/adv/ - Advice

So here is my problem, I cannot fucking do chemistry. I think I am a fairly intelligent person. I aced calculus and physics. But for some reason I cannot do chemistry. I have been reading and trying to understand, but every single test there is a thing that I didn't learn that just happens to be a really important part of the exam causing me to fail. Then I go around asking people, and every single person tells me that I am stupid for not knowing that.

I usually check the resources the teacher gives, and solve problems with the books that I buy. Somehow this very crucial piece of information that only I didn't know is not in the books for the lesson. This same thing happened to me in high school too. The teachers just gave me more points so I could pass, because I was a goody two shoes in the classes.

I think I may be missing the foundation for chemistry, but I don't want to sit down and do middle school chemistry to study for my college exams.
As an example I failed this semester because I had to know the weight of the water molecule. Before the exam I specifically asked the teacher if we had to memorize the weight of the atoms, and he said it won't be necessary. But in the exam I did everything that could be done without it and failed. AFTER the exam when I asked the teacher he told me that I needed to know at least the weights of H, O, C and N. Like is it even my fault? What should I do? I failed the same chemistry 101 class 3 times already, and I am in a CS degree.

Sorry i posted on another board already i'm just really anxious about this. I jacked off a bit too aggressively about 2 nights ago and after the first night my dick was really fucking swollen and hot. After the second night, the swelling is only localized to the right side on the shaft but my balls feel really tight and pulled up against my body and won't relax (no pain though). What the fuck did i do please tell me that i didn't just fuck up my cock by fucking gooning please

been together with my gf for almost two years now, and we moved in together about 9 months ago.
she has her struggles with self doubt and generally being quite unsure about what to do with her life. Although she has some things she likes to do a bit, she really (atleast in her own words) have no interest in anything.
she really is her own worst enemy, and it hurts to see her get so down. I try to help, but often to little effect, and in general it drains me to use so much time and energy trying to help her. Ofcourse I love her, so I do it, but I have my life of my own you know, atleast some small fragments of it.
things recently took a turn down after talking together about how this really isn't sustainable, and things have been weird since then.
I'm a unique fellow, and I really have never met a person that I truly connect with in such a way, and I'm afraid I'll never find it again were this to end.
But the girl I love feels like she's gone in her own depths of dark thoughts half or atleast 1/3 of the time. What to do bros, this sucks and as you can guess from my writing, I'm kind of confused and uncertain all over the place right now.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying too. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

>nearly 20
>need to study/work in Asia and get the fuck out of the midwest as soon as possible
>deadlines coming up if not already closed
>deadlines for scholarships mostly closed
Is it possible to become an English teacher somehow in an asian country without a degree? Is there a way they could cover travel expenses if I give them something in return like working or something? Is there any possible way? Do I start a fucking gofundme? I’ve been applying to jobs there already and making a resume. I need to make this work. I am not waiting another fucking year for college, and I need to move out within a month, tops

>easily frustrated if I don't get something right straight away
>easily frustrated if I feel a twinge of pressure

How do I stop being a manchild?

Work keeps me away from home up to 15 hours a day. This leaves me with no time to work on my passion projects outside of my days off. I find no time for drawing or vidya modding.
And when a day off arrives, I end up spending it on gay YouTube videos or gay video games, in the end, achieving nothing.
Not to mention I still need to study to get into a university, I still need (should) socialize (I don't), and I need to find love or I'll kill myself.

Continuing on like this, I will soon be 50 and have achieved nothing in life.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

Is there anything I can do fix her stupid horseface? I'm getting tired to look at it and she has become annoying. I'm willing to pay a doctor for a procedure.

About three or four weeks ago, I found out that my group of friends went to the beach without telling me. I only discovered it because I ran into three of them on their way back.
Later, my best friend told me that next time the guys planned something, he’d let me know — he said he thought I was too busy with college (which, to be fair, is somewhat true).
I told him that even though I’ve been busy, I’d make time to hang out with them.
Then, last Friday, I wished one of the guys in our group a happy birthday. He thanked me, everything seemed normal. Today, I decided to go out for a walk and grab something to eat, and I asked my best friend to come with me — something I don’t usually do, since I tend to avoid people when I’m feeling down.
He said he couldn’t, because he was going to a birthday party. I asked whose, and he said it was our friend’s — the same one from the group. That’s when it hit me.
I thought:“Why wasn’t I invited? Are they being fake with me?”
I know I sometimes say dumb things without thinking, but nothing they don’t also say. And I know when to stop I wouldn’t ruin anyone’s birthday. Still, I just don’t understand why they’d leave me out.
Am I a bad person? A bad friend?
I know I don’t usually play games with them, and I’ve said before that I don’t like staying in voice calls, but I really love being with them. I’ve even told them more than once that I love them.
Today, I honestly feel like I’ve lost my place in the group. I don’t feel like I belong anymore. I’ve told them we should plan something, but I’m not good at organizing things. I even tried planning a birthday dinner once, and only a few people showed up the same friends from this group.
And that’s it. Deep down, I just wish I knew why this is happening.

How do you not be intimidated by guys that say they've been in prison and can beat you up?

Has anyone here ever worked at an Amazon fulfillment center?

I heard they don't do interviews. That true?

I need a job where I can stand still in one place and be left alone to do a mind numbingly boring and repetitive task for the entire shift because I hate interacting with people and having to do random things on the whim of the manager. Do they have roles like that at Amazon?

guys, do you think it would eventually work if I cold approach a girl and ask her if she wants a foot massage? I know what you are thinking, it's creepy etc, but if there is a nonzero chance it works, that one time would be worth it even more. It is better than wasting time with relationships where you are not aligned with your interests, no?

what are some ways farts can be thought about as romantic

STOP APPROACHING WOMEN. STOP USING ONLINE APPS. STOP GIVING WOMEN ATTENTION

Stop Asking Women On Dates, stop texting them thinking you are interesting because you are not. The reason you are getting ghosted is because you text and try to be funny, try to make her laugh or sound interesting. If you do manage to go to the next step and are actually meeting up and then get ghosted, stop taking women on dates. That stuff doesn't work anymore in the current year.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyEdsrfTd6Q
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gK1w1cAKS7o

Most importantly stop approaching women, at least for a while. They are already seething and this will only get worse and worse as they get less and less attention from men.
If men can't display a modicum of power over society, this world and women, then I guess they don't hold much power at all.

I'm an emt student who passed class and need to take the national registry exam. I took it a year ago and was 30 points below passing. You get 6 tries total so I'm not worried about that. I have the actual textbook from class, a book of the info in there condensed down, as well as access to YouTube lectures.
I wake up every day motivated to do it and I just never do. I'm even working part time to devote more time to it which I'm not.

How do I develop a regular study plan and also retain what I read?
I can do like 10 minutes and then I want to play monster hunter or something and my mind wanders.
If I don't pass, I'll be a loser no-skill wagie forever probably.

How do you avoid growing bitter and jaded from a shitty middle and high school experience?

I became a mute halfway through the HS and already passed on many things by ignoring people who were genuinely kind. Im so fucking angry.

t.18m in senior year

I married a girl who's mid-looking but now I regret it and want to have babies with a young 20s girl who looks actually attractive. We have no kids and have only been married a year but I'm already starting to deeply regret this decision. I thought being with a mid-looking girl is better than being alone, especially as I'm now in my mid-to-late 30s.

Anyway, how do I get out of this? And ensuring I have a young 20 something girl ready to be with when I jump ship. Also I have a good job and am in decent shape.
Don't call me delusional, by the way. Men care about looks a lot more than women care about looks. Women should really only consider a man's values and money when they consider whether or not to marry him.

Why love it's so hard for people with low self esteem bros

Hello,
For over a year, I have been liking this girl. She is in a club with me outside of school. We do not go to the same school. We don’t even live in the same area. (she lives an hour and a half away, i found this out later)
From last year, I’ve found myself becoming obsessed over her. I’m not sure what it is, but I see her as the one. The perfect girl for me.
We are both teenagers, but she’s two years younger than me.
Part of my obsession lead me to find out every detail about her and her life. I may have overstepped boundaries while finding this stuff out, but so far i practically know EVERYTHING about her.
She has had no prior relationships, nor do i believe that she is actively looking for guys.
I want to make a move, to take action on my goal of being hers, but I believe that if i mess up, im gonna be doomed due to her and her family being a crucial part to my future plans.
I have a plan to send her an anonymous birthday gift, but im not sure what to do next after that.

Thanks.

I’ve never been to a strip club before. I wanna try visiting one just to look at naked women (not even pay for a dance). I’ve never had sex before so I figured it might help me be less nervous around women and to satisfy my own curiosity.

Only thing stopping me is imagining the roles reversed. If I had a gf and I found out she went to a place to look at naked men and have them grind on her I would be devastated. That’s why I’ve put the idea away for so long.

Should I try it anyway and see some titties?

I'm a virgin because womens rights and i was bullied in school because of the civil rights act and being replaced because of the immigration acts

How do you run away from cops? What are some things that work vs don't? I imagine the key is to get out of their sprinting distance after which they are automatically at disadvantage since they wear boots and carry heavy equipment. Then you can just jog in a zigzag until they don't see you and then take off a layer of clothes and get into public transport or some building with multiple exits. I think having some bikes would also help, you just need to know some routes where cars can't pass. Does anyone have first hand experience?

I had a group of college friends (like 10 people) and stopped talking to them because my ex thought they were idiots and got jealous of one of them (a girl I used to like years before, who ended up being my best friend), I didn’t like her anymore, but my ex kept losing her mind about it.
So I slowly cut everyone off. No talking, no hanging out, just isolated myself completely because of that toxic relationship.
Amost two years later I broke up with her and got a new girlfriend, but now I just feel lonely as fuck all the time for the past two years.
Can’t stop thinking about how much of an asshole I was and how I treated my friends like shit, insulted my best friend, and just disappeared. They all still hang out together, and I wanted to kill myself when I found out. I barely talk to my family and I don't have any real friends, the ones who I "have" just ignore me all the time. I don't talk to anyone besides my girlfriend and a friend of my university.
Tried talking about this with my girlfriend. She basically said, “grow up.”
Wanted to fucking kill myself after that.

What the fuck do I do to get over this?

>have people leave me over the years due to my awkwardness
>sometimes I'd fuck up by being too extreme like in high school but in the end I'd have a friend group
>began respecting myself more and found myself more lonely than in groups because I've seen people trying to disrespect me and not in a friendly way where we come up with nicknames and tease ourselves with them but non-stop straight up slander
>university comes, manage to get a friend group
>mostly quiet and when I try to say something people usually have a neutral face, not really smiling, just saying "mhm", I just know I'm not cut out for this
>due to my paranoia I've become very skeptical of them, without their notice I hear them shittalk me behind my back
>try to shake it off, give them another chance but it just comes back
>mfw I'm weird because I was more interested in western media than I was in my own country because they are vastly superior
>mfw I have nothing to talk about with other people and don't get the references they are making
do I become a fucking hermit now or what, I know full well I am weird and I'm not trying to be a normie but holy fuck I hate being lonely sometimes. However being alone is better than in a bad company

>Me smart
>Everything should come easy
>I should be able to do everything others can do and more, without having to work like they do
>I will only do easy or familiar things to validate my intelluhgens
>Slowly being forced at gunpoint to recognize my decreasing general intelligence as I age and continue to take poor care of myself
>I will never take risks or try anything new because new = unskilled = not effortlessly intelligent = identity crisis = self-torture
>Still want to experience life but that requires taking risks and trying new things
I think I have lost at least 20 IQ points since I was born. Whether I am retarded or not, how do I overcome this? I just want to get good at starcraft II but I have lost all confidence in my ability to digest large amounts of information accurately and quickly.

Pretty much recovered from double jaw surgery, now have a bunch of metal plates and screws in my face and I can't feel my lower lip or chin but worth it tho: went from subhuman to LTN. And it's the price I have to pay for having shit genes.

i am in fact 5'10 but i bench 200 pounds do girls still like that

I feel like I’m too boring, too nice and too quiet to excite girls. I have a stable, unexciting job which pays well, nerdy hobbies (history books, gaming and gym).

I watched a video of a guy cooking. He seemed so in control of what he was doing, confident and suave. His arms were covered in tattoos and it reminded me of a girl I was seeing who asked me if I had any tattoos or if I would ever get one (I said no to both).

It hit me, even someone who’s just a line cook is more exciting than me. Is there a way I can become more like someone girls actually are excited to date?

Does unconditional love exist? Or do people only like you when they're getting something they want out of you?

how did you grow your spine?

Is it still a worthy endeavour to date someone with opposite political views to your own? Can I dick a woman to follow my views anyway?

Your crush is out there living her life and enjoying the autumn, going out with friends, socializing, having fun, making memories, forging meaningful connections and getting ahead in life, while you are here shitposting about some relationship bullshit nobody cares about on a beautiful autumn's weekend. Any last words anon before you inevitably end it?

My ex-girlfriend wants me to pay for her hemorrhoid removal surgery. She says that I caused her hemorrhoids by cheating on her with my now-girlfriend and being emotionally abusive. Both are true, I did cheat for months and I treated her like shit during that time, but I don't really want to spend any money I don't have to. Am I legally obligated to pay for the treatment? She doesn't have much money because I told her while we were dating that I wanted to be the only breadwinner, so she last had a job four years ago.

I'm 23 and just lost my granma. I don't have any family left and I just can't make friends due to my autism no matter how much I try. I'm neet and the outside world seems so hostile. I just want to distract myself with my comic until I die but I'm not sure if that's mentally feasible.

Since forever I’ve liked bigger guys. I don’t know if it counts as a fetish or just a preference, but I can’t help but be attracted to fat guys.

My boyfriend is indeed quite chubby, and I love that. I find everything about him attractive. But I also know that, for most people, being fat is considered unattractive, and they’d probably think my boyfriend is ugly.

So when people ask me about him, I get embarrassed. I delayed telling my friends as much as possible. When I finally showed my parents a photo of him, I had to immediately “justify it” by saying that “he treats me great and is really funny”. I hate the idea of people thinking I’m dating someone ugly, even if I believe he’s beautiful.

Recently he’s started asking to hang out more with my friends (we usually spend time with his friends). I know my friends like him as a person, but anytime they see us together, I feel this wave of discomfort and insecurity.

We’ve been together for 6 months now, and I really like him. But this whole thing is exhausting, and it makes me feel like a terrible person.

I misclicked some keyboard shortcut and thread text previews disappeared, only images remain. How to get them back I already checked Settings but nada

>Have conversation with someone
“Oh you’re such a nice guy see you later”
>Explain to someone that you have had a hard time making friends in your life
“How could that be you’re such a kind and nice guy”
>Co-workers having conversation about relationships, they bring you up impromptu, ask if you had a relationship, respond no
“Well he’s just a nice guy”

I fucking hate being this. I’m a pussy. Everyone just thinks I’m a nice guy. When I express anger or sadness it destroys the mood because they can’t imagine me this way. No one will ever like me because I’m a purely asexual nice guy. What do I do

Can reading many books mentally transform a person, or is that just a meme?

Im a 5'10 balding 27 year old man. I have an extreme obsession with desiring sexual novelty, especially with young 18-22 year old women. I have moderate sized social media accounts and i become completely infatuated with the women that follow me. To the point where even when I had a girlfriend for 2 years, I was forced to break up with her because the resentment of wanting to see these girls naked and for them to satisfy me with their mouths was genuine overwhelming. I am completely girl crazy and sex obsessed. But the reality is im prematurely balding so I know I will never have regular access to 18-22 year old cool girl pussy. I tried the shaved head look and it was terrible for me. Im not the ugliest guy in the world, but I am not someone who can pull off being bald.
Anyway, the advice I need is how do I drop these desires. It actually kills me. I want so many women. I want a year where I can go crazy and facefuck 20 girls I meet online and drown in sexual satisfaction, but I dont think thats possible unless youre turbo chad. Genuinely, how do I free myself from his extreme craving?

I have a half-sister (her mother is not my mother) who is a hapa and she flirts with me. Every single time wee meet she sounds, acts and looks like she wants to have sex with me. How do I deal with this?

What is it like to have a girl flirting with you? I know this sounds pathetic to ask, but I'm a 26 year old KHHV who has never received any interest from a girl in my entire life.

My girlfriend doesn't want anything sexual anymore. Our sexual activity has decreased in the past year, I've learnt to accept that sex is just not that common anymore, blowjobs are once in a blue moon, and handjobs are the way she can give me sexual pleasure almost daily. However yesterday we had a "fight" in which she told me I insist too much on getting some action (handjob at least) and that when she tells me no I shouldn't try to insist anymore. She said I was harassing her by doing that and almost making it seem like she's obligated to do that. It makes me feel... like a fucking wimp, to have to beg for sexual action, be called a harasser by my girlfriend, and in the end having to pleasure myself after fucking begging for any type of sexual contact. She's losing weight, taking medications for cysts that mess up her hormones, as well as ADHD medication, so I can understand the low libido. But now it's pretty clear that she wants no sexual contact in any way whatsoever and she doesn't want me to even ask for it. She also got mad because I told her that I've done a lot of things for her (like taking care of our dogs so she could sleep more, washing dishes more often than her, taking her to a nice restaurant) and that maybe she could reciprocate these actions in even a fucking handjob, but she said it was sexist to expect that and that I do those things because I also enjoy them and just for being nice. I feel like a fucking idiot, reverting back to teenage years were masturbation is all I had, I feel like I just want to stop my sexuality in all its aspects, the thought of another sloppy handjob disgusts me. There's a hole in my stomach and I don't know what to do anymore, I've accepted there won't be anything sexual for me for a while, I don't even want to cheat since yesterday's talk just put off my libido, now I feel guilt when I think of sex.

I am a spergy r9k woman who has bitched about how to get a boyfriend with stuff in common here before. Well I found a way on my own that worked with getting attention from these men so I decided to share it with you so you can use it with some changes as a man as well. Because Reddit doesn't allow please give me a gf/bf posts on most subs or even drybegging for it (while participating in the sub normal) I concocted a masterfully subtle I need a partner post by just mentioning how hard dating as someone with cringe spergy hobbies is while name dropping them. That had normies seething about me being a weird sperg while getting the weird spergs I want in my dms asking to date

I wanted to engage in prostitution for gay men because it pays very well as a side quest. However I had to cancel the first meetup because I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Any advice on how to overcome the disgust/repulsion/dread or ways to make money with similarly low effort?

I (m 30) have a coworker who is getting a bit too friendly with me. We get along well and honestly I like the attention and being around her, but I know it could never work and I have a wife and a kid.
My wife is understands my personal issues, let's me do stuff with my mates on the weekend, cooks great, let's me have my own free time and we never argue. I wouldn't want to divorce or cheat on my wife because I wouldn't want to ruin my son's life because of my own needs.
I got married young, so my wife is all I really know, so this new attention is nice, and I know I'm not mistaking my co-worker advances for general niceness. It's really testing me and I need some brutally honest advice.
Am I deluding myself if I believe I can maintain a friendship with this co-worker, like even hanging out with her outside of work? (doesn't work directly with me, theyre in another department)

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My mom can never admit when she is wrong and I've never been able to stand her. As soon as I became an adult I moved to another country to get away from her but we do call ocassionally (out of pity because she does worry about me)

At some point during our call today she started making negative comments and I told her she is proving me right by choosing to keep distance and she told me ''oh, maybe when you come back I won't be here anymore'' implying she could be dead, I called her out on her shitty comment so she decided to gaslight me and tell me ''oh, I meant I could be travelling somewhere else and not be there once you come back''

The gaslighting was really strong and longlasting I can see myself visibly developing split personalities when some time i feel nothing but utter disgust for her while other times I wish my mom was different

So my mom passed in 2019 and my dad lost his goddamn mind 3-4 months later. He started drinking heavily, became verbally abusive, self-destructive, got in trouble with the law, and more. I stopped talking to him at the end of 2020, when I realized no amount of kindness or understanding was going to help him out of that pit.

I just learned he had a heart attack. His new wife called my brother. I don't want to reach out, because honestly I still hate his guts.

Am I being too cold?