Thread 40673832

you let bigen die again

shame on you

qott 1: do you feel shame?
qott 2: whats the point?
bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?

>>40673832 (OP)
I tried to keep it alive but no one replied to me :(

I also feel shame quite a bit, which is a reason I'm still in the closet to most people I know

I am more straight than gay, but sometimes I really wanna fool around with a guy, but still want to have sex with women

>>40673832 (OP)
>q1
Yea but not for letting bigen die I was sleeping in
>q2
the point? bi4bi, best answer I got
>bonus
definitely more straight, feel a lot more romantic with women, sorry to all the cute femboys

>>40673832 (OP)
I was at carrowinds.
I saw a lesbian couple with cut marks in places that are not as common. Tummy cuts and face cut scaring.

>be me
>fit bi guy
>match with a qt4.13 guy on tinder
>he appears fit and somewhat slim in his photos
>go to his hotel to hook up with him
>he looks significantly heavier than he does in his pictures
Something needs to be done about the fatfishing epidemic.

>>40673832 (OP)
im never on this board. sowwy

>do you feel shame?
yes

>whats the point?
i dunno

>are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
all of them. i dont measure my bisexuality like that

did anyone else identify as bi then gay/lesbian then realize they were bi just didnt want people to keep excluding them

>>40676478
>did anyone else identify as bi then gay/lesbian then realize they were bi just didnt want people to keep excluding them
uh no, can you elucidate on this though it sounds like there's a bit of a story here

>>40673832 (OP)
1. Yeah I do in a way, a thought despite that I see nothing wrong with it. I judge myself for it more than others.

2. There isn't a "point." At one time the "goal" of being human was to have children and survive. Now, I would say the point is to enjoy yourself and make the world a little better for other people and the future generation

Bonus: More straight. I'm attracted to feminity yet I like dicks. Biological women are hot but so are trans women / femboys. That said, I still think if you have a dick and like something else with a dick that's gay

>>40673832 (OP)
>1
Yes
>2
Fuck me if I know, Im just here for the ride
>bonus
Right down the middle. Like, insanely so. Genitals are all goofy looking cum dispensers anyway

>>40676485
>>40676485
>elucidate
ok fancy pants
im not sure how it works for bi men but as a girl who goes in woman spaces 90% of the talk is hating men. lesbians who hate men ("its just comphet liking men is gross") straight women who want to be lesbians ("omg its so cool youre bi you dont need to be with men just have sex with them") or worse. bi women who dont date men and expect you not to feel attracted to them.

queer spaces are 50/50 hating men and hating bisexuals which results in hating bisexuals who like men. so all of it is men who fetishize me (omg i turned you lesbian?!) "bi" women and lesbians who freak out when i mention liking a man or bi women who have a preference for women and think its weird ive liked more than 2 guys in my life

all of this 24/7 in every space and my desire for comphet (yes nonlesbians get it too) resulted in me basically convincing myself i was lesbian and every guy i liked wasnt real. i still doubt myself sometimes but at the end of the day it comes down to me being invalidated for my queer experiences and not understanding why for awhile

this might not make sense at all but here you go

>>40677212
oops typo at the beginning there

a thread ! a thread !

>>40673832 (OP)
Previous >>40656650

>>40677212
That makes sense
Once again more biphobia and erasure
So many people I've met irl just do not accept that being bi is a thing, they say it's one or the other

>>40673832 (OP)

qott 1: do you feel shame?
yes
qott 2: whats the point?
making sure I don't get bothered by people and can keep on with the delusions that allow me to carry on
bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
androphiliac leaning amab here

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott 1: do you feel shame?
Nah, maybe a bit of regret for not following through with some stuff
>qott 2: whats the point?
To explore different experiences in the world
>bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
More straight, I think I like women more than most straight men. But I also like men a lot too lol

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott 1: do you feel shame?
always
>qott 2: whats the point?
to find true love and connect with other humans
>bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
i think all women are beautiful/hot and then at most 2 or 3 men. on the other hand I would never date a woman because I can only see myself being with another guy long term. i can only feel intimate/emotional connections towards men

I'm a strongly male leaning gay, but fuuuuuuuuck I got an utterly devious mood for girls right now. How do you cope, fellow leanoids?

>>40679377
I'm in the reverse situation, leaning towards straight, have a gf, but I've got a craving for guys right now.
Gf knows I'm bi and is turned on by it and says she wants to see me with a guy but idk if it will actually happen.
So just been jerking to it lol.

We’re all gonna make it anons

>>40679583
We are already making it :)

>>40679583
not me

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott 1: do you feel shame?
Yes, despite me always saying that I don't I am deeply ashamed of my failures
>qott 2: whats the point?
Something about overthrowing the system and actually enjoying life
>bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
I don't senpai I'm just horny... On a serious note, I've always been more straight but my hunger for men has grown gradually for the past like 2 years so I'd say I'm right in the middle right now.

>>40679583
>We’re all gonna make it anons
I'm starting to doubt that actually, but I truly hope it's true.

>on family vacation
>come out to siblings since I've been talking to a guy kinda seriously and my bisexuality is now in practice instead of hypothetical
>they're cool with it and supportive, but my lesbian sister is the quietest and doesn't have much to say then excuses herself from the group early
>a few days later she talks about being jokingly biphobic in front of me and how bi women aren't serious and it's an experience she'll never understand
Well damn
I'm a bi man and not a bi woman but for that to be the only thing she's said about bisexuality around me is not what I was expecting. I guess it's not necessarily aimed at me since I'm a bi man but there is certainly subtext
We don't have the most emotionally open family you can probably tell. Was hoping "hey btw I'm lgbt too" could help us get a little closer but I shouldn't have expected it to solve anything. There was no reason for me to be closeted for so long anyway so that probably didn't help.

Thank you for reading my blog

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott 1: do you feel shame?
Yeah but trying to deconstruct it now lately it's going alright
>qott 2: whats the point?
Of the shame? Misguided self protection learned from societal homophobia growing up, the usual
>bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
I am the femininity-preferring meme, no sex preference within that
Although I like actual masculinity sometimes too just not as often. Trying to figure out if it's part of shame and suppression or my actual preference lean

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott 1: do you feel shame?
Shame is a little advisor sitting on my shoulder, telling me what's a bad idea to do or say around other people, depending on context and their behavior. That's what shame should be. I can ignore it and don't experience it at all for things I do in private.
>qott 2: whats the point?
To give the gods an avenue for reincarnation and return divinity to this world.
>bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
The straight part of my brain is starting to atrophy as the "find a husband" lobe requisitions more and more of my mental resources.

>>40681876
lmao typical lesbian malding about bi women

>>40681876
You're gonna find that so many people are biphobic it's funny sometimes

>>40682162
I have always had the feeling that it would be a lot easier to accept if I were just full gay
First came out to my siblings
Friends and then parents next
Will see how it goes, how much explaining and defense I have to run
No one's really flat out homophobic around me so it's not gonna be bad, but I'm expecting a little weirdness

>>40681876
Your life is an ironic comedy. I'm sorry.

>>40682363
I've been saying the same thing about myself for years
My life is basically a cosmic joke and not wanting to be a joke to people is what's kept me so inside myself for so long
Fuck it I'm embracing the joke now because not living was not working

>been with a couple guys this year, things went well and I got turned on by them but legitimately couldn't ever finish in them, figure this is pornbrain
>match with skinny trans chick on HRT but still a little clocky, go on a really long date that goes insanely well
>end up fucking, she's into some pretty rough play
>asks me to put a collar on her, wants to be choked, slapped, hair pulled, and bitten pretty hard
>wants me to pin her down and fuck her, makes these insane guttural noises while I'm biting or plowing
>bust a massive fat fucking load in her ass while I've got her pinned down to the bed and struggling (consensually) against my strength
>spend the rest of the day together just chilling, she really likes to put her head in my lap and get her hair stroked
I really don't know what to think bros this weekend was fucking WHACK. I can't decide if it was the kink or her relative femininity that did it for me but God DAMN I don't think I've nutted that hard in years.
Picrel was aftermath.

>>40681876
That’s fucked up anon sorry you went through that

>>40682594
What's there to ask you liked she liked it go for it as long as you can.
You're experiencing a dream and having stupid second thoughts because it's alien to you.

freedom and love
i love that rat

>>40673832 (OP)
>do you feel shame?
no. thats part of the problem- I feel no shame dressing lingerie and having men use me as a sex toy. no shame, no humiliation just validation

same when I have sex with women- no shame that they see me as a chadlet with a beautiful penis who is likely one of the best lovers they have ever had...just more validation

BQ: I prefer women in very way, strictly heteroromantic. men are just stunt cocks.

Katie Ledecky is so cooool I'm in love anons

>>40673832 (OP)
>do you feel shame?
yes but thats because of my personality and soul and not my sexuality

>whats the point?
not sure anymore I try not to question my nature, I realize I’ll never genuinely know why i feel the way I do

>are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
Majority of a time I have a pretty large gay lean, for a while I just called myself gay, but I really can’t deny I am capable of also falling in love and devoting myself to a woman, I’m sure that falls into more demisexual territory but like I said I don’t like questioning my nature

>>40673832 (OP)
>right down the middle
that's me ;)

What would bigen do in my situation?

(My life is so crazy)

>start going to an upscale place for haircuts
>it has a full-service bar
>show up for my first haircut in a stylish, masculine outfit (collared shirt with the sleeves rolled up)
>grab a stiff cocktail while waiting for my appointment
>get buzzed, feel relaxed
>my new hairdresser comes to get me
>she is stunningly gorgeous, curvy, and wearing a sundress
>things start out normally
>within 5 minutes I notice she is straddling my left leg
>she clamps onto my leg with her thick thighs
>holy shit
>"Hmm, maybe she's friendly like this with ALL of her customers."
>she starts asking me a bunch of personal questions (I'm single, what about you? I live near here, how about you?)
>I answer calmly but my heart is racing the entire time
>we bond a bit over shared interests
>Me: "How would you describe my sense of style?"
>Her: "Hunky. Yeah I would say you're a hunk."
>haircut comes to an end
>she escorts me to the exit
>offers me her hand and gazes at me like picrel
>I hold her hand and gaze back at her for what seems like an eternity

This happened last week and I can't stop thinking about it.

>>40684145
I'm thinking you need a new haircut anon, idk the last one just doesn't look right it needs fixing....

>>40684145
She works for tips, anon

>>40684217
yeah, cock tips
pebnnis tips
weiner tips

sex

>>40684145
get another haircut there and get her number next time boss. you never know

>>40684196
Same

>>40684217
Yeah... maybe she straddles all of her male customers and squeezes them with her thighs.

>>40684298
Gonna get her number next time. We bonded over wanting to travel to Spain. She already suggested that she can teach me Spanish... and that we can "practice" together.

Also she mentioned (moaned) that she *desperately* needed a massage.

And she expressed that she wanted me to "teach" her how to cook. And (for some reason) she mentioned that she is single, has her own place now, and doesn't have plans for tonight.

Could mean anything. (I cannot emphasize enough that she was looking at me like picrel the whole time. Yes, she is fucking hot.)

>>40684441
Anon you need to run in there and go get laid I beg you

>>40684145
I slept with a new bartender girl at one of my favorite restaurant and it basically started like that.
Of course it ended disastrously so I couldn't go there for like a year (she was a grad student and would eventually leave)

>>40684652 again replying to >>40684441
Bartender gave me her number and told me she wanted me to do a presentation at her grad school program for her. Spoiler alert: She did not actually care whether I did a presentation at her grad school program.

>>40684627
I will absolutely do that this for you, specifically, anon. (But mainly I will do it for me).

The problem is that my next appointment with her is in 3 weeks. So I either need to find an excuse to see her at work early... OR (hear me out) I can let the sexual tension simmer/escalate to the point that it is utterly unbearable for both of us. THEN I will ask her out, and suggest that we "hang out" at her place. We'll have our hands all over eachother by the time we get inside.

Honestly I don't think of myself as *that* attractive... so I can't explain why women who look like picrel throw themselves at me. (This isn't the first time).

>>40684652
>>40684684
So you two experienced an intense, mutual attraction? What were some warning signs? Was the sex and romance worth it, anyway?

>>40684934
Yeah it was worth it, it was a good time until it wasn't, and then I broke up with her. If anything it was more awkward than disastrous. The disaster was just that I couldn't go to that restaurant lol

>>40686391
giwtwm

>>40684145
>>40684441
>when she gives you that shutterstock stare
>>40684835
>let the sexual tension simmer/escalate
Or fizzle out. No point in waiting. Find an excuse to go back and talk to her.

>>40687448
i wish that was you too

I did a lot of stuff with other guys and never told anyone. It was my secret outlet and haven't done it in almost a decade. Is this the place to share stories or am I in the wrong area?

>>40689775
You can share here, it's a safe space

>>40689882
As soon as I turned 18 I started meeting older guys off craigslist. Some a few years older, some in their 30s, some in their 50s. I never told anyone about this and stopped almost 10 years ago. I really enjoyed the secrecy of it and I could let myself act out sexually and then go back to my normal life. I was never attracted to men in a nonsexual way though

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott 1: do you feel shame?
no
>qott 2: whats the point?
doesn't need to be a point. don't make it more than it is.
>bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?
I'm one woman (my wife) away from gay.

>>40684145
This absolutely didn't happen; fake and gay.

>>40690051
What made you want to do that? Just because you could?

>>40689775
>>40690051
I did similarly when I was like 21-24. Craigslist was more fun than grindr.

>>40690560
NTA but it was fun and hot.

>>40690051
>I really enjoyed the secrecy of it
For me it was the attraction of being treated as and adult and doing adult things. I was small stature, never got picked on teams and basically ignored by everyone (except older guys). I didn't want to keep it a secret. I wanted to scream "LOOK AT WGAT I CAN DO!"

>>40673832 (OP)
>qott1
yes, though I don't really have any consideration for it, meaning it won't stop me from doing anything
>qott2
There never was one, it's all made up
>bonus
Given I'm largely gynephilic, I guess people would say more straight, but in my mind I ride the middle. Since I seek out gay stuff as often as straight, just predominantly feminine.

I had sex with a woman for the first time in years this past Saturday and I honestly forgot just how foul smelling pussy can be if the girl is not completely on top of her vaginal hygiene
It made it hard to stay erect ngl

>>40684145
Go up to her and ask for her number. Point blank just tell her you think she’s really cute

I was walking in the local nature preserve with my mom (visiting family for a family meet up haven’t seen her in a bit) and this gorgeous girl probably early 20s in a crop top comes up and we just say hi to her dog and we get to chatting and she just keeps asking me questions and we talk for a solid 5 minutes but I just can’t get myself to pull the trigger and ask if she wants to grab coffee or something because my mother is there and that’s just weird?? Mom herself told me she was trying to be my wingwoman after so maybe I just suck at flirting? Happened over the weekend and haven’t been able to get her out of my head. QTpi:)

u ever worry that ur never gonna have that exact same chemistry and mindblowing sex that uve once had before with a specific person? bc i do all the time and its enough to drive me to drink

>>40691418
sounds like yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis tbr, surprisingly common for chicks to be running around with one of those two without knowing. doesnt help that the latter is an std and we only really had it confirmed by scientists this year

>>40691927
every love is special in it's own way.

>>40683455
based

>>40691927
The cost of promiscuity is far reaching and long lasting. Treating intimacy as a casual affair doesn't make it so.

>>40691927
I remember reading something about how your first love is your one true love because it was a love unburdened by baggage and all subsequent relationships are more about trying to recapture that feeling
Idk how much I believe it, but it is depressing to think about

>>40693754
It would certainly be the least situational.

Is it true that bi men and women hate short guys even if they’re really well built and have a nice face? Asking for a friend

I'm going to the lake with coworkers tomorrow. I haven't really come out, though there is a bi flag button on one of my hats. I don't like the way my toes look and I think they look better painted. If I paint them while we are all sunbathing and shit, is that going to effectively trigger a conversation where I end up coming out? I don't think I'm ready for that...

>>40693981
Is it a short femboy?
We all have different tastes you know

>>40694212
I’m built muscularly. Trying to get over my poor body image

>>40694162
You know a man is allowed to have his toenails painted without being queer (though it's rarer I agree). But do you think your coworkers would really question it further than
>oh you got your toenails painted ?
>yeah I like how they look
>cool

>>40693981
I would definitely top a shorter guy, especially if he's built I like some muscle on my men. I could consider bottoming but you'd have to wrestle me for it heheh

>>40694270
Maybe, maybe not. Guess I don't really know how normies work. I made a few "daddy" jokes a while back and now the Indian guy keeps calling me daddy and for an Indian guy he's actually not bad looking but I just assume men who aren't insecure can tell these kinds of jokes and it doesn't mean anything

>>40694280
<3

>>40694331
Well I think you should paint your nails if you like it, but you know then and yourself better than I do

>>40694162
b-b-boy.....feet.....

BOY FEET......

cum for me please

>>40693754
hes not even rly my “””first love””” in the sense that ive fallen in love with and dated people in the past (although they were all long distance) but the chemistry between us was undeniable and it was pretty clear that we really liked each other

>>40694162
Just be yourself unapologetically
Answer questions if asked
But you don't have to make it some big thing
Nice legs

>>40691570
>Go up to her and ask for her number. Point blank just tell her you think she’s really cute

I already told her that she's really cute. Sort of. What I actually said was something like "You look... AMAZING" (in a flirty, blown-away tone). She complimented me back and gazed back like picrel.

Anyway, to answer your question: No I did not get her number.

>>40696921
*She said "So do you" (in response to me saying that she looks amazing)

>>40691927
Yep, experiencing this right now

>>40690560
I was horny and trying to be more independent. It was a huge turn on to go to a man's house instead of sneaking around with someone my own age. I liked being able to cut loose and suck a man's cock in a living room or a backyard instead of a parked car

>>40690673
I had quite a few CL encounters. Some were very hot. Some were not. I really enjoyed the secrecy. I remember how nervous I was at 18 to go to a guys apartment who was probably 25-26. He was nervous too. When I was 25-26, I invited over a guy who was 19-20 and got to take care of him.

>>40690673
I'm glad I stopped doing that and got out of that mindset but I had a lot of hot experiences. Had a regular in his 50s with a house and a jacuzzi in his backyard. Another who was around my age and I actually let him fuck me. I had never been comfortable trying that before. I'd usually hit up the jacuzzi guy and try to head over for a romp before my roommate would come home from work. Sometimes I'd just offer to blow him on his couch and leave

i would be a switch for Leonard from The Big Bang Theory. i wanna fuck the whininess out of him and then when he stfu i wanna ride that little man. obligatory bazinga

>>40697848
>obligatory bazinga
ZIMBABWE

>>40693981
no

breathe....then SCREAM

WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS TONIGHT

>>40693981
I'm a short guy and most of the guys I've topped have been taller than me. A cock is a cock.

>>40693981
being short is not a problem

>>40693981
Think it's less of a problem with men, bi women are women they tend to not like short men

A literal schizo gave me their number. It might just be the loneliness talking, but I think I’m gonna go for it. As long as they don’t do anything terrible and treat me right I think I can put up with crazy.

>>40691927
Yeah I’m like 99% sure I’ll never experience something like that ever.

>>40692770
Getting one of these is a big fear of mine

>>40696921
You have no balls. Go back to her and get her number anon! We believe in you

>>40701204
>You have no balls
Ehh that interaction happened FAST... on the way from her (private) station to the (public) front of the store. Where her boss was standing.

I didn't want to do that in front of her boss... and possibly get her in trouble. Trust me, I will get her number.

they got big balls and now the army is the police

>>40673832 (OP)
>bonus question
I'm like 99.999% lesbian
But there are exceptions

>>40693981
>>40700344
not really, no. last week or so there was a thread about roughly the same topic so I guess I'll repeat it here: one of my bi friends has a preference for and the majority of other bi women Ive met tend to feel neutral about it. It's really mostly a straight afab girl thing as far as I can tell
>t. bi afab bitch

>>40701029
afaik bacterial vaginosis is easily taken care of as long as both you and your partner go on antibiotics. yeast can be pretty bad, but as long as you catch it early and get the right antimycotics it's nothing big. can be insanely painful if you get an UTI at the same time though. like. being sent to the hospital by your doctor levels of painful just to be prescribed some pills and sent home, that kind of pain

>lost my job after only two weeks of working there after six months of looking for employment
>not eligible for unemployment
>the one person that i finally “clicked” with is leaving me on delivered for hours on end
>too poor to go back to college
>people only like me when they benefit from it
i dont have anything to say im just dead inside

>>40701007
do it

>>40703804
I feel so accepted here. I actually love you guys. Thank you <3

>>40702958
Do it anon we’re rooting for you!

>>40703982
Do you at least have a safety net, anon?
Parents who would let you stay with them?
You're never truly on your own until your last immediate family member is dead

>>40703982
Were you like a tech worker?

>>40673832 (OP)
>Q1
Who doesn't?
>Q2
N/A. There's nothing I want more than stopping to exist, but ironically there's nothing that terrifies me more down to my core than the possibility of dying or seriously injuring myself.
>BQ
It's easier to be into women since there's hotties I can see everyday, but I enjoy men more as they're typically better cause you can both dom and sub with them, and they're typically more intelligent. Being dommed by a woman is not fun and trannies are the worst since i'd go for a guy if I wanted cock.

>>40703926
I probably should read more up on it. I just get a swab test for yeast from my doctor every now and then and trust that.

>>40704688
if you arent in pain, it doesnt smell funky, doesnt change colour, and doesnt go stringy like hot melted cheese when you pull something out of yourself, it's generally all fine and dandy in there, yeastwise. swab tests are quite reliable. the only issue being if you happen to have a rarer strain of yeast thats resistant to the standard meds you're given they wont pick up on it without further tests. a few of them are easy to spot though, because they'll turn your mucous other colours than the more common one does

>>40697505
That’s kinda cute. Good for you anon.

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A reminder that tomorrow at 21 GMT we will vote for the next two movies for Movie Night! If you want you can also give your recommendation by replying to this post

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>when will movie night take place?
its FRIDAY at 22 gmt

>where do we watch the movies?
on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
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>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

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>drink my last two beers
>need more beer
>drive to grocery store
>at stoplight see this guy waiting to cross on other side of intersection
>redhead, sunglasses, square jaw, hoodie and athletic shorts
>holy shit he's hot
>staring at him from behind my windshield the entire light
>can't tell because of sunglasses but think he looks at me too
>crosses to my side
>I'm smiling looking and wiggling my faggy painted fingernails involuntarily on the side mirror
>I must have been giving him the eyes because he turns toward me
>I am so shy and nervous I look away
>He does a lil fakeout and turns the other way down the street
>light turns green and I drive away

It was 100% body language, I was sure he was straight at first, but holy shit I think I almost just bagged a hottie solely by looking at him. My regret was instant, I should have talked to him, but my confidence is through the roof. I think he lives in my neighborhood, maybe I'll see him again! Or maybe he posts on /bigen/ lol

>>40673832 (OP)
I'm thinking of shaving my legs/hair removal cream, they are super hairy and I'm starting to dislike it
What do you anons think of hairless legs?

>>40707407
Depends on the guy, I can appreciate both
Hairy guys can top me, hairless guys we can frot and makeout for an hour
I will say if you have sensitive skin be VERY cautious with shaving, my legbutts are covered in irritation because I got too overconfident with the traditional razor. My best results are with no guard electric razor buzzdown and nair. Once my skin health returns I'm gonna try waxing/sugaring my sitting areas.

my BF wants to get on E to save himself from twink death and idk how to feel about it
on one hand, I want him to do what makes him happy
on the other, i have no fucking clue how a 2nd puberty would be on him. Hes not the most emotionally stable person already and im afraid that the hormones will make him hate me, or worse, himself

>lonely and want friends
>make friends
>friends want to text too much or talk hang out all the time and get overwhelmed
>lose friend because I’m kinda an introvert that needs my own space : (

I think a part of it is also making friends with people that don’t have a lot of other people to talk to so they become overly dependent/invested in the one person who actually talks to them and doesn’t want to stay surface level about shit.

>>40708015
I wish that were true in my life. If I make a friend they usually talk about hanging out and potentially doing things then I make plans with them and they almost always flake.

Are there any other old bi virgins in their 30s like me or am I the only one?

>>40700087
Stats, including cock size?

>>40708270
31y/o wizard reporting in, didn't come out until like last year and only to a couple of friends, kinda feels like it doesn't matter anyway since I haven't landed a date in over 5 years

>>40708117
Aww : ( I’d be your friend if I knew I wasn’t gonna flake. Idk why I do that sometimes. I just don’t have any energy.

>>40707476
I don't think my skin is overly sensitive but I've never been hairless on my legs since I was like 10 so idk
Also would be really obvious I shaved with how thick it is currently, kinda worried that might out me

>>40705556
discord link's dead, is there another?

Anyone else wade between watching gay and straight porn?

>>40709252
It's honestly rare I'll watch M/F porn. Instead I usually switch between gay and lesbian porn

>>40709252
I mostly just fap to anything with huge cocks, whether it's futa doujins or hung trans women

>>40704340
<3
in all honestly I really dont get why straight people care so much about this shit. I mean I can understand it as part of a height difference fetish but the rest is just silly

>>40706593
Don't drink and drive anon <3

>>40694773
this

>>40708311
5'7" 153# 5.5 x 5 cut cock

>talk to cute tranny on grindr
>jack off and cum twice in a minute
>remember I'm a premature ejaculating autist who doesn't deserve to have his faulty penis humored
>delete grindr
And then next week I do it all over again.

>>40679415
Same, my gf gets really horny when I talk about my experiences with other guys. Not sure we’ll ever act on it though, but she does indulge me physically with some gay related acts.

>>40709200
They stopped letting new people in

>>40710690
What if you just rub one out to take take the edge off before really going at it with someone. How long would it take you to have a second orgasm after?

>>40710782
Anon isn’t iron willed enough to fight through the initial post nut clarity to do and fuck that tran good with his battle hardened dick

>>40710782
I can pretty much cum "back to back". There have been times fucking girls when I couldn't cum at all but almost every time it has been over in a minute. I never tried going twice cause last time I had sex I was like 18 or 19 and I'm 31 now.

>>40696529
>>40694773
>>40694270
thanks!
I didn't end up doing it at all. We will see. I don't usually wear sandals outside the house.

qott 1: absolutely
qott 2: there is no point but what you give it. try to not to hurt people, animals neither if you can help it, the rest is kind of up to you.
Bonus: I think I've learned I prefer women, especially tough chicks, butch nb-bbls, ftms, the kind of double-x who can kick my ass, but that's the thing, I'm just a 6'3" lanky bottom, cursed to AGP brain and too pussy to live my best life and not gaf what other people think

>”i’ll fall for you if you trip me”
>”you should go out with me if you want a boyfriend with golden retriever energy”
>“i’m weirdly attracted to crazy women”
where are all the men that are actually worth talking to hiding

>>40711596
In crypts and they don't talk a lot they mostly listen

>>40711605
so ur saying my soulmate is dead or perhaps an aberration or zombie?!

>>40711617
No no they're alive they just hang out there actually it's too hot for them outside right now

>>40711596
>I'm into crazy women
Coulda just said normal religious women and they would have actually gotten crazy.
What is the good profile meta now for sticking out anyways?

>>40682594
>>40682888
Okay a few days later and I think I agree with you anon. Maybe it was building up being with a tgirl for so long in my head, and it actually being as good as I imagined, but it felt so surreal.
I invited her over to my place yesterday and we just cuddled for like 2 hours it was amazing. I felt so relaxed and comfortable. Can't wait to see her again next week.
Also picrel was on her Instagram lmao
:3

>>40711596
Not on dating apps. Go out to in person events femanon. Idk like some nerdy shit like a poetry slam or something

>>40712237
ok but what do u do if u do that and no man approaches u like r u supposed to come to terms with the fact that ur ugly

>>40712175
That's awesome my guy I hope I'll have your luck.
Sometimes when a good thing falls on us we tend to hesitate but better just take what you can and simply enjoy the good moments.

>>40712730
Doesn't mean that you're ugly lots of pretty girls report not being approached, because it's scary, feeling like she's unattainable, etc.
I also don't think big social events are the best place to be approached people often come in groups and stay in groups.
I feel like festivals are the exception because it's so long groups have a tendency to break and mix.

>>40713259
I'll say it again, the gender war stuff ruined dating and relationships Ford everyone.

>>40713259
>I also don't think big social events are the best place to be approached people often come in groups and stay in groups.
what would u suggest then? i only go to stuff like raves, concerts, bars, parties, dj sets, etc. and so those r my go-to places for socializing (it usually helps that i can get away with being drunk/high which allows me to socialize better)
i thought about going to lgbt meetups/support groups but with all due respect i cant imagine the kind of men that i like being there

>>40713331
Idk I think it's a good thing we're putting an emphasis on women being more comfortable in public spaces.
I'd probably find the unwanted attention annoying too if I received any.

To be frank i can't speak for anyone but for someone shy and uneasy with strangers such as I, approaching a girl or a guy would've probably been just as hard even if i had been alive a hundread years before feminism lol.

>>40713795
Bars are good.
I think that sticking to a specific bar and befriending the staff can get you many friends and new people to talk to.
It makes everything easier when you keep coming to the same place. The staff knows you and introduces you to people they know or newcomers
The only downside is alcoholism lol, it's not even really a joke.
I think the other thing is activities like taking a class in Amy arts and craft that you like, if you can find one with people around your age, where I am there are tons dispensed by the city but idk if it's a thing in the US.

>>40712730
I don’t think that has to be the case at all. I think it just means accepting that your best features aren’t shown off well through a couple swipes on a dating app. I’ll speak for myself but I’ve never had a dating app match go further than casual sex. There just isn’t time to develop any deep connection. And yeah, the most conventionally attractive guys will have the most luck there, that’s true. Doesn’t mean you’re necessarily ugly though

>>40712730
Oh I just re read this and realized you’re a femanon. Apologies I’m drunk. What I said still applies and dating apps suck. Go out to local events, go to queer bars (even if it’s just to have fun) go to outdoor events like rock climbing or group hiking or national parks go to national parks or music festivals or nerdy stuff like hobby shops or book fairs or poetry slams idk. Working out is good too, workout classes are a good place to meet people

I’m mostly listing what I do as a guy not even to meet people but just force me to leave my house and where I feel comfortable. Maybe at least a few of those don’t sound terrible to you?

>MOVIE NIGHT
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>MOVIE NIGHT
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The poll is now open, no further recommendations will be accepted.
The voting will stop tomorrow at around 4 PM GMT, so be sure to vote before then!

Here is the link to the server:
https://discord.gg/3tkzv2Re

>>40714950
im watching a movie too, alone

>>40714955
on friday, at 22GMT ?
what are you watching anon

>>40715001
that weapons movie, no spoilers pls

>>40714950
>eternal sunshine of the spotless mind
damn, good ass taste here

>>40708270
>>40708692
Same
I wasn't planning on coming out or dating, really
But without really trying I got involved with someone long distance and it crashed and burned before we could meet up. But now that I've had the experience of mutual attraction and emotional intimacy, even if only like a half measure from far away, I'm kinda freaking out going back into walled off solitude and it's throwing me out of the closet and now I'm about to actual try meeting people irl for the first time
Didn't expect this, Idk how to do any of this shit, on either side of attraction. My main thing is I can't be hiding parts of myself anymore since I know how freeing it is to not do that with someone now

I've read homos generally don't like asians. Is this true? And is that asian as in chinese or asian as in indian?

>>40715905
Indians have been losing cred online lately
all the asians I've known were pretty americanized and I liked them fine
the first guy to really make me question my sexuality was an asian-american femboy

>>40715928
I ask because this one chinese guy told me people in grindr are rude but I haven't experienced that, and then I remembered other such posts online that homos don't like asians

>>40715905
Indians are nasty but I generally fuck with east asians

>>40715905
High% native Japanese guys (Beard Japanese, not Korean Elf Japanese) are incredibly sexy to me. I would simply never even consider an Indian.

>>40676449

It's really sad and embarrassing but he might not psychologically gotten to the point he can acknowledge he doesn't look like that anymore. He might tell himself, why change the photo when I'm gonna be back to that soon anyway, and it never happens

It's unfair to the person who gets catfished but I don't know how to fix the behavior from the delusional ones

>>40676449
if somebody misrepresented how they look, just leave

page 8 bump

>>40717809
>>40718399
Honest question from a guy who's also heavier than he is in his photos
What if you just don't really have the opportunity to take more recent pics? Or are we expected to update with a bathroom selfie every month or so?

>>40719441
Then you don’t have the energy or time to date anyone either

>>40719441
if you cant be arsed to take a bathroom selfie then dont waste peoples time on tinder

>>40719441
You don't want to be that guy or woman who posts old, misleading pictures on dating sites. Have a friend take some pictures or use a mirror.

>>40720874
>>40720210
>>40719441
Best advice I have heard is for retaking a photo once a year to use for jobs and dating profiles. Get a cheap professional or hobby photographer.
That said Idk how to even get one and I feel humongous in photos, I'm not losing weight fast enough either now and I need to be sub 160lb again, I hate weighing 180lb. 3 meals a day is a myth, you gain weight at 2 meals that are both listed 600 calories with a can soda with each.

>>40720939
do intermittent fasting

>>40720939
Lose soft drinks, energy drinks, basically anything high in sugar, even juices. You can take vitamin supplements.
And no beer, wine, or alcohol if any kind if you can help it.

Why do faggots (the LGBTQ+ spectrum in its entirety) like video games so much? Do games make you want cock?

>>40722129
social isolation

>>40673832 (OP)
>do you feel shame?
No
>whats the point?
Of what
bonus question: are you more gay or more straight or right down the middle?

I'm becoming more and more straight just because all the gay men I was involved with only wanted sex or to be friends with benefits. I want a relationship, not that weird sex+friend thing.

>FLASH ROUND
MOVIE NIGHT
>FLASH ROUND
MOVIE NIGHT

It's a 4-way tie, come vote for the one that'll make it to tonight's movie night !

Here is the link to the stream, don't be shy and come join us! the film will start at 22:10 GMT

https://discord.gg/68rr7HzV

>>40722546
thank you anon !!!

>>40722129
This is not an LGBTQ2IA+ feature, this is a geek thing and >>40722136 is probably right, social isolation probably plays a big part.
In fact, most of the homos I know have ZERO interest in video games but they are all a little older and either socially adept or some kind of other nerd. If they're gen Z or younger, then almost literally everyone plays video games, it's not something particularly influenced by any demographic or minority status.
You thinking it's a faggot thing is 1) internet tunnel vision and 2) confirmation bias

>>40718399
I was already at his hotel room so we just fucked and I didn’t want to waste his time so we just fucked. It was mid and I wouldn’t recommend it.

>MOVIE NIGHT
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>MOVIE NIGHT
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And after a FLASH ROUND we have the two winners!

>The Adventures of Sharkboy and Lavagirl in 3-D
> Lisa Frankenstein

So see ya later at 22 GMT!

waddup baggots
finally a gen for degenerates like me

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that in 1h30 Movie Night is gonna start! Here is tonight's selection:

>The Adventures of Sharkboy and Lavagirl in 3-D
>Lisa Frankenstein

>what the hell is "movie night"
Its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>where do we watch the movies?
On the official Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/3tkzv2Re

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

i need always sunny season 1 mac more than i need air or god