>But this weekend, I discovered that stepson regularly smears his sheets with shit and then sleeps in them. For two weeks sometimes. Husband has told him off but "he always answers back". This is the absolute limit for me, however. How????? Husband explained that he uses the toilet just before bed, sleeps naked, then in the morning sits on the edge of the bed to put his pants on. OK, we understand the mechanics of it but in what universe is this acceptable? Why is his ass that dirty to begin with? Accidents happen but wouldn't any normal person immediately rip the sheets off and put them in a hot wash?