>>82156800 (OP)
>>82156854
Not really true, it is about how attractive you are.
Even someone autistic will be included socially if they are attractive, people will give them a chance and not think so ill of them if they do anything awkward or cringe, parents will commit to making sure they grow up to be a well rounded individual and intervene if they see they are lonely and have no friends or any other problems, they will have ample practice and coaching to walk the tightrope
If you are not attractive there is none of that human feeling and people's morality wears thin until they realize they can discard it with no consequence. They start to feel like they are the victim having to deal with you then resent you because of it, because "why can't you be normal", their life would be so much easier, instead they're stuck with you for years, if they do not get rid of you they normalize ignoring you and putting in minimal effort, just waiting until you're 18 and you're out the door. It starts that vicious cycle, you are excluded, so you have less opportunity to socialize, your development is arrested and you get excluded even more, especially when you become a hormonal gangly teenager.
Girls of course don't have this problem, they are not viewed as threats just for being different like the boys, rather cute and quirky. Maybe some Stacy bullies them for her hairpin but that's it.