>>106461661
you gotta be deliberate about your updates
do your updates. reboot,
check for updates again, reboot
check for updates again
If no updates after the 3rd iteration, then disable updates for the maximum amount of time in the update control panel
when its time to update, you'll start gettting notifications, at which time you can delay updates for more time, or you can do them then.
it's not that hard
reboot