>>76797291
I could give you the keys to finding a good woman, but you won't listen. I can tell you wisdom, but you'll mock it. The only way to win the game is to not play. Don't approach women. Ignore women. Talk to them when necessary, as they are people, but keep it informational and transactional. This will drive the crazy women crazy, but the good ones will draw near and approach you. The good ones will come after you, they'll give you their number, they'll tell you they like you. The only game you must play then is the one against yourself because you'll wonder if the reason no women are coming to talk to you is because none of them like you...but that isn't true. In fact, most will like you, but they're too emotionally immature to tell you, so they wait for you and you'll never come. Because you don't want an emotionally immature woman. So when you go many years without a single date, I'm here to tell you that it is quite possible there are no good women left. You'll mock me and say, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take! You HAVE to approach or die a virgin". But you're a fool and one day your folly will rip your heart from your chest and leave of beating on the floor. Ask me how I know! I'm trying to spare you. I'm showing you love. But you can't hear it because you don't want to. You want to believe you can control the outcome of your romantic life, but you can't and you won't. You can only control yourself. Never approach women. Never ask them out. Wait and do nothing until one tells you she likes you. You're the fish, she's the lure, just keep swimming and one day you will bite a worm with a hook in it. You won't like this advice, but it hurts a lot less than discovering it for yourself. Most men do not have the ears to hear, do you, anon?

Ok I start:

You suck it up, buttercup. It's going to hurt like hell, more painful than any physical pain you've ever had. Feel it when it comes, but don't let it stop you from moving forward in life. It only hurts when you think about it, so just constantly work to not think about it. Remove everything of hers and try to rewrite every memory you have together in a location with a new one there. She'll fade from your memory and eventually you'll just not think about her and then it will basically not hurt. But it will always hurt, when you really think about it.

>source, my wife of not 4 years divorced me last year. It hurts like hell, but only when I think about it, so I just choose not not to think about it. If I ever feel like crying, I can just remember all of it and I'm back on the floor. But I need that like a hole in the head, so I don't. You'll never "get over" her. As papa roach said, the scars remind us that the past is real. This better to have loved and lost, then to never loved at all...you loved and lost. Welcome to having a new scar, you'll have it for life.

I am very sorry to hear it anon and it's going to hurt like hell. My wife left me in the worst possible way, by blaming me, last year. It does get better and eventually you will realize the whole experience was for your betterment. Here's a quote from Socrates that has brought me a lot of peace, "By all means marry, if you get a good wife you'll be happy, if you get a bad wife you will be a philosopher."

Sit with your feelings, when you feel sad, cry. Look at yourself crying in the mirror and consider how you'd care for a friend who was feeling this way...do that for yourself because no one else can. No one can carry the weight of your feelings for you except you, you are strong enough though you will feel weaker than ever. And for the love of everything, please buy some PMs

>>518965625
>Many such cases

I am but a statistic. At least I won in the end. We split the divorce 50/50 (which was actually as close to fair as one can get without a ton of math) and now I'm free to do as I will. But for most of the time we were married, I got to use her body and that she can't get back in the divorce. I got her remaining best years before the wall and she now has a sexual market value in total retrograde. She probably doesn't realize she lost just like I am slowly learning I won. It hurt like hell, I'll carry that scar for life, but I survived and now I have the knowledge and wisdom I lacked prior.

> be me, 26yo never girlfriend haver
>hot 30yo fit babe messages me online dating
>meet, even hotter in person
>start seriously dating
>marry after 3 years
>me 30, her 34, still hot
>she wants kids after plandemic, about 2 years later
>time comes, she says, 2 more years
>she starts acting cold
>sex slows
>she starts saying she's unhappy
>wants couples therapy
>she moves out for space to "grow our relationship"
>she says she's never moving home unless couples therapy
>I say not going, tell her to come home
>she starts claiming I'm abusive
>she rewrites history, claims our fun sex wasn't, claims I pressured her into it
>she divorces me
>surprised me
>sad me
>confused me

I know on a certain level she did me a favor, she wasn't getting any younger nor any more pleasant to be around...the opposite actually. But man it still hurts like hell after almost a year being divorced. Women, man, need I say more?

>>512825906

I met my wife when she was 30 and I was 27. We married 3 years later, all the while she told me before marriage that she wanted at least 2 kids and to start trying for them after 2 years. Well 2 years came and went, but her excuses didn't. She slowly lost interest in sex and started blaming me for the relationship going cold. She eventually left and demanded we get therapy or else, I realized she had been the problem and wasn't going to therapy. At 37 she was still saying, "we'll try for kids in 2 years", when you're almost 40?! She then divorced me citing abuse she imagined so that her family would support her leaving. I know I should feel like she did me a favor and like I'm free to meet someone younger now, but I just feel sad and like death even almost a year later. Some of these women are so heartless that they'll leave you feeling nothing but your own heart beat.

>>510072910

Thanks, Fren. I'm neither the first nor the last, but this kind of pain you go through entirely alone. The most anyone could do is sit there in silence with me.

I believe this is more painful than death. Because once you die the pain is over, but every day I live I relive that death. She carved herself out of me in the worst possible way.

I had a dream not long after the divorce was finalized where we were in our bed, the very one I was asleep in, and I woke up just in time to see her repeatedly stabbing me in the heart. I said to her, in this dream, "I'm sorry" as I died and she held the knife in the air while crying and smiling. I don't know what to make of that, but I know I walk around everyday feeling like I'm being stabbed to death by the one I loved.