>>16721386
Basically make friends. I'm not even talking about making good friends, just people you know that will have a job in the future so that you can ask for referrals, recommendations, etc.
Try harder my autism fren, I found it on the first google search I did. I'm sure a PhD candidate can get that far.
>>16721388
Then you are already cucked. Why work so much for nothing in return? Do you at least enjoy it? Why study a PhD if you can't even get a job?
>do you have infinite time and energy?
No... but I also don't swallow other peoples shit willy nilly.

any options for wristlets?

> be me, autistic
"Anon, why are you so nervous?"
> Confused, I'm totally calm
"Anon, you don't have to pretend, just be yourself."
> Even more confused, I am being myself
"Anon, you're putting people off with this weird act you've got going on. Just be genuine."
> wtf are you talking about?

Turns out being "natural" just means being normal.
How do I learn to act natural? Are there any online resources or tutorials?
I think I'm struggling with body language and speaking. Any advice is appreciated.
I want to be charismatic.

>Be me
>28
>After two and a half decades of using "autist' as a general insult for "annoying weirdo" I decide to look up what the actual common qualifiers are
>Realize pretty much everything there matches myself to a T - can't drive, astigmatism, stickler for rules/justice, dislike of routine disruption, avoiding eye contact, dislike of physical contact etc. etc. and dozens of other things
>Casually mention to Mom and Dad during a weekend visit that I'm thinking about getting an actual adult autism test
>Awkward silence while they give each other a glance
>"Anon, you ARE autistic, but why is it relevant now?"
>Still thinking of it as an insult, feel kinda offended
>Why do you say that? I was just curious just want a doctor to confirm for sure.
>They literally go rummage through some old stuff and pull out some yellowed doctor's checkup notes from when I was like 5 that say I literally am a fucking autist
>Apparently everyone has known all this time except me and just never brought it up to me?

I've kinda just been blanking out at work this week just staring at the screen and rethinking life
All my life i've just thought I was not a people person and had bad social luck and that most people are rude/dismissive by default.
Turns out I'm one of the puzzle people.
I can't stop thinking that maybe I could have sought help or tried developing some kind of coping mechanisms and life could have been different.

There has to be other autistic people here right? Like actually autistic in a diagnosed, non-meme way?
How did you find out? Do do anything about it? Did you change anything about your life when you did?