My Ex Came Back and Then Ghosted Me
After about a week of no contact, this girl (she broke up with me on 10/4), after stalking all of my usual locations, found me at the library at 1:30 in the morning this most recent Sunday.
She'd had a week long crash out apparently. She'd been crying, hadn't gone to class, canceled a trip to Chicago, just was going through it in my absence. I knew the play here would be to go back to my place, but she said she couldn't because her roommate has her location and would give her hell for it (her roommate has serious mental issues and hates me despite not knowing me). I should've done the "Well, it's been a long night" thing, but I didn't. My mistake, but I thought that the extenuating circumstances here were such that straying from the path was acceptable. I suspect it was not.
Anyway, we went out to a fast food joint, made out in her car, walked around a parking lot, and had a great time. I told her I was indifferent as to whether we got back together or not because, while I do want to make this work, I had a great time with her while we were together and I'll cherish the memories even if she decides she wants to stay broken up. If you ask me, the whole night was great. Like an 8 or 9 out of 10. My only error (that I can see) was that when she brought up the fair that was in town, I suggested we could go. She said that'd be "backsliding" and I dropped it. At about 5:30 that morning, she dropped me back off at my car and we went our separate ways.
It's now Wednesday morning, and I haven't heard from her since. I haven't called or texted because as I understand it we aren't back together and the no contact rule still applies. My questions are these: Why haven't I heard from her? What's she thinking right now? If/When she does reach back out, what's the play generally and what specifically should I do if she brings up the location thing again? Thank you
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