/adv/ - Advice

My girlfriend I met online suddenly had a set of life circumstances hit her and we took the opportunity to move in together. She's now a few states away from her family and I'm right at home in my home state. It is great, and I really love her, but there are some things I'm not certain how to deal with and it can be exhausting. Things like
>not really having any alone time or peace because I'm an EXTREMELY introverted person
>always feeling like I need to be an entertainer and in some kind of fun mood
>always feeling guilty if I'm not actively doing something with her even if I want to do my own thing for a day or two
>feeling like I need to be dependable even as I'm going through my own problems
>not being able to sleep in the same bed as her because we have exact opposite sleep habits (I need to doze off while watching or listening to something, she needs total silence and darkness)
What can I do? Open communication about things helps of course, but the problems keep cropping up. Is this normal? It's been about two months now.

I don't want to wear a poppy this remembrance day.

Don't get me wrong, I 100% appreciate the sacrifice that our veterans in WW1 and WW2 had made for my country. However, the freedoms and values that were protected ultimately led to fucktons of pajeets invading our country. You see them on the street, in the office, or at stores, all speaking in tongues and refusing to assimilate in the country they chose to call home. They take jobs away from our own citizens, take plenty of government money to support them, and us natives get jackshit.

Some may say this is because they were exploited by a guy in India promising them a better life, the government looking to boost the population, or companies looking for cheap labor, but the matter of fact is they CHOSE to come here. They CHOSE to come to a country they probably know jack shit about, don't improve their English, and don't adopt our values. I have seen pajeets at work drink water out of the bathroom sink, as well as wash their face in the water like it's a shower.

Unfortunately, I can't accept the excuse of "You can still honor their sacrifice and criticize the current government". The fact of the matter is, it was the people our great-grandfathers died to defend, the values they fought for, that led to this. The culture and values that they died defending decided to bring in villagers from a shit heap in India en masse.

Maybe we wouldn't be in this situation if the enemy won. Or maybe I'd be complaining about other problems should they have won. Either way, I can't stand for a nation that has now disrespected it's own people, and begun favoring foreigners.

how to flirt with bf? please help me I'm so terrible at this. how would you like your girlfriend to flirt with you?

>. A person who's very outgoing, has an active circle of friends, charming, and takes control of the situation.
When you're with him, he takes you around places, he leads conversations, he introduces you to other friends, and treats you nicely. You'll probably want to be around him, you're free to be a submissive person towards him because he makes you feel safe socially. The entire experience of being around him is exiting and addictive.
How do I become more like this?

How do I last longer in bed?

As soon as I put it in her, I cum within 3 minutes.

Need advice on interpreting the situation, Advice from girls would be much aporeciated.
short background on situation:
>Decide to remain friends with girl after a fling (we had nothing physical) because we are coworkers and she is married and feels guilty
>We agree to speak strictly in friendly manner from now on
>We are in love
>Insane sexual chemistry between us
>She then tells me she wants to send me some pictures as a parting gift since I never got to see her naked
>Sends me nudes
>We start sexting and I make her cum twice
>She feels guilty again agree to continue as friends again
>Fast forward to the morning and we talk like friends
My question is how real is the intention to send nudes as a "parting gift"? does everything really end here? Was this action actually motivated by a "goodbye" or should i expect more to cone from her?
I decided to not pursue aggressively for now what are your thoughts?

I want to kill myself. My planned method is combining vinegar and bleach to make a form of Chlorine gas. I live in a duplex, with my mother, younger sister, and I living on one side, with a single man what is only home 33% if the time, and has some marriage drama that I will not get into because his personal info does not need to be on the internet. Either tonight, tomorrow after school, or another day, I was going to shut myself in the garage we share with our neighbor, combine the chemicals in a small plastic water bottle, or some other container, breathe it in, and finally find freedom. I understand that Chlorine gas is fatal, but I only want myself to be the victim. I have failed 8 other suicide attempts (by different methods) and only 2 were even somewhat close to death before family showed up, or I gave up. Any ideas on how I can contain the gas within my garage so I don't harm neighbors, dogs/cats, and especially my own family, and a family with 2 5 year old's that live behind me? Please. Anything will help.

I'd never (and have never) dated one, but I keep becoming attracted to men who are low or highkey alcoholics. How to stop it?
I think it might just be my immature self finding that sort of thing ""cool"" and not being able to get rid of this pattern. I've never gotten used to drinking, have been to a bar only a few times in my life, never alone, and have never tried even the mildest of drugs, like weed. I don't feel "cool" or experienced enough to hang out with someone like that, and if I do, I tend to overthink a lot and get nervous.
(not a tranny)

Do you think studying systems engineering is a good option?

For some reason I don't like being in relationships with non virgins, it's like if a girl has even kissed another guy or especially had sex with them I see them as disqualified from a life partner or someone worthy of love so the relationship is doomed from the start and no matter how much fun we have or how good the intimacy gets its like I know something is past its expiration date

How can I change this mindset, there are so few virgins that aren't insanely fat or mentally ill

>feel bad because not studying so i get my shit together and start studyin
>brain physically hurts
>"I'll bear with it"
>understand nothing AND my brain still hurts
>now i feel fucking depressed ontop of everything else
>literally don't know from where to tackle this shit
am i even supposed to "push through" when things are like this? Do i apply effort when it does nothing and feels horrible ? i feel like giving up and just waiting for a time when studying actually does something

Never go to therapy anons, the people shilling this shit are often "therapists" themselves, which are grifters. These parasites need to get a real job, starve them out.

IGNORE THERAPY POSTERS AS THEY ARE MOSTLY THERAPISTS SHILLING THEIR GRIFT

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I finally, have been given 1 year to life- acute myeloid leukemia. I will ask a bunch of different topics, i'm ESL so my prose is messy...I'll just ask bullet-point type questions so its clear.
>Should I really plan my own funeral? Music choice, slideshow, photos, shrine arrangements(?) etc? or, that makes it more painful and I should just do an austere, solemn event?
>Since I will literally die: Should I "let it out all out" and confess to crushes, curse and abuse (verbally) former enemies, try out every legal possible pent-up desire?
>I have two items from a Bucket List which are : meet a celebrity (I have a short list of possible ones; only one is ok), and pay for a "femdom beating up" session--just a woman kicking and punching me whilst wearing some type of costume like police or so on--Are these so utterly retarded I should, just forget about them altogether?
Any additional advice is welcome.

>be me (20M) at home
>receive two videos from my female friend (late Halloween party I think? that's what my cousin told me) at 5 am
>too sleepy and lazy to watch them now
>go to bed instead
>in the afternoon, I remember them videos she sent me last night
>she deleted the messages, they ain't there no more
>msg her "too late lol" even tho I didn't watched them
>hasn't answered yet

Maybe I'm overthinking, but this can't be good, right?
We haven't talked in a while, we were supposed to meet up 3 days ago and she kinda ghosted me.
Maybe she said summ in the videos about me and regretted it next morning.

The day of the Lord is near, a day of clouds.

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Im 19 and keep accidently cold-approaching woman that are like 35 and then its awkward as fuck and I just walk away. Even worse I accidently did this to a high schooler the other day cuz she looked early-twenties. What are some signs a woman is 18-29?

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For thousands of years men have carried all the burdens of providing and everything that comes with civilization. Now it's women's time to pick up the slack and carry civilization forward.
My plan is to be a neet and for women wagies to pay their fair share by providing for me and everybody else in society for the next six thousand years.

It's time for men to sit back, relax and take it very easy for the next two thousand years at the very least. We earned it after all.

I've been asking myself this question for a year now, and I honestly don't know the answer

When my parents separated because the situation was no longer bearable, I ended up with my mother and three other idiots I have for younger siblings. I've taken care of each of them since they were babies while I was a 9-year-old kid, I've seen them grow up and all that shit, it would be nice if it weren't for the fact that I practically had to learn to be a father. My father was drunk all day long, and my mother was always out of the house to avoid fighting with him, so she left the work to me

I'm almost 20 now, and I feel like I haven't really lived. My classmates go out to parties, have girlfriends, and seem to be okay with it. Meanwhile, I have to figure out how the hell to bring money home because one salary is no longer enough. All I want is to finish my accounting degree and find a job far away from here and never contact my family again, Because for the last 10 years, I've done nothing but put their needs before my own. I just want to get away from this lecture about how I have to do what my father couldn't and make this family work

I simply don't want to keep doing that anymore

>fucking my gf
>shes really into it
>blurts out "fuck me with that beastly dick"

Is she fetishizing me? Im black. Don't want to be seen as a "beast".

Boss put me on PIP after one of our foreign workers pissed onsite. It happened after I'd told my colleagues I was leaving for dinner. There were two superintendents and one safety person on duty that night, I'm the only one being punished.

PIP accuses me of some few actual mistakes I made (I was twice late for work, one was weather related) and around a dozen insane points. Either small incidents which were settled on the spot now dug back up, or even when someone else fought me. The piss incident happened less than 3 weeks after I provided proof of overtime work to HR and asked for overtime pay. It also follows lots of other safety violations. Many safety incidents were the result of senior supervisors telling me to allow violating safety rules as long as our workers are not caught by other contractors' workers. Boss didn't let me explain my side of the accusations at all during the PIP meeting, but now has responded to my signature & amended statement saying I was the one who didn't want to explain anything during the meeting.

TLDR; boss likely wants me gone. I have hard evidence that superiors in our company have been allowing violations and telling me to cover for them. Note I did not protest these orders until after my PIP because I was fresh and didn't want to lose my job. Well it seems I'm about to lose my job anyways given PIP protocol. When & how should I be prepared to present my recordings to our GC and maybe OSHA?

>t. superintendent at foreign construction firm

I want to match a couple of a beautiful woman and AN extremely repulsive man.
How do i do that?
>Why
I want tò see the woman's parents and friend cry while She drolls over a genetica failure

How do I (bio male) approach dating when I want strictly want trans men? I've hooked up easily enough in apps with all kinds, but even on Grindr saying "looking for trans men" gets me hate for "being a strait man looking for women!"

If anyone knows how to properly constructively approach the subject, or if you know of dating sites/apps that welcome it, I'm all ears. Thanks kindly.

how do i stop worrying about very unlikely bad scenarios?

Is it possible to cope with a life in which you simply care for nothing? I have no interest any any of the hundreds of careers Ive researched. I have no real hobbies or things I want to do. I have no aspirtaions, no dreams. Nothing to work towards and nothing to live for. The only reason I evade death is for short-term dopamine.

I am an autistic person. However, I don't think I got the full brunt of it. I autistically go to the gym and I have made myself to be pretty strong. I did this thinking I could make up for being autistic. Now I just feel like a retard who is strong. I still don't have much going for me. I become upset and angry when I see a guy who is dating a woman and the guy is way less strong than I am. Like obvious pencil neck etc. I don't think I am a gigachad or anything but I have definitely put in the time within the gym. I feel upset that I am still missing something I might never have. I honestly just wish I wasn't autistic. But would I be as strong as I am today if I were not autistic? What can I do to help my situation? I am 32 and it feels like I have no hope because what woman wants to date what is effectively someone who is "retard strong". I hate this.

Found out in my dads phone a screenshot of my brothers gf. What should I do? To be honest even I was amazed on how sexy she looks but still I would not think about it to have a fantazy at all. Should I tell my brother?

I really want to be a God. Like really badly. So badly I cry about not having worshippers and power some days. I have always had a feeling of being ":superior", I don't wanna sound like some retard trying to act like an anime character but that's just how I am. I hate feeling weak, I've gone to the extreme just to not feel weakness. I hate it. I also have psychotic episodes which lead me to believe I'm genuinely a god. I really, really want to be a cult leader as well and these thoughts have persisted on for a very long time. I used to get bullied back in middle-high school, for unrelated reasons, and I hated it so much, mainly because it would always make me feel weak, and I would always yell and scream at people. This was involuntary/uncontrollable. I do not believe this is some sort of mental illness, and I don't believe I have a superiority complex or a god complex or whatever, I just am a god. I'm going insane. I need advice or help. I don't want therapy or professional help though just tell me how to get rid of these thoughts please guys. I beg of you. This is my first time on this site and I just need help. Oh dear. Please help me. I think everybody wants to be God or has wanted to but I do find this concerning. What should I do about this? I want to be God so badly it drives me crazy and makes me sob for hours!!!

I need help. I went to see an escort to lose my virginity and now my libido is totally gone because I couldn't maintain an erection with her and didn't do anything except kissing and oral. I'm 29.

I just got too nervous and couldn't have sex. This is despite me not watching any porn for a week or so, so I was quite horny. She was very nice, I admitted my situation to her and we talked for a while. Did a bit of oral, she said I had beautiful eyes. She seemed surprised when I said I was a virgin but maybe that was just an act. We seemed to have a good rapport and talked about interesting things but again, don't know if she was just acting. She did seem quite engaged when she was talking to me and we kissed a lot which I liked. The more we talked the more I relaxed but I felt bad. I'm so pathetic. I genuinely feel worse in a way now. I wandered around afterwards feeling completely alone in this world and wanted to cry. 29 years on this planet and aside from escorts, I'm still a kissless virgin. I deserve to be a Wizard.

Maybe it's a mental thing? I just don't think I can meet a woman and within 5 minutes be having sex with her.

I feel completely drained and I want to vomit. How can I get over this? I feel like I've ripped my soul out and I feel like a husk.

If I keep abstaining from porn, will my libido reboot? Should I try to see her again in a few weeks?

It's the only thing left that I care about.

Making friends isn't an issue for me. It comes as easy as butter. Anyway, here's the context.

>Mom financially dependent on father
>Father wants to cut
>Okay fine, Ill take over
>Hmm... How to support two?
>Enlist, declare her as dependent
>Receive allowances for mom
>At the defense language institute currently
>Basically gonna be hopping between places for the next three years, the time left on my contract
>Meet this one girl
>She's leaving the school next week
>We talk a bunch
>Multiple months have passed since she left, we still continue to talk over text
>I find that I really like her
>Obviously pursuing her would be retarded, I'm never gonna realistically see her again
>This is true of anybody I date in the next (slightly less than) three years
What now? I already have money figured out. Fitness figured out. I'm progressively looksmaxxing with fitness and tretinoin. I just want a life long partner. What now. I can't do it for the next three years. Just hiatus until then?

How do i stop getting all my opinions from 4chan? I can't think for my myself and just go with whatever 4chan thinks about things. I don't know why i am like this. How do i change?

I just got a gift card for a favor I did a friend.
It's for Italian food.
Should I use this as an opportunity to ask a girl to dinner?
It would be nice to go get some good food.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying too. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

how tf do i stop crushing on disgusting ppl

How do you develop an "interesting" personality and set of hobbies if all you've liked for so long are just video games and bodybuilding?

I really want to branch out a lot. What are some cool hobbies you guys do and especially that encourage touching grass?

I've noticed that smelling bad is pretty much a free excuse to dunk on someone and be applauded for doing so.

So how do I not only ensure that I don't smell bad, but can be confident I smell, like, really really good? Shower daily, deodorant, wash laundry regularly, but what else? Cologne? Dermatologist tricks? I don't want people to even have an excuse to dismiss me based on smell

How can I be happy knowing that the world is rotten and all it's pleasures are ultimately unfulfilling?

>Go to uni for engineering
>Drop out of uni because of declining mental health
>Diagnosed a year ago with schizophrenia

Currently, I think I'm about as stable as I can get. I applied for neetbux because I've been leeching off my family, but I still think about finishing my degree. I've got 30 credits left. Only taken out about 10k in federal loans. Anyways, it's highly unlikely I'll ever be able to work full time. The medication has come with a plethora of adverse side affects, the main one being it's highly sedative effects. It's been impossible to maintain a normal sleep schedule when I sleep 14 hours a day. Are there part time, entry level engineering gigs I could get into fresh out of college if I chose to finish the degree? I searched, and didn't find anything substantial.

We're done having kids. I got myself fixed. Wife got off the pill. After her first cycle was finished she has become a wild animal in bed. Normally it takes several minutes of foreplay to get her going and her getting off was a coinflip at best. Now she came after just a minute or two. Wild shit, it's a whole new world.

No matter what, try to enjoy life.

I have been married for a year and I want to show my wife how much I appreciate her on our first wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, I'm struggling to come up with how I can do this.

Drawbacks:
- I'm a bit of a moron, so I haven't come up with good ideas about what to do
- Not flush with cash. I have between 150 - 200 bucks.
- My parents never celebrated their wedding anniversary and I can't recall a single time my father bought anything for my mother.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Married guys of /adv/, what do you do for special days?

For background, I’m a 24-year-old Turkish woman. My husband is 29, Serbian. We live together in Serbia and have a small family.

We actually met when I was 19, studying in Belgrad as an Erasmus exchange student. We went to the same university, spent every day together and fell in love fast. He used to pick me up for class every morning and spend the whole day together. He was my first emotionally, sexually, everything. I even got baptized for him and left school to be a housewife. Eventually, we got married and had kids.

I was really close with his family too. His mom treated me as her own daughter , and we often cooked together and shared traditional recipes.

When we first started dating, we had this teasing, flirty thing that involved cultural jokes and racial slurs. We both made fun of each other’s backgrounds. He’d make jokes about Turks and I’d fire back with things about Serbian stereotypes. It felt like something private between us, something that somehow brought us closer.

But recently, I noticed something that’s been bothering me. I have his Instagram password (and he has mine). I was just scrolling through his account one day out of boredom, and I saw that he follows a LOT of far-right and nationalist pages “Save Europe,” “Byzantine revival,” anti-immigration content, that kind of thing.

And it really hit me. Like… this man, who married me, a Turkish woman and had children with me, follows pages that basically preach hate toward people like me?
I keep asking myself if he’s secretly ashamed of me, or if he just likes the “aesthetic” of those pages.

Part of me feels like I’m overreacting, like maybe I’m being too sensitive. But another part of me feels disrespected. I sacrificed so much for this relationship, my studies, my religion, my home country

Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? Am I overthinking it? Or is this something I should actually confront him about?

I am a black American woman. My last name, when researched shows it is 80% black American. I have a Bachelors and 8 years of work experience in my field, including 1 successful prestigious internship, but have been unemployed since April 2025. I was a senior grossing $110k a year.

Someone I know is Jewish, His last name is clearly Jewish, and when researched is 100% Jewish. He has a high school diploma and 5 years of experience in his field. He is not a senior in his field. I do not know his income.

During dinner, he told us he was considering crossing into my field and taking a senior role (which he has 0 experience in). He said he already has 3 interviews lined up in my field. He was laughing while proudly describing the interview invites.

It sounds ridiculous but its true.

I hope this isn't horrible but I am considering changing my last name to a random Jewish one. I don't understand why they even considered his applications- he has no experience or a degree.

Lets not play pretend, we all know hiring managers do discriminate (the Tesla situation with documented emails as the most popular proof) but less so than they did before.

Has anyone else done this or is my unemployment anxiety getting the best of me? I don't mean to offend I am just becoming upset with myself and the opportunities to interview that he has landed but I have not.

So here is my problem, I cannot fucking do chemistry. I think I am a fairly intelligent person. I aced calculus and physics. But for some reason I cannot do chemistry. I have been reading and trying to understand, but every single test there is a thing that I didn't learn that just happens to be a really important part of the exam causing me to fail. Then I go around asking people, and every single person tells me that I am stupid for not knowing that.

I usually check the resources the teacher gives, and solve problems with the books that I buy. Somehow this very crucial piece of information that only I didn't know is not in the books for the lesson. This same thing happened to me in high school too. The teachers just gave me more points so I could pass, because I was a goody two shoes in the classes.

I think I may be missing the foundation for chemistry, but I don't want to sit down and do middle school chemistry to study for my college exams.
As an example I failed this semester because I had to know the weight of the water molecule. Before the exam I specifically asked the teacher if we had to memorize the weight of the atoms, and he said it won't be necessary. But in the exam I did everything that could be done without it and failed. AFTER the exam when I asked the teacher he told me that I needed to know at least the weights of H, O, C and N. Like is it even my fault? What should I do? I failed the same chemistry 101 class 3 times already, and I am in a CS degree.

Sorry i posted on another board already i'm just really anxious about this. I jacked off a bit too aggressively about 2 nights ago and after the first night my dick was really fucking swollen and hot. After the second night, the swelling is only localized to the right side on the shaft but my balls feel really tight and pulled up against my body and won't relax (no pain though). What the fuck did i do please tell me that i didn't just fuck up my cock by fucking gooning please

been together with my gf for almost two years now, and we moved in together about 9 months ago.
she has her struggles with self doubt and generally being quite unsure about what to do with her life. Although she has some things she likes to do a bit, she really (atleast in her own words) have no interest in anything.
she really is her own worst enemy, and it hurts to see her get so down. I try to help, but often to little effect, and in general it drains me to use so much time and energy trying to help her. Ofcourse I love her, so I do it, but I have my life of my own you know, atleast some small fragments of it.
things recently took a turn down after talking together about how this really isn't sustainable, and things have been weird since then.
I'm a unique fellow, and I really have never met a person that I truly connect with in such a way, and I'm afraid I'll never find it again were this to end.
But the girl I love feels like she's gone in her own depths of dark thoughts half or atleast 1/3 of the time. What to do bros, this sucks and as you can guess from my writing, I'm kind of confused and uncertain all over the place right now.