>be me, 40 year old NEET
>dropped out of HS at 17 because bullied
>spent next 20+ years rotting in room
>mom got me cashier job, had panic attack after a week and quit
>got diagnosed aspie, took IQ test expecting 160+, got 121
>met "girl" on IRC, fell in love, dated for a year
>she finally tells me she's trans
>sperg out and call her a pervert, block her
>regret it ever since, was happiest year of my life
>mom gets cancer, hire caretaker because too busy gaming and cooming
>develop weird fetishes, become alcoholic
>mom dies when I'm 31
>drink myself into liver failure
>uncle pays for rehab, get sober
>try to get job at 35, interviewer literally laughs at me for 30 seconds
>give up forever
>now 40, never kissed a girl, cry every day
>mfw I threw away my only chance at love
>mfw wasted entire life

Any advice?

i'm coming to learn my close online friend of 5 years is a sociopath, he is at least respectful of my boundaries and secrets and we're both in our 20's, but he has admitted he doesn't see me as important but 'interesting' and fun to be around, we play vidya daily and talk for hours and i care about him deeply, i draw sketches of him occasionally, he likes the same things as me, his preference in anime girls are also cold-hearted, psychotic, emotionally absent girls, i have cried over this and i feel i'm too overly attached to him emotionally, is it possible to remain friends and what precautions should i take? please help.

I have this problem where I keep telling people that I want to make art and music, but when I'm by myself I'm too burnt out or hungry to actually get better and practice. For me it starts with simply not knowing what or how to practice. Artistically I'm intermediate and don't think I need any major help, but for music I'm absolutely fucking stumped. I commonly forget something right after it's been told to me in any music lesson and just jam. And jamming is pretty good, it's just... I have no idea what the fuck I'm doing, what tuning I'm in, I just play it by ear. People say it's talent but it's nothing cohesive outside of just basic pattern recognition. I don't know, can anyone help?

/thread

Anime made me dumb how do i fix this? I used to be able to understand deep and complex movies/tv shows but ever since i started watching anime 4 years ago I can feel myself get dumber and dumber every year. Is it possible to regain my sub-par intelligence? I've stopped watching anime to be safe but i still can't understand movies i would have easily understood 5 years ago

how do I stop objectifying women? they’re so curvy and alluring...

Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

I really need to go to hospital for a couple of days in 3 weeks time. I can explain why but that’s not the main point.
How can I, relatively safely, ensure a 1+ day hospital stay and ER visit, ideally with it appearing as an accident? I must actually be injured for my purposes.
My country has free healthcare. Yes, I am aware this is kind of unethical, and as such I plan to donate the cost of my care to the hospital over the next two years.
No, I’m not scared of the pain. First of all, I’m a massive masochist, and I have always been curious about what it feels like to break a leg. I don’t mind minor permanent injury so long as it’s minor. I don’t do much physical stuff.
Anyone have any better ideas than breaking a leg, or any ideas on how to break a leg? Any tips from draft dodgers? If it helps, I ride my bike often

Is it weird or a redflag that my boyfriend refuses to delete pictures of him and his exes? He doesn't actively look at them, he just has them.

He says it reminds him of his "younger times and good fun he had" and literally said I can break up with him if I have a problem with this.

I am 100% he is not cheating on me and he has absolutely no contact with his exes, he is a massive open book - no passwords on his phone, lets me use his phone and his social media accounts without any second-thoughts, he is not hiding any communication from me. Which is how I found those photos.
He is not even in touch with his exes, not even following them - "they are probably dead or married with 3 kids now, idk I don't care" he said once.

99% of the time we are spending evenings together and every single outing with friends I am always with him. He actually makes sure I come along with him. Sex is great too, we fuck almost every day and we have been together for 7+ months at this point.

I am just wondering if I am overreacting a bit? Yeah situation is a bit weird but besides this he is so fucking perfect.

For some reason I don't like being in relationships with non virgins, it's like if a girl has even kissed another guy or especially had sex with them I see them as disqualified from a life partner or someone worthy of love so the relationship is doomed from the start and no matter how much fun we have or how good the intimacy gets its like I know something is past its expiration date

How can I change this mindset, there are so few virgins that aren't insanely fat or mentally ill

Why do I always wake up with a bad taste in my mouth?
Is it because I sleep with my mouth open? I'm trying to do otherwise, I mew and thumbpull but I still have this bad taste upon awakening.

I've been getting talks from my friends about how my relationship isn't healthy. I feel like its fine with context, but it's context I like to keep private when I'm not anonymous so my friends don't all know it.

I have been going to therapy for an obsessive disorder of perfectionism. My parents really drove home the idea that we relax after we've gotten our responsibilities done when I was little, and I just can't relax unless I know I've done everything I can to do my part for a day.

That leads to a lot of like...re-doing stuff, over and over, until its just right. The weird thing about my bf, which helped a lot, is I felt like when he kinda got bossy and asked me to do something it made it easier to relax.

Like, "I can relax when all this is perfect" changes to "I can relax after I do what he told me to". It's a lot more achievable, and I just melted into doing what he said. EVERYTHING in life felt easier like a ripple effect, and I've been way happier overall.

My friends say I'm slipping into an abusive relationship, like Harley Quinn, and I get that I'm giving up some agency the way she did but it feels like that agency was just making me obsessive and miserable and I feel bad saying it but I'm happier just giving that up?

Are my friends right, or is it ok to just find relief from my brain and its inability to relax by just letting my bf take the lead on stuff?

Never go to therapy anons, the people shilling this shit are often "therapists" themselves, which are grifters. These parasites need to get a real job, starve them out.

IGNORE THERAPY POSTERS AS THEY ARE MOSTLY THERAPISTS SHILLING THEIR GRIFT

Good jobs for an introvert?

And please don't say
>Just get out of your shell

>be me turbo virgin
>tried having sex sometimes never worked (either couldnt get hard or cummed in 3 seconds)
>just broke up with my ex
>decided to swipe around facebook dates
>zero expectations cause i know how dating apps are
>match with this one girl
>we talk a bit about ourselves
>were nothing alike shes normie and im weird nerd/otaku
>we talked about our previous relationship
>told her im virgin(didnt talked about the previous frustated attempts)
>shes a single mom
>were both not looking for long term partnes thats what we have in common
>we add oursevels in social medias
>i ask her out but she cant go
>ok I tried
>for the days following everytime i post something on my social media she gives a like a send me some message commenting about it
>pretty sure shes into me, no clue why, since she keeps doing it
>its been 2 weeks past the one time i invited her out
>theres this one time when she posted herself something about how much she wanted to go out and do something on her story that I could've replied asking her again
>kinda waiting to see if she does a move herself but im pretty sure she will get bored soon and all that messages/like are probably signing me to call her out

Idk how to feel about that i mean ofc going out getting laid would be good but i dont think im a good match with her (shes not ugly or anything) so I haven't put any effort in insisting to go out with her even if we try to have sex im not sure if I can do it i dont know what to do should i ask her out or not

Can you be 5'2 ugly pajeet and still get a White woman tò love you?

How do i make muslim girls want to have sex with me?

I’m pretty self aware about this and I stop myself from doing anything too retarded or corny, but as the subject says, I’m basically a self aware attention whore

It’s only gotten worse as I’ve gotten older and more isolated socially, I have like 3 (kinda) irl friends, 2 I don’t really enjoy that much but as you can imagine any attention is good so I keep them around, and the other one is probably only my friend cause we share physical intimacy and such.

But either way these 3 people are the only constant social interactions I look forward too and I barely see any of them, I feel horrible trying to go to new places to find attention or validation, usually when I’m not seeing anyone I just use dating websites but I just don’t feel comfortable doing that now, I’m not trying to see other people.

I just really can’t think of anything, I’m a massive shut in and I struggle in public settings, literally one of the reasons I’m friends with one of my 3 friends is cause I stalked them online cause they randomly complimented me so I found them and became their friend.

I’m also a fresh high school graduate so I feel like that might add some better background, I’m not in any schools at the moment, and I barely work, just to fulfill my needs and no one at my work is anything like me.

Anyway, I’m just trying to find ways to meet people to make connections that I can get attention from in a somewhat healthy way, or just share your thoughts I don’t care

>>33909181
>that's not love its infatuation
love is just infatuation with longevity,
however the closest thing to True love you can find if you want it is to buy a dog because a dog is
Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

i feel self conscious about basically being a walking contradiction to what other people expect.

i'm a dude 31 years old. i'm bald and have lean muscularity. i'm straight but i'm expressive, and genuine, and enjoy talking and getting to know people and ask them questions about themselves. i also talk in a higher register (like in my mouth/nose rather than in my chest or throat). a lot of the time people, namely gay men, think i'm gay. women have also though i was gay for not being basically creepy and instead respecting their boundaries.

i love to dance. when i'm out dancing at a club or venue, more often than not someone will ask me what drugs i'm on or how many drinks i had. they won't believe me when i tell them i'm not on anything. and i don't take anything, i don't like to drink, take psych drugs, or smoke. i'm fighting a weed addiction of 5 years so i'm 2 months clean at this point.

my girlfriend has been mentioning that her friends are in disbelief that i'm with her, since i don't drink or smoke and she likes to smoke weed and drink sometimes, and take shrooms sometimes.

not gonna lie i feel a sense of frustration. like i'm the odd one out for being myself in society? like it's so weird that i don't do drugs when actually most people need drugs to get thru life and bear the world? i've been through shit as a kid that would make some people kill themselves, and it just makes me think that all these people are weak that they NEED drugs or alcohol to bear existence.

what are you supposed to think when you're the odd one out? it also feels like my gf and i have different philosophies on drug usage. i like being sober and it is frustrating having people project this shit on me

I’m looking for working, actionable advice to get a gf and am willing to pay up to $1000 for it.
Not “just be urself bro” or “ask out the girl in your class bro” tier shit. It has to be real /adv/ice.

Title. So I just started dating this girl for about a week and things are going good, way too good. She seems extremely into me. She sent me her location indefinitely, she texts me constantly, sends me reels/tiktoks all day, constantly holds hands with me, etc. A lot of the videos she sends me involves things like marriage, having kids, etc.

Now in my mind I think this is way too fast for only a week into a relationship, but on the other hand there’s some things I noticed that makes me think she isn’t love bombing me. She is diagnosed with autism although I don’t know how severe, so maybe she dosent know how to control her emotions or articulate them. I told her “I think I’m falling in love with you” earlier this week, and she pulled back and said it’s too early to say things like that. She also dosent call me “babe” or “love” or anything, she just calls me handsome or cutie. She also talks to be about her family a lot, but doesn’t want me to meet them yet because she’s scared I’m going to hurt her

She said the main reason she fell for me was because of certain circumstances that happened during our dates (a certain song she loves playing on the radio during our first kiss for example), and I’m assuming that might be her autism at play to an extent. We also do have a lot of things in common, like exact same music taste, goals in life, etc. and I know she isn’t lying about that because I’ve seen her phone and we have so many similar things in common it’s kind of scary.

What do you guys think? I 100% think she’s moving a little too fast, but at the same time she feels genuine. I’m thinking of talking to her about this tomorrow when I see her. What should I say? Do you think this might be her autism at play?

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There's this girl who fancies me. I've literally never had a real gf before, but I've had sex a few times. The problem is: this girl who's interested in me is very physically titillating, but I'm not sure our personalities would be a perfect match for the long term, which is all I'm interested in right now, I just want a future wife, I'm not really interested in fucking around or anything.

So should I try something with this girl? My instinct is that we won't be a perfect match so it would be more hastle than its worth, but it got me thinking that I have literally 0 experience with what constitutes 'a good match', and I don't know her particularily well anyway, so maybe if I get to know her more we might turn out to be a good match? And I was sorta thinking what are the actual chances of both people laying eyes on eachother and immediately deciding that this is the right person for them, and the other person happens to be in exact alignment on that? Surely if everyone only gabe a chance to people they are 100% interested in from the get-go, then surely we'd all just go extinct becuase its very unlikely two people would happen to coincide on that.

So I'm basically asking for any anons with experience of this: are your first instincts about these things generally accurate and unlikely to change? Do we even need to be a particularily good match personality wise?
And also: there's actually this other girl I was kind of planning on asking on a date. The other girl is less physically stimulating but I'm more interested in personally. Would this bode badly for a future relationship with the girl whose interested in me if she's sort of my second choice to begin with?

Guys, is almost 30 (me) and early 20s (her) okay? We are both adults and she's not a teen but it still feels like it's a bit much and would make people question my intentions. It's not like I really care because I don't think I am doing anything wrong but I am concerned about her reputation and the difficulties the age gap could lead to. We aren't dating yet and things are super casual but I do find her captivating and fun but I am also not sure if getting feelings for someone who's just barely an adult is such a great idea. I am also just out of a relationship that was really tough on me, it messed me up good. I do think new girl is much nicer and she could actually give me what I need (previous girl was an avoidant).
So what do you guys think I should do?
pic unrelated but cute

How can I be happy knowing that the world is rotten and all it's pleasures are ultimately unfulfilling?

Why do asian women prefer nerdy white guys?

>Talking to a therapist, she asks me about my sexual history
>Tell her I'm a virgin still at 28
>"Oh, so you're asexual?"
>"No, I'm not, I want to have sex I just haven't."
>"What do you mean?"
>"What do you mean what do I mean?"
>"You can't tell me you've honestly been trying this long and are still a virgin?"
I didn't know what to fucking say to that and she changed the subject. Therapy is fucking useless.

I’ve been doing nofap/ noNut since October (started early and I don’t have sex) and well.: I’m blocked up. I don’t have wet dreams, even sleeping naked. Thought it would have happened by now but no, I know it sounds dumb but my first time doing noFap and I’m scared I’ll get prostate cancer now
Where the fuck is this extra sperm going? And no, I won’t wank until next month. So.. basically will I be fine? I’m mid 20s, and never attempted this before

I finally, have been given 1 year to life- acute myeloid leukemia. I will ask a bunch of different topics, i'm ESL so my prose is messy...I'll just ask bullet-point type questions so its clear.
>Should I really plan my own funeral? Music choice, slideshow, photos, shrine arrangements(?) etc? or, that makes it more painful and I should just do an austere, solemn event?
>Since I will literally die: Should I "let it out all out" and confess to crushes, curse and abuse (verbally) former enemies, try out every legal possible pent-up desire?
>I have two items from a Bucket List which are : meet a celebrity (I have a short list of possible ones; only one is ok), and pay for a "femdom beating up" session--just a woman kicking and punching me whilst wearing some type of costume like police or so on--Are these so utterly retarded I should, just forget about them altogether?
Any additional advice is welcome.

My dad died, came back to life and then told me the afterlife is just staring in a white void for eternity with your consciousness alive but no body or stimulation. How do I cope with knowing this is happening?

How do I last longer in bed?

As soon as I put it in her, I cum within 3 minutes.

What kind of man do I need to be in order to have a woman look at me like this?

how to flirt with bf? please help me I'm so terrible at this. how would you like your girlfriend to flirt with you?

I need help. I went to see an escort to lose my virginity and now my libido is totally gone because I couldn't maintain an erection with her and didn't do anything except kissing and oral. I'm 29.

I just got too nervous and couldn't have sex. This is despite me not watching any porn for a week or so, so I was quite horny. She was very nice, I admitted my situation to her and we talked for a while. Did a bit of oral, she said I had beautiful eyes. She seemed surprised when I said I was a virgin but maybe that was just an act. We seemed to have a good rapport and talked about interesting things but again, don't know if she was just acting. She did seem quite engaged when she was talking to me and we kissed a lot which I liked. The more we talked the more I relaxed but I felt bad. I'm so pathetic. I genuinely feel worse in a way now. I wandered around afterwards feeling completely alone in this world and wanted to cry. 29 years on this planet and aside from escorts, I'm still a kissless virgin. I deserve to be a Wizard.

Maybe it's a mental thing? I just don't think I can meet a woman and within 5 minutes be having sex with her.

I feel completely drained and I want to vomit. How can I get over this? I feel like I've ripped my soul out and I feel like a husk.

If I keep abstaining from porn, will my libido reboot? Should I try to see her again in a few weeks?

How do I get a girlfriend as a faggot looking male? I'm tall and somewhat attractive but very autistic. I already tried dating apps and it's a meme.

Seeing as how we get multiple threads a day on this same topic, let's try and condense it all here for the month of November.

It’s November again, which means a lot of people are taking on No Fap November — trying to go the entire month without porn or masturbation.
This thread’s for anyone on /adv/ who’s participating or just curious about the idea. Whether you’re doing it for mental clarity, discipline, relationship reasons, or just to challenge yourself — post here.
Let’s talk about:
Why you’re doing it this year
What’s helped you stay consistent
How to deal with urges and setbacks
Any benefits or changes you’ve noticed
Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
No need for “purity crusade” talk or shaming anyone who slips up. Just honest discussion and advice.
We’re one day in — how are you holding up?

How long can I stay in my apartment after I’ve been evicted? Like when will they kick me out? Can I just stay in here for another couple months or are they gonna kick me out like immediately?

Im turning 30 soon and wanna start studying law to become a lawyer before 40, I dropped out of high school (no ged) and have been working construction for the past 10+ years, I just want a different career. Where should I even begin?

And don't get me wrong I make close to 6 figures doing construction so it's not about the money I just need something else in my life.

wife of 4 years and 2 kids (4 and 1 year old boys) because i had an argument with hermum involved came and said she wants a break. i took it to mean divorce, so we are getting divorced i guess.

we were living in the same house for the last week, i've just left, she gave me hope she said she needs a break too tired. she also said shes been wanting to leave me for 1 year, then she said 2 years, then she said 4 years shes been planning it.

im in a different country now. every time i close my eyes either her or my older son appears. i cant sleep for more than a minute without jolting awake. i know the only way i can survive is to not think about her, not text her, not beg not plead but its so hard. what do i do. i feel like my teeth are going to fall out

What is your vision of being smart? How do you define true intelligence and wisdom? Can you give examples—authors, projects, or achievements—that you think show real intelligence in action?

Me and my gf got together a few months ago, we're both seniors in college and it's my first relationship.

We finally started getting intimate about six weeks ago and at first I was super thrilled to finally lose my virginity, but I quickly realized that I had a little bit of a problem in that I can't really control when I cum. I asked a couple friends of mine if it was normal to only last a few seconds, and they told me not to worry, that I was probably just nervous (which I was) and this happens to every guy their first time.

But it's been several weeks now and it still hasn't gotten any better. I've searched the web looking for strategies to hold it in, but so far their tips haven't worked for me at all. I think my diet and exercise regimen are pretty healthy, so is my sleep schedule. None of the recommended mental or physical techniques seem to help, condoms don't slow me down either and they also introduce their own host of issues too.

(1/3)

Currently 23. I was in college for a bit but I never got anything useful out of it because lazy. I just want a job for the time being. only worked subway for 2 years but that location has since closed down and i dont have contact with older co-workers anymore except one person. Not sure if my own resume is just dog shit but i've only been applying sporadically like once or 5 times a week in the past. recently nothing but i genuinely dont know what the fuck to do right now

Now what

I struggle to remember anything.
I can -recall- information, technical stuff, but my memories feel muddled at best, gone at the worst.

I can't remember much of anything a few months back, let alone much of my childhood.
I've kinda always been forgetful, but it's gotten to a new level the past while...

Is this normal? It can't be, right?
Is there even anything I can do about it?

I'm bored of doing nothing of value, but I feel like there's nothing I can work towards
I've looked into volunteering but there's nothing for me there
I need ideas of things I could work towards as a shutin neet, that would be useful to me in the future

I was recently given an ultimatum to get the jab or be unable to attend my family's Thanksgiving, since the more elderly members can't handle getting sick at their age. I've gone this long without getting it, but this may be my grandmother's last Thanksgiving and I haven't seen her since this all started.
What are my options? Do you think they'd buy me just having a bandaid on my arm, or is there something else I may need?

>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

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do you guys believe in this sort of stuff?

>be suddenly thinking about someone i hadn’t seen in over 10 years
>see them 2 weeks later, seated right in front of me at a restaurant

this one freaked me out a bit, but i think that person might’ve forced their way into my thoughts since they were very envious of me (literally tried to take everything of mine away from me while we attended college) so i must’ve picked up on their frequency somehow and we manifested eachother to see how we’re doing. it was valentine’s day, i was with my husband and pregnant while she was with out with her parents and sister. (we are in our 30s so lol)

another instance
>watch an instagram video about a woman who grows long chin hairs
>”kek what a mammoth”
>find a single long strand of chin hair the length of my thumb nail that i’ve never noticed before that same day. plucked that shit immediately
>never ever happened again

and more recently
>selling some old crap on facebook marketplace for money
>having a hard time selling: people lowballing and ghosting. but then remember “manifesting”
>think really hard about how i will get money
>my two of my most expensive item gets sold the next day without slashing prices by two different people

am i gifted or what? i find my life tends to be highly karmic. if i stick to my principles i get rewarded with high luck. i have people who gift me random things: at a luxury perfume store, the associate gave me specifically two free 30ml bottles of perfumes of my choice while my friend who was with me was ignored even though she tried to be nice to the associate for the same perks.

but it seems to be random, because i’m obviously not thinking about it all the time and have little idea how to control these outcomes.

anyone else experience something similar? how do i make the most of this to be in my favor?