because he’d apparently let that shit spray and not clean up. I didn’t need to know that and it’s forever burned into my mind. She said that like 15 years ago
>called something her golden dildo
Like I don’t need that imagery in my mind
I don’t know what to do. I feel bad, I feel like I’m being guilted. But would just leave me in a horrible anxious for days mood after assuming I don’t just have a full blown panic attack and leave within an hour.


I’m not even comfortable around my immediate family and had to take propanolol to be there for my sister announcing her pregnancy. They all make me uncomfortable

Damn this board is dead now. I remember when these threads would only last the Monday they were made, maybe into Tuesday if it was a slow day.

>>76792368
A guy on /int/ posted this thread yesterday about how the website in general has been declining a bit in general, so I would presume it's not board specific.

I am still a 24 year old virgin traveling the world.

I randomly matched with a hooker the other night and impulsively asked her to come over. I didn't even really get aroused or into it and in the end, because it was sonplastic and fake feeling when she initiated, I just sent her back after paying. She wasn't even hot. At first I thought that that was an experience teaching me that I'm a good guy at heart and not the le toxic type.

But them I thought to myself, wtf how the fuck did I get from being a cocksure full of himself young kid to a quote unquote, "SORRY ASS NIGGA" in today's time and somehow get so bad that I was about to trade my self respect to stick it in a dumb dirty disgusting ass where that gave me about as much of the attention and treatment as I should be getting from intercourse as discord trannies showing restraint in not grooming kids (impossible, zilch). Like how the fuck did I think this was acceptable, to try and lose my v card in some sorry ass way to some yucky 74 iq jungle monkey whore that couldn't hide her BO and bad hygiene with perfume. This shit is unacceptable, I repeat, unacceptable.

I don't know if it can be an overnight change like at the drop of a hat, but I am done saying yes to all the bullshit women do and say, my biggest problem was bending the knee to my cunt azz effectively single mother because the dumb bitch got stuck with a "sorry azz nigga" and took out her misansry on me, and not emulating the boys at school who wouldn't give af about the bureaucratic kikery of the edusoyification system. That's not education, it's indoctrination. Fuck that, I'm saying no to bitches, fuck ever bending the knee to some stupid fucking bitch. They are not my superiors for me to bend the knee or cave, in all honesty, a bitch isn't even my equal nor can a bitch ever hope to be.

>>76792440
>24 year old virgin
>thinks a filthy prostitute is beneath him lololol

>>76792440
Next time, mdma or not, I get my friend the beer he asked instead of humoring a dumb bitch who's oofy doofy sucker bf wasn't engaging her properly. Fuck that. And fuck spending money on these hoes man, never again, even I coped by saying I did it minimally, but these bitches resided rent free up top and mind space is more valuable than any faggot fake fucking bank notes, indubitably.

Life will look up for me because life is a bitch and I'm not just gonna LET a bitch best me, bitch has to work for it. And even then, fuck it, I'll not let a bitch get comfortable either, I'll best anything because this is my movie I'm watching and living, not some bitch's. Godspeed to you guys, I hope all of us manage to grow the backbones we need to face the bitchiness of life

>>76792365
You sound like me. My family has the same dynamic. Personally, I wouldn't go. You've got to prioritize your own sanity because no one else will/can do that for you

>>76792440
>blogposting autistic retard
>thinks he learned something
>he did not
Incels gonna incel no matter what country they're in, I suppose.

>>76792440
>>76792447
Idk, you kinda do sound like a sorry ass nigga. Your posts exude a very pathetic, offputting energy. The type of energy that makes people cross the street to avoid you, like spotting a homeless man tweaking on the corner. She was right, unfortunately

>>76792461
I'm about to shower and go to bed before I arise early morning to go lift but I'm gonna pushback on this specific post by both doubling down on what I said and elaborating further since you seem more open to discourse than the other two replies so I think you're more deserving to be dignified with a response.

I don't disagree that the bitch thought I was pathetic or an easy person to play, but this new attitude, this long overdue overcorrection you could say, was a long time coming. In fact, my attitude around her was more of a simp type attitude, even just hiring a hooker leans on the fine line between being brazen enough to go for what you want, vs being a whimpering puppy begging for her to pretend to love you. So she was right, but that was yesterday. Today and tomorrow are new days, days that I placed value onto for myself rather than just bending the knee to anyone and everyone, so I will sit here and type this short paragraph to explain my rationale because I do think it deserves justification.

I might be a "sorry ass nigga" as is, but I'll be damned if I don't transform into the opposite, much less get demoralized by a basket weaving interracial porn forum. No, no, along with saying no to the bullshit of others, I'm gonna say no to the ideologies and tight rigid structures we try to contain ourselves in based on socially alienated social discourse.

I hope the best for you too if you're someone worth their salt.

>>76792472
You're a really strange guy, but you know what? I'm rooting for you

Finally got under 200 pounds. At least for three days last week, but just seeing it on the scale again, MAN what a great fucking feeling. the weight loss has been averaging out to a pound a week, but if i can even just hold the line at sub 200 until the new year that's a win, but 195 is the goal.
some more movement on the job front, have some meetings set up with a large company. thinking i might just start focusing on getting my PMP, which might be useless but its at least useless across industries. signed up for more consulting sites. really just trying to find every way possible to make money in case i get shitcanned prematurely.
goal for the month is to have the first version of the meal prep guide together. i remembered the novel writing month challenge so i want to replicate that. also building out an expense tracker for me and wifey, which is a fun side project.
i guess also no jackin it this month. going to re-test spermy boyz a month from now, which is 90 days after i started taking the supplements.

>>76792461
He speaks like a woman living in a fantasy world or something if that makes sense.

>>76792403
The website as a whole is declining, but I’ve noticed /fit/ has become significantly slower than much more rapidly than other boards.
I used to post on /fa/ so I’ve seen this exact same thing happen once before. People realize there’s more attention to be had from posting on social media, so the attention seekers leave first. This creates a vacuum that gets filled up with shitposts and bait, which eventually causes the people who wanted discussion threads to leave to Discord.
Modern lifting culture has become extremely influencer centric and that’s what’s causing the attention seekers to leave /fit/.

>>76768326 (OP)
My monday started like shit bros
My 18 year old cat had to go to emergency vet room
I think his health deteriorated rapidly from what I've been told
I think it's time to put him down so he wont suffer

>>76792574
It's a hard decision to put down a pet, but you're doing them a favor by ending their suffering. It's never easy to do.

This week's goals:

FITNESS
>Bench 130 3x5
>Squat 150 3x5
>OHP 90 3x5

PERSONAL
>No weed 4 days this week
>Interact with strangers 4 days this week
>Leave the house every day and be around people, even if just to walk around a store for a bit
>DO NOT LOOK AT PORN OR MASTURBATE AT ALL THIS WEEK

FINANCIAL
>Buy $2.5K in equities
>Make extra mortgage payment of $2.5K
>Pay off wife's auto loan (only $1200 left)

Let's have a week fellas

>>76792607
You can do it!

>>76792622
Thanks. Already did no weed yesterday and got out of the house. 3 more days of that. I have a plan on getting out of the house too. Seems so dumb but working remote has fucked my social skills to some extent so I have to consciously make an effort to get out and around people every day haha.

Made the financial allocations today, payment for mortgage and loan are done and should post tomorrow.

Chest day today, 130 should be pretty easy desu I am just ramping back up after starting a new routine a bit lower than where I left off.

No porn is hard working from home desu. My wife leaves in the AM and I am home by myself from like 8 - 5. Work isn't "on" 100% of the time so it is so easy to glance at porn or rub one out. It's embarrassing, but I'm trying to be honest with myself about it being a problem. I think it feeds my social anxiety too, not consciously about the shame/guilt, but definitely subconsciously it feels gross. I actually stopped it all last Wednesday and haven't had any issues but I've been busy and distracted. I'll get through it, nbd. Will try to keep this up for all of November at least, but it's a one day at a time thing.

>>76788189
I did go today anon.

I did low weight high rep squats. Heart rate was 175 at the end.

>>76790736
If that loser can do, you definitely can! Use him as motivation to succeed!

>>76790866
That’s the right choice. If people truly care about you or vice versa, you’ll stay in touch. Social media is a drug

>>76776383
Fat, sweaty brown hands

>took a week off after being consistent for 2 months
>Skipping monday already

It's over for me bros

>>76792936
Go tomorrow or else.

>>76792959
I will, I promise.

>>76791311
You’re a good family member for helping your uncle out! Work hard so you can rock some smaller shirts

>>76792365
you clearly don't want to go and have no reason for going so don't go
and quit being scared of your family
don't let the fear of what they might think of you stop you from doing well in life
>>76792979
don't promise, just go

>>76792365
Honestly I’d go but keep your distance. She’s going to die soon, it’s better to end on positive terms

>>76792515
Congrats on hitting that goal, Snorlax! Share that meal prep guide with us when it’s complete

>>76792642
Think of your wife whenever you want to fap. Would she be happy knowing that you’re fantasizing about other women?

My job is killing me. I work 55+ hours a week, juggling work and clients across literally half the world's time zones.
Everyone tells me how I'm due for a promotion next year following the annual review stuff next month. But this shit ass economy has every retarded Indian with fake credentials taking any chance I have at going away.
It's killing my soul, my body, and draining my life. But I still persist. Tbh, I'm probably going to turn down the promotion purely out of spite.

>>76792531
Good desu.

>>76792574
Remind yourself that you gave kitty the best life possible. Kitty loved you its entire life.

>>76792936
You need to start going to the gym again. Go tomorrow or you'll relapse even harder

Alright bros I've decided to get a medical degree. It's gonna take 8 years and I'll be nearly 40 but becoming a doctor I can just prescribe myself roids for me and my frens. wagmi

>>76793454
Hang in there fren. The modern workforce truly sucks. If you truly hate what your life has turned into, then look for something with a better work life balance. This economy is shit, but if you have the credentials and connections, you can find something

>>76793788
I can't tell if you're serious, but good luck! The world needs more doctors. Whatever the result is, you'll turn 40 regardless. WAGMI

>job of 8 years suddenly decides to start micro-managing, thus killing the only comfy aspect about the job
Fuck this, I'm going to hand my notice in at the end of the year. I have no idea what I will do next but I'm single and 32 and need a change in my life

>>76769806
I experienced similar things for a very long time in my life, we are talking 36 years and I'm now 38. The source of all that psychic stress was living in inauthentic life, pursuing goals that I did not give a fuck about, working a job I hated, married to a wife who was a cunt, staying in touch with my family who are a bunch of pieces of shit. I burned my entire life down. Quit my job and left with no benefits after 18 years. Divorced my wife, lost everything. Disowned my family. Disconnected from all my friends. I'm about to move to a new city with absolutely nothing to start school to be a massage therapist, I have no friends, and I'm single. I have never been happier or less stressed in my life. I went out to enroll in the school last week, it's about a 3-hour drive, I got there hungry, went to a Diner, and have a date with the waitress next week after I move into my apartment. I had to take ownership of my life and make some honest assessments about what was making me happy and what was just filling time. It turns out I already had all the answers about what I needed to do, I was just being a pussy about doing it because nobody would understand. Everyone called me crazy, everyone is still calling me crazy, my family is still actively trying to get me committed because they don't understand the decisions I'm making. But I went from being on the borderline of having a stutter I had so much social anxiety, and in one year of living a completely unhinged life and figuring out the direction I should be going, I am the person I always wanted to be. At least I'm going in the direction of becoming the person I always wanted to be, we aren't there yet

>>76792979
Well?

>>76794887
You’re still young, you have time to figure your life out. Focus on what you’ve learned from this job. You definitely have some transferable skills

>>76794277
I have the qualifications, not the credentials. Basically I've been thrust into one position of authority after another, and picking up slack for executives that jump ship or get canned.
I've been too drained to consistently pursue certifications to get those creds past the jeet-programmed application bots, which is a shitty excuse I recognize but when you put all your willpower into keeping a burning ship afloat, you kinda just break into survival mode when you're free.

>>76795509
I did my workout, going for the usual 5k run in two hours. We are in this bitch.

>>76795983
You’re so back. Keep grinding

>>76768563
Goat, i'll do the same

>>76795888
So you have the experience. Utilize that fact to get a better job. You need to explain to interviewers that you have the capabilities and experience to succeed. It also gives you a good explanation for why you’re trying to change jobs. Checked for good luck!

>work (90% alone at work)
>browse 4chan all evening (alone cuz no gf and friends moved away)
>lifting
>gooning
>sleep
thats my life fast the last 8 years. I have this distant goal of "making it" at least financially in the near future but I am starting to get doubts because I am not sure life will be any better once I remove the working part out of my routine. yes I know 1st world problems.

>>76792574
I have a big regret in my life: not staying with the family cat when we had to put her down. I was 16 and will never do that again to any pet.

>>76768326 (OP)
Lost NNN after starting a day early but desu haven't gone 4 days without cranking it in a minute.
Getting weird vibes from a girl I've been tryna schedule a date with but she keeps texting me. Prolly the fallback option baka.
Manager I like is leaving which sucks ass.
No smoking or drinking on weekdays. Still working out 4 days a week. Been working on modding and fixing my guitars which is fun.
Just a bit tired td boss.

>>76793437
I think about myself at a younger time, and then how I'd look at myself today.

In many ways I've made it. Money, career, wife, family, decently aesthetic even if I'm not too strong. I have a big house that is paid off, a couple cars. But then fapping/porn is like this demon that keeps poking it's head out. I'm probably embellishing here, but it feels that way. A younger me would be proud and then see that aspect and be like oh shit wtf is wrong with you dude

Anyway, day 6 today and no urge at all. I have like no sex drive at all actually, it's kinda weird. That being said I had insane sexual dreams and woke up rock hard.

>>76772126
If it has "walk ins welcome" on a sign out front then walk ins are welcome
otherwise either call or walk in and ask to make an appointment then go back later
I've saved an incredible amount of money just buzzing my hair but the buzzed look isn't for everyone

>>76796253
stop gooning and life will get better

>>76796405
not really. gooning is fun

>>76796416
how would you know if you never stopped?
t. stopped gooning and life got better

>>76796424
if anything gooning is usually the highlight of my day besides working out.

>>76796440
which is exactly the problem

>>76796337
Sounds like you’re making a lot of progress. Congrats on reducing your smoking and drinking! Soon you’ll be able to quit cold turkey

>>76768326 (OP)
Somewhat fitness related but I am never buying another fucking computer chair that advertises itself with "llumbar support".

"Lumbar Support"
AKA
"You WILL develop an anterior pelvic tilt and your lower back will eventually come to feel like there's a massive wedge being driven into it".

I cut that fucking pad on the back of my chair and my lower back feels amazing. The next chair I buy will be padded cushioning all the way. My fucking 2012 Ridgeline feels/felt better to sit in than this barely-older-than-a-year POS chair. Thank God it wasn't some expensive bullshit like a Herman Miller.

>>76796364
So you've made it by a lot of metrics, you just have one final mountain to climb. You should feel proud of yourself, you've come a long way. Try addressing what's wrong with you and start taking small steps to change. Even if it's something small, it's still a step in the right direction

>>76796440
That's insanely depressing. Please reform yourself

Looked in mirror, tried to flex my delts, looking for that mind-muscle connexion, felt my lats move instead. Raised arms above head, there is now a lat muscle poking out of the soft flesh. It's not much, but it wasn't there before, so it's a win no matter how small.
Also finally got a job. I am a NEET no longer. It's not a great job, but it's something. Hopefully I will be able to find a better one while I still have this one. Had to sit through HR lectures and films yesterday. Wanted to scream the entire time, but I'm on some decent meds so I didn't. I was not meant to be a wagie but god abandoned us all long ago.

>>76798268
Gave me my first smile of the day. I'm really happy for you, anon, and I can tell there's good things in store for you. Keep doing your best.

>>76798273
Cheers
WAGMI

>>76768326 (OP)
my tip for happiness is to just keep going. My marriage wasnt good six months ago an I was underemployed and friendless. I had nowhere to go but forward, now have a career and one autistic friend, as long adms they arent too tarded they make great friends because they are sincere, genuine and happy to see you. I tried making a few inroads with the people at work but they are a strange race that does nothing and spends all their time alone by choice. Maybe its an age thing since my autist is about my age, we are old enough to have played SNES as teenagers,like you had to live in the world to make friends then, and not stay in this weird smartphone, rat-like skinner box system

Help me out, /fit/izens I'm always mentally drained after work and can't get myself to hit the gym, especially when I know it'll be packed
I really miss training, man...

>>76796541
Appreciate it. It's hard when you're the only one in your group who seems like they care to improve their life in any feasible way.
Now if I can just find a church girl to marry, I might actually make it instead of trying to convince app sluts to go out with me.

>>76799221
>Help me out, /fit/izens I'm always mentally drained after work and can't get myself to hit the gym,
Lift in your home gym before you go to work.

>>76799373
I wish i had a home gym breh

>>76799221
Quit giving work the best of yourself.

>>76799428
Holy shit, amen

>>76799073
Congrats on your progress! No matter how bleak the world may seem, we need to move forward. Making a single friend as an adult is impressive

>>76799410
Make yourself one. You can get a power cage for like $350, a cheap bench, CAP barbell and weights, or search for used stuff on FB marketplace/craigslist or whatever. It's really very doable, and having your own gym is the gift you give yourself that gives back to you every day.

>>76798268
Congrats on both fronts! Waging will get better, just hang in there

>>76792607

Mid week check-in. OHP is tomorrow, and I've been porn-free and out of the house every day so far (but the week isn't over yet, so I can't check it off the list)

FITNESS
DONE >Bench 130 3x5
DONE >Squat 150 3x5
>OHP 90 3x5

PERSONAL
DONE >No weed 4 days this week
DONE >Interact with strangers 4 days this week
>Leave the house every day and be around people, even if just to walk around a store for a bit
>DO NOT LOOK AT PORN OR MASTURBATE AT ALL THIS WEEK

FINANCIAL
DONE >Buy $2.5K in equities
DONE >Make extra mortgage payment of $2.5K
DONE >Pay off wife's auto loan (only $1200 left)

>>76768326 (OP)
This some fag motivation shit? Nah brother this Sodom and Gomorrah thing has went far enough.