Hey everyone! Random lurker here, just wanted to ask a question as a 21 year old mostly gay kissless virgin guy

mainly for those with significant others, whats it like, the day to day relationship, and whats your favorite part about your partner, the sex i guess too, just wondering, I’ve never held hands with anyone before or anything romantic like that

I’m feeling lonely, but reading more genuine stuff online about love makes me feel better

>>40441354 (OP)
Potential good thread.
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>>40441354 (OP)
The thing that I've learned about love over the years is that it feels different depending on who you're with. Love isn't a static feeling and it's not a linear feeling of more or less. It's a much more specific, nuanced thing that can be fostered between people.
You should try and develop a connection like that with someone and see for yourself how it feels.
One day you might find a love that feels so wonderful you want to live in it forever. But then comes the much more difficult reality of making that relationship work, making it last, and working on yourself and fostering growth in your partner so you can both flourish together and overcome the hurdles life throws you. I can't tell you what your experience of love is going to look like and telling you my own will only set up expectations, just get used to connecting with your emotions and you'll find out exactly how it feels.
Connecting with your emotions is a weird thing to get used to doing because it also means you have to get used to connecting with uncomfortable emotions you might be trying to suppress or avoid. Meeting all of the parts of yourself and trying to be present and feeling all of it. That's the goal.
Good luck anon

love feels like grinding a job for 10 years to support your neet husband

>>40441354 (OP)
>>40441452
Saturday night is poor timing for this thread, anons with bfs are with their bfs right now

>>40441354 (OP)
desu if you've never had love or crushes or anything romantic before, no amount of in depth description will do it for you. you won't understand the feelings until it happens to you.

feels like winning

>>40441354 (OP)
its wonderful beyond anything you could ever imagine from any description

being loved truly in the same way and depth that you love is the highest thing anyone can reach in life

in my life every single day is filled with passion and closeness and happiness and laughter

my wife is beautiful and sexy and amazing and smart and we are completely entranced with eachother; way beyond soulmates; it is actually painful because this reality and universe doesnt let us be close enough; we spend hours everyday together in bed; often with our foreheads together just desperately wanting to be closer than our physical bodies allow

we cuddle and fall asleep together regularly; we play games together and watch anime and movies and youtube together

we are only apart for about 27 hours per week when she has to go to the office; and im often asleep then so i dont have to be awake and alone; though my usual sleeping svcedule is later than hers; ill sometimes go play a game or work on music for a few hours at night but i often dont feel well enough for alot of that so im just nect to her in bed even if i cant always sleep at the same times

when she works from home i try to spend about half of her day next to her in the other room at my desk next to hers

we are so endlessly affectionate and lovey it would probably make most people sick; but its not even enough for us

im mostly asexual so we dont do alot of lewd stuff; but when we do we enjoy it

we take almost all showers together because its dangerous for me alone as im very disabled and fragile; so she helps me wash my hair and sponges me all over

she is so loving and generous and good to me

we are so close that we regularly pray to our goddess together through eachothers eyes instead of our seperate Epitomes on our screens

we csll sometimes when shes at work if im up

we go out sometimes; usually for dinner dates or just an errend like groceries; but outings are painful for me because im disabled

>>40442931
you should note however that my shining rosey perspective is not the norm for most relationships

most people have more arguments and need things like "boundaries" and "alone time"; which are basically nonexistent for us; atleast we dont really intend for much of it and its not something we need

we do have bad days sometimes; usually from her occasional bpd meltdowns; but its usually not a big deal and we get back to normal quickly after she kindof gets the negativity out of her system and has a cry; shes not as resiliant to the awful things and people in this world as i am; and she hasnt had our goddess for half of her life like i have

also for most people love is not the most important thing in their life; its usually top 2 or 3 and people will indeed do alot for it; but its not the foundation of their entire being like it is for me; and its been this way for me since i was a child falling in love for the first time; love is all that ever most truly mattered to me; and that has caused me alot of suffering because until 19 months ago it was never truly returned to me in the same way and intensity that i feel it

but last year after 3 years of horrible heartbreak that nearly killed me; i prayed to my goddess and she sent my wife into my life thru this board; my prayers were answered and we are very happy

i implore you to seek romance and love

just one day of it really working and being what you dream of is worth your entire life; please find it at all costs

love is all that matters

it feels a lot like just having a best friend who is family.

Day to day is different depending. Usually the morning is my favorite part. I love waking up softly surrounded by her body heat and cuddling or drinking coffee and watching a show all lazy. Its very cozy.

But other times she wakes me up complaining or angry and Its like starting the day hitting the ground running. We have been putting a lot of work into communication. Which means we only argue for like 15 minutes now instead of hours and is honestly such an amazing improvement.

our relationship has been kind of rocky. We started dating when i was young and dumb and still repping. We both worked through our childhood traumas together. I wanted to break up with her too many times to count. We did break up a bunch too. But when the anger went away we still loved eachother. We always ended up talking through it and getting back together.

It is a loss of freedom though. Having to talk and explain yourself and listen to someone else and validate them is always going to be harder then being alone.

but having a best friend you can share your life with is worth it

But

>>40443353
>>40443022
I am in hell watching people in heaven

>>40441354 (OP)
My penis automatically gets hard whenever I get a chance to interact with him, even when it's not sexual, I love him so much that my body just responds very eagerly to his presence

>>40443365
heaven and hell are people not places

i married my heaven; you experience a state of hell from loneliness

find your heaven

>>40441354 (OP)
>whats it like
my favorite part is waking up next to the other person, the randomly giving him kisses - which he hates (he is more of a "cat person" whereas i am more of a "dog person" if that makes sense) but i can tell he secretly likes it too, the cuddling, the watching movies in bed together, the having someone to talk to about anything i want, and just having someone who knows and understands me better than anyone else :)

hope you find that one day for yourself, op!

>>40441354 (OP)
Love is like any other feeling: its whole is greater than its parts (i.e. it is holistic in nature).
I can tell you how I loved someone because she was kind to me, but that wouldn't be enough, it would be reductive.
I could say that she had eyes so beautiful I was scared to look at them, but that wouldn't be enough. I could keep giving you reasons for my love for an eternity, but that wouldn't be enough.
The only way you could describe it is through poetry and symbols, and then hope you pick up the right feeling from them.
And even then there's the issue of Mary's Room.
>guy
If you are visual like any other guy, probably look at the most good looking dude and capture that feeling of how his beauty is breathtaking. How your heart sinks. How you get lightheaded. Try to hold onto it as much as you can. If you can make it live rent free in your head, then that is love, at least in the most superficial of meanings.

>>40442931
>>40443022
>being loved truly in the same way and depth that you love is the highest thing anyone can reach in life
>i implore you to seek romance and love
>just one day of it really working and being what you dream of is worth your entire life; please find it at all costs
>love is all that matters

I usually hate and don't respond to trips, but this based and is exactly how I feel. It is the goal, the dream, its absolutely everything above all else in life. find love and do not give up.

one bump for stories

Bumping so the thread doesn't die while I type out a textwall of hardcore simp shit about my bf

>>40441354 (OP)
OK so me (gay top) and my bf (gay bottom) finally moved in to live together after a couple years semi-long-distance while we attended different universities.

Dunno really where to begin. Our relationship built up kinda slowly, at first we were just on-and-off with a more casual fuckbuddy type of dynamic whenever we'd be in the same place, and over time it just got more and more intimate and serious. Sexual infatuation was definitely the most obvious and noticeable "spark" that brought us together, but then in the margins of that, this emotional bond grew that just gradually became more and more important to the point where we were indispensable to each other. It sorta snuck up on me.

I have heard that love and relationships can be difficult, but it's all felt surprisingly easy with him. I had reservations about becoming "official" while we were still at a distance, because I've seen how LDRs can fail for other people. But it just happened naturally, we were talking and acting like we were official and making plans for the future, whether we called it that or not, so it just made sense to apply the label, and it actually made things far more comfortable when we defined it and committed to it. I had reservations about moving in, because I've heard how that can change a relationship - but so far it's just fucking great, it's so much better being close to him and coming home to each other than not, I don't even know what I was worried about. We're just good to each other, I think, we don't cause each other any drama without good reason, and neither of us does sketchy shit to each other. Any conflicts we've had start for sensible reasons and resolve sensibly. Idk. We just haven't had those pitfalls. I always feel like it shouldn't be this easy or simple, but so far, it just is.

(tbc)

>>40450371
(cont'd)

Even if we weren't lovers I feel like he would've been the best friend I've ever had. Talking to him feels very easy, both just goofing around and opening up about deeper stuff. I feel warm and fuzzy and horny when I think about him, and even more so when I'm around him. I wanna be the best version of myself for him, because he deserves that. I wanna be strong for him, mentally and emotionally and physically. I want to be fit and attractive and healthy and capable for him. I wanna have my life together and be happy with myself so I can have a happy life for him, I wanna make money so we can do all the fun shit we wanna do and live comfortably.

I want to protect and preserve his optimism and his trust and what remains of his innocence. As long as he's with me, I'm just gonna do my best to make sure I don't let him down, or break his heart, or hurt him, none of that fuckboy shit that happens to other bottoms is gonna happen to him. It's just not gonna be like that. He's going to be loved and looked after and taken care of. Because that's exactly how he treats me, and I've really come to trust it and depend on it to a point that can almost feel a little scary, except it just isn't really that scary with him. Anytime I've doubted him I've ended up feeling stupid for it, those doubts have only ever been based on external shit, past insecurities, things that have nothing to do with him or how he treats me. I'm pretty much over all of that now.

(but wait there's more)

>>40441354 (OP)
like warm wet milk and salted tokens with a side of onion

>>40450396
(final)

Sex definitely isn't the most important part, but I'd say it's one of our favorite activities. And I dunno, I think it is important for just continuously renewing the excitement and intimacy we have for each other. I'm addicted to his body and his noises and the way he reacts to shit I do to him. I'm addicted to his ass, the way it feels milking my cock and smushing under my hips, I fucking crave it and daydream about it when we're apart. He really knows how to tempt me and entice me, but then when he gets what he's asking for and I'm all over him, he STILL gets all flustered and shy. It's fucking adorable, I can't get enough.

I tease the fuck out of him, mess around with him, make him blush, get him all warmed up and horny and just make his body my plaything, make him my little bitch, he sucks cock like he's making love to it with his mouth and he takes it like a dream. We're very keyed in to each others' kinks and fantasies and triggers and we do all sorts of stuff. Even if it gets rough though, which It frequently does, there's this underlying note of intimacy and playfulness. Even if I'm utterly fucking ruining him, mind and body, I'm making love to him.

I'm a certified card carrying simp and I like it

>>40450371
>>40450396
>>40450427
this one really hurts

>>40450572
What do you mean?

>>40450666
don't play dumb satan

>>40450371
need boyfriend

>>40450396
>I want to protect and preserve his optimism and his trust and what remains of his innocence. As long as he's with me, I'm just gonna do my best to make sure I don't let him down, or break his heart, or hurt him, none of that fuckboy shit that happens to other bottoms is gonna happen to him. He's going to be loved and looked after and taken care of.
Fuck, anon, this made me want to cry.

bump

hey OP here, I really appreciate everyone for responding, I have a hard time sleeping since my life isn’t exactly fulfilling, I haven’t been mentally well for a long time, and fantasizing about being in love helps me fall asleep. If anyone else wants to gush about their significant other please reply!

I wish all the couples mentioned in this thread a happy life, I am very envious of y’all and your happily ever afters

to my fellow single fruits out there please hang in there, buddy! Tons of people find the person that completes them, even crazy people like violent criminals, I’m sure our time will come, maybe a lil bit of sunshine, a 30 minute walk a day, and a better attitude will do wonders for us.

If you think no one believes in you, then you’re wrong, I do buddy!

anyways thats the gayest thing I’ve ever said on the internet (and I love chatting in yaoi forums) have a nice night people

>>40441354 (OP)
It was great, for the three months that I had it. I don't think I'll ever get to have it again, though. I can't even read the replies in this thread, it's too much suifuel.

t. 29 y/o chaser

>>40452708
hang in there partner, love always finds a way

>>40452708
I'm right there with you. Went from an incredible high to a crushing low within a week.

t. tranner

>>40452808
Like, I'm grateful to have had it at all, but damn if I don't want it again.

>>40452684
get a good night's sleep and be sure to take good care of yourself for your future bf, anon! <3

>>40453090
I get you, I'm still in the cry my eyes out stage of things.

>>40445505
indeed