/adv/ - Advice

Why am I never complimented or approached in public by strangers despite being good looking, charming and in shape?

How do I analyze what went wrong and learn from it for the future? It's been like a year since it ended and it was my first real relationship (I was in it for like 10 months) and I still don't think I'm fully over it.

I try to talk to friends about it a little when I feel comfortable sharing, I try and analyze it as if I were an outsider but I did so many things wrong myself and I feel like he also did and that he sucked as a person. Well, I guess you shouldn't date somebody 12 years older than you as your first bf.

In a way, I guess I feel a little cheated and maybe manipulated? I'm not sure what to say about it. There were just multiple moments with this man where you get that gut feeling that's telling you "oh this is a bad idea" but not just like "oh it's bad for you" but rather a more primal "fight or flight" scenario type of thing, where you kind of fear of what he's going to do next.

He never hurt me or did anything bad to me but there were just multiple moments where I feel he was just like, trying to drill into the insides of my mind and basically manipulating it to his whims to get me to feel like he feels. I feel really awkward about it. I don't know what else to say or how to describe it. I've also been sort of mentally not that well for a few years now, sort of an asocial shut-in person so somebody holding my hand and hugging me and well, "loving" me for the first time felt good, it felt really comforting. Maybe that's why I don't want to let it go.

I am bothered sexually by every sounds that anyone makes. It doesn't matter if I wear headphones or I'm just busy it makes my privates tingle and I writh in pain. I live with other people so trying to be occupied doesn't work because they make noise. What are some ways that will help me not be so horny?

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how can i make the world a better place and make people happier on a large scale?
>inb4 kys

Get it off your chest, friends!

My girlfriend I met online suddenly had a set of life circumstances hit her and we took the opportunity to move in together. She's now a few states away from her family and I'm right at home in my home state. It is great, and I really love her, but there are some things I'm not certain how to deal with and it can be exhausting. Things like
>not really having any alone time or peace because I'm an EXTREMELY introverted person
>always feeling like I need to be an entertainer and in some kind of fun mood
>always feeling guilty if I'm not actively doing something with her even if I want to do my own thing for a day or two
>feeling like I need to be dependable even as I'm going through my own problems
>not being able to sleep in the same bed as her because we have exact opposite sleep habits (I need to doze off while watching or listening to something, she needs total silence and darkness)
What can I do? Open communication about things helps of course, but the problems keep cropping up. Is this normal? It's been about two months now.

I don't want to wear a poppy this remembrance day.

Don't get me wrong, I 100% appreciate the sacrifice that our veterans in WW1 and WW2 had made for my country. However, the freedoms and values that were protected ultimately led to fucktons of pajeets invading our country. You see them on the street, in the office, or at stores, all speaking in tongues and refusing to assimilate in the country they chose to call home. They take jobs away from our own citizens, take plenty of government money to support them, and us natives get jackshit.

Some may say this is because they were exploited by a guy in India promising them a better life, the government looking to boost the population, or companies looking for cheap labor, but the matter of fact is they CHOSE to come here. They CHOSE to come to a country they probably know jack shit about, don't improve their English, and don't adopt our values. I have seen pajeets at work drink water out of the bathroom sink, as well as wash their face in the water like it's a shower.

Unfortunately, I can't accept the excuse of "You can still honor their sacrifice and criticize the current government". The fact of the matter is, it was the people our great-grandfathers died to defend, the values they fought for, that led to this. The culture and values that they died defending decided to bring in villagers from a shit heap in India en masse.

Maybe we wouldn't be in this situation if the enemy won. Or maybe I'd be complaining about other problems should they have won. Either way, I can't stand for a nation that has now disrespected it's own people, and begun favoring foreigners.

>. A person who's very outgoing, has an active circle of friends, charming, and takes control of the situation.
When you're with him, he takes you around places, he leads conversations, he introduces you to other friends, and treats you nicely. You'll probably want to be around him, you're free to be a submissive person towards him because he makes you feel safe socially. The entire experience of being around him is exiting and addictive.
How do I become more like this?

I want to kill myself. My planned method is combining vinegar and bleach to make a form of Chlorine gas. I live in a duplex, with my mother, younger sister, and I living on one side, with a single man what is only home 33% if the time, and has some marriage drama that I will not get into because his personal info does not need to be on the internet. Either tonight, tomorrow after school, or another day, I was going to shut myself in the garage we share with our neighbor, combine the chemicals in a small plastic water bottle, or some other container, breathe it in, and finally find freedom. I understand that Chlorine gas is fatal, but I only want myself to be the victim. I have failed 8 other suicide attempts (by different methods) and only 2 were even somewhat close to death before family showed up, or I gave up. Any ideas on how I can contain the gas within my garage so I don't harm neighbors, dogs/cats, and especially my own family, and a family with 2 5 year old's that live behind me? Please. Anything will help.

>feel bad because not studying so i get my shit together and start studyin
>brain physically hurts
>"I'll bear with it"
>understand nothing AND my brain still hurts
>now i feel fucking depressed ontop of everything else
>literally don't know from where to tackle this shit
am i even supposed to "push through" when things are like this? Do i apply effort when it does nothing and feels horrible ? i feel like giving up and just waiting for a time when studying actually does something

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The day of the Lord is near, a day of clouds.

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For thousands of years men have carried all the burdens of providing and everything that comes with civilization. Now it's women's time to pick up the slack and carry civilization forward.
My plan is to be a neet and for women wagies to pay their fair share by providing for me and everybody else in society for the next six thousand years.

It's time for men to sit back, relax and take it very easy for the next two thousand years at the very least. We earned it after all.

I've been asking myself this question for a year now, and I honestly don't know the answer

When my parents separated because the situation was no longer bearable, I ended up with my mother and three other idiots I have for younger siblings. I've taken care of each of them since they were babies while I was a 9-year-old kid, I've seen them grow up and all that shit, it would be nice if it weren't for the fact that I practically had to learn to be a father. My father was drunk all day long, and my mother was always out of the house to avoid fighting with him, so she left the work to me

I'm almost 20 now, and I feel like I haven't really lived. My classmates go out to parties, have girlfriends, and seem to be okay with it. Meanwhile, I have to figure out how the hell to bring money home because one salary is no longer enough. All I want is to finish my accounting degree and find a job far away from here and never contact my family again, Because for the last 10 years, I've done nothing but put their needs before my own. I just want to get away from this lecture about how I have to do what my father couldn't and make this family work

I simply don't want to keep doing that anymore

Boss put me on PIP after one of our foreign workers pissed onsite. It happened after I'd told my colleagues I was leaving for dinner. There were two superintendents and one safety person on duty that night, I'm the only one being punished.

PIP accuses me of some few actual mistakes I made (I was twice late for work, one was weather related) and around a dozen insane points. Either small incidents which were settled on the spot now dug back up, or even when someone else fought me. The piss incident happened less than 3 weeks after I provided proof of overtime work to HR and asked for overtime pay. It also follows lots of other safety violations. Many safety incidents were the result of senior supervisors telling me to allow violating safety rules as long as our workers are not caught by other contractors' workers. Boss didn't let me explain my side of the accusations at all during the PIP meeting, but now has responded to my signature & amended statement saying I was the one who didn't want to explain anything during the meeting.

TLDR; boss likely wants me gone. I have hard evidence that superiors in our company have been allowing violations and telling me to cover for them. Note I did not protest these orders until after my PIP because I was fresh and didn't want to lose my job. Well it seems I'm about to lose my job anyways given PIP protocol. When & how should I be prepared to present my recordings to our GC and maybe OSHA?

>t. superintendent at foreign construction firm

I want to match a couple of a beautiful woman and AN extremely repulsive man.
How do i do that?
>Why
I want tò see the woman's parents and friend cry while She drolls over a genetica failure

How do I (bio male) approach dating when I want strictly want trans men? I've hooked up easily enough in apps with all kinds, but even on Grindr saying "looking for trans men" gets me hate for "being a strait man looking for women!"

If anyone knows how to properly constructively approach the subject, or if you know of dating sites/apps that welcome it, I'm all ears. Thanks kindly.

how do i stop worrying about very unlikely bad scenarios?

I really want to be a God. Like really badly. So badly I cry about not having worshippers and power some days. I have always had a feeling of being ":superior", I don't wanna sound like some retard trying to act like an anime character but that's just how I am. I hate feeling weak, I've gone to the extreme just to not feel weakness. I hate it. I also have psychotic episodes which lead me to believe I'm genuinely a god. I really, really want to be a cult leader as well and these thoughts have persisted on for a very long time. I used to get bullied back in middle-high school, for unrelated reasons, and I hated it so much, mainly because it would always make me feel weak, and I would always yell and scream at people. This was involuntary/uncontrollable. I do not believe this is some sort of mental illness, and I don't believe I have a superiority complex or a god complex or whatever, I just am a god. I'm going insane. I need advice or help. I don't want therapy or professional help though just tell me how to get rid of these thoughts please guys. I beg of you. This is my first time on this site and I just need help. Oh dear. Please help me. I think everybody wants to be God or has wanted to but I do find this concerning. What should I do about this? I want to be God so badly it drives me crazy and makes me sob for hours!!!

It's the only thing left that I care about.

Making friends isn't an issue for me. It comes as easy as butter. Anyway, here's the context.

>Mom financially dependent on father
>Father wants to cut
>Okay fine, Ill take over
>Hmm... How to support two?
>Enlist, declare her as dependent
>Receive allowances for mom
>At the defense language institute currently
>Basically gonna be hopping between places for the next three years, the time left on my contract
>Meet this one girl
>She's leaving the school next week
>We talk a bunch
>Multiple months have passed since she left, we still continue to talk over text
>I find that I really like her
>Obviously pursuing her would be retarded, I'm never gonna realistically see her again
>This is true of anybody I date in the next (slightly less than) three years
What now? I already have money figured out. Fitness figured out. I'm progressively looksmaxxing with fitness and tretinoin. I just want a life long partner. What now. I can't do it for the next three years. Just hiatus until then?

How do i stop getting all my opinions from 4chan? I can't think for my myself and just go with whatever 4chan thinks about things. I don't know why i am like this. How do i change?

I just got a gift card for a favor I did a friend.
It's for Italian food.
Should I use this as an opportunity to ask a girl to dinner?
It would be nice to go get some good food.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying too. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

how tf do i stop crushing on disgusting ppl

How do you develop an "interesting" personality and set of hobbies if all you've liked for so long are just video games and bodybuilding?

I really want to branch out a lot. What are some cool hobbies you guys do and especially that encourage touching grass?

I've noticed that smelling bad is pretty much a free excuse to dunk on someone and be applauded for doing so.

So how do I not only ensure that I don't smell bad, but can be confident I smell, like, really really good? Shower daily, deodorant, wash laundry regularly, but what else? Cologne? Dermatologist tricks? I don't want people to even have an excuse to dismiss me based on smell

>Go to uni for engineering
>Drop out of uni because of declining mental health
>Diagnosed a year ago with schizophrenia

Currently, I think I'm about as stable as I can get. I applied for neetbux because I've been leeching off my family, but I still think about finishing my degree. I've got 30 credits left. Only taken out about 10k in federal loans. Anyways, it's highly unlikely I'll ever be able to work full time. The medication has come with a plethora of adverse side affects, the main one being it's highly sedative effects. It's been impossible to maintain a normal sleep schedule when I sleep 14 hours a day. Are there part time, entry level engineering gigs I could get into fresh out of college if I chose to finish the degree? I searched, and didn't find anything substantial.

We're done having kids. I got myself fixed. Wife got off the pill. After her first cycle was finished she has become a wild animal in bed. Normally it takes several minutes of foreplay to get her going and her getting off was a coinflip at best. Now she came after just a minute or two. Wild shit, it's a whole new world.

No matter what, try to enjoy life.

I have been married for a year and I want to show my wife how much I appreciate her on our first wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, I'm struggling to come up with how I can do this.

Drawbacks:
- I'm a bit of a moron, so I haven't come up with good ideas about what to do
- Not flush with cash. I have between 150 - 200 bucks.
- My parents never celebrated their wedding anniversary and I can't recall a single time my father bought anything for my mother.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Married guys of /adv/, what do you do for special days?

I am a black American woman. My last name, when researched shows it is 80% black American. I have a Bachelors and 8 years of work experience in my field, including 1 successful prestigious internship, but have been unemployed since April 2025. I was a senior grossing $110k a year.

Someone I know is Jewish, His last name is clearly Jewish, and when researched is 100% Jewish. He has a high school diploma and 5 years of experience in his field. He is not a senior in his field. I do not know his income.

During dinner, he told us he was considering crossing into my field and taking a senior role (which he has 0 experience in). He said he already has 3 interviews lined up in my field. He was laughing while proudly describing the interview invites.

It sounds ridiculous but its true.

I hope this isn't horrible but I am considering changing my last name to a random Jewish one. I don't understand why they even considered his applications- he has no experience or a degree.

Lets not play pretend, we all know hiring managers do discriminate (the Tesla situation with documented emails as the most popular proof) but less so than they did before.

Has anyone else done this or is my unemployment anxiety getting the best of me? I don't mean to offend I am just becoming upset with myself and the opportunities to interview that he has landed but I have not.

So here is my problem, I cannot fucking do chemistry. I think I am a fairly intelligent person. I aced calculus and physics. But for some reason I cannot do chemistry. I have been reading and trying to understand, but every single test there is a thing that I didn't learn that just happens to be a really important part of the exam causing me to fail. Then I go around asking people, and every single person tells me that I am stupid for not knowing that.

I usually check the resources the teacher gives, and solve problems with the books that I buy. Somehow this very crucial piece of information that only I didn't know is not in the books for the lesson. This same thing happened to me in high school too. The teachers just gave me more points so I could pass, because I was a goody two shoes in the classes.

I think I may be missing the foundation for chemistry, but I don't want to sit down and do middle school chemistry to study for my college exams.
As an example I failed this semester because I had to know the weight of the water molecule. Before the exam I specifically asked the teacher if we had to memorize the weight of the atoms, and he said it won't be necessary. But in the exam I did everything that could be done without it and failed. AFTER the exam when I asked the teacher he told me that I needed to know at least the weights of H, O, C and N. Like is it even my fault? What should I do? I failed the same chemistry 101 class 3 times already, and I am in a CS degree.

Sorry i posted on another board already i'm just really anxious about this. I jacked off a bit too aggressively about 2 nights ago and after the first night my dick was really fucking swollen and hot. After the second night, the swelling is only localized to the right side on the shaft but my balls feel really tight and pulled up against my body and won't relax (no pain though). What the fuck did i do please tell me that i didn't just fuck up my cock by fucking gooning please

been together with my gf for almost two years now, and we moved in together about 9 months ago.
she has her struggles with self doubt and generally being quite unsure about what to do with her life. Although she has some things she likes to do a bit, she really (atleast in her own words) have no interest in anything.
she really is her own worst enemy, and it hurts to see her get so down. I try to help, but often to little effect, and in general it drains me to use so much time and energy trying to help her. Ofcourse I love her, so I do it, but I have my life of my own you know, atleast some small fragments of it.
things recently took a turn down after talking together about how this really isn't sustainable, and things have been weird since then.
I'm a unique fellow, and I really have never met a person that I truly connect with in such a way, and I'm afraid I'll never find it again were this to end.
But the girl I love feels like she's gone in her own depths of dark thoughts half or atleast 1/3 of the time. What to do bros, this sucks and as you can guess from my writing, I'm kind of confused and uncertain all over the place right now.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying too. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

>nearly 20
>need to study/work in Asia and get the fuck out of the midwest as soon as possible
>deadlines coming up if not already closed
>deadlines for scholarships mostly closed
Is it possible to become an English teacher somehow in an asian country without a degree? Is there a way they could cover travel expenses if I give them something in return like working or something? Is there any possible way? Do I start a fucking gofundme? I’ve been applying to jobs there already and making a resume. I need to make this work. I am not waiting another fucking year for college, and I need to move out within a month, tops

>easily frustrated if I don't get something right straight away
>easily frustrated if I feel a twinge of pressure

How do I stop being a manchild?

Work keeps me away from home up to 15 hours a day. This leaves me with no time to work on my passion projects outside of my days off. I find no time for drawing or vidya modding.
And when a day off arrives, I end up spending it on gay YouTube videos or gay video games, in the end, achieving nothing.
Not to mention I still need to study to get into a university, I still need (should) socialize (I don't), and I need to find love or I'll kill myself.

Continuing on like this, I will soon be 50 and have achieved nothing in life.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

About three or four weeks ago, I found out that my group of friends went to the beach without telling me. I only discovered it because I ran into three of them on their way back.
Later, my best friend told me that next time the guys planned something, he’d let me know — he said he thought I was too busy with college (which, to be fair, is somewhat true).
I told him that even though I’ve been busy, I’d make time to hang out with them.
Then, last Friday, I wished one of the guys in our group a happy birthday. He thanked me, everything seemed normal. Today, I decided to go out for a walk and grab something to eat, and I asked my best friend to come with me — something I don’t usually do, since I tend to avoid people when I’m feeling down.
He said he couldn’t, because he was going to a birthday party. I asked whose, and he said it was our friend’s — the same one from the group. That’s when it hit me.
I thought:“Why wasn’t I invited? Are they being fake with me?”
I know I sometimes say dumb things without thinking, but nothing they don’t also say. And I know when to stop I wouldn’t ruin anyone’s birthday. Still, I just don’t understand why they’d leave me out.
Am I a bad person? A bad friend?
I know I don’t usually play games with them, and I’ve said before that I don’t like staying in voice calls, but I really love being with them. I’ve even told them more than once that I love them.
Today, I honestly feel like I’ve lost my place in the group. I don’t feel like I belong anymore. I’ve told them we should plan something, but I’m not good at organizing things. I even tried planning a birthday dinner once, and only a few people showed up the same friends from this group.
And that’s it. Deep down, I just wish I knew why this is happening.

How do you not be intimidated by guys that say they've been in prison and can beat you up?

Has anyone here ever worked at an Amazon fulfillment center?

I heard they don't do interviews. That true?

I need a job where I can stand still in one place and be left alone to do a mind numbingly boring and repetitive task for the entire shift because I hate interacting with people and having to do random things on the whim of the manager. Do they have roles like that at Amazon?

guys, do you think it would eventually work if I cold approach a girl and ask her if she wants a foot massage? I know what you are thinking, it's creepy etc, but if there is a nonzero chance it works, that one time would be worth it even more. It is better than wasting time with relationships where you are not aligned with your interests, no?