What is your vision of being smart? How do you define true intelligence and wisdom? Can you give examples—authors, projects, or achievements—that you think show real intelligence in action?

Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

Me and my gf got together a few months ago, we're both seniors in college and it's my first relationship.

We finally started getting intimate about six weeks ago and at first I was super thrilled to finally lose my virginity, but I quickly realized that I had a little bit of a problem in that I can't really control when I cum. I asked a couple friends of mine if it was normal to only last a few seconds, and they told me not to worry, that I was probably just nervous (which I was) and this happens to every guy their first time.

But it's been several weeks now and it still hasn't gotten any better. I've searched the web looking for strategies to hold it in, but so far their tips haven't worked for me at all. I think my diet and exercise regimen are pretty healthy, so is my sleep schedule. None of the recommended mental or physical techniques seem to help, condoms don't slow me down either and they also introduce their own host of issues too.

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Currently 23. I was in college for a bit but I never got anything useful out of it because lazy. I just want a job for the time being. only worked subway for 2 years but that location has since closed down and i dont have contact with older co-workers anymore except one person. Not sure if my own resume is just dog shit but i've only been applying sporadically like once or 5 times a week in the past. recently nothing but i genuinely dont know what the fuck to do right now

>>33909181
>that's not love its infatuation
love is just infatuation with longevity,
however the closest thing to True love you can find if you want it is to buy a dog because a dog is
Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

Now what

I’m looking for working, actionable advice to get a gf and am willing to pay up to $1000 for it.
Not “just be urself bro” or “ask out the girl in your class bro” tier shit. It has to be real /adv/ice.

I struggle to remember anything.
I can -recall- information, technical stuff, but my memories feel muddled at best, gone at the worst.

I can't remember much of anything a few months back, let alone much of my childhood.
I've kinda always been forgetful, but it's gotten to a new level the past while...

Is this normal? It can't be, right?
Is there even anything I can do about it?

I really need to go to hospital for a couple of days in 3 weeks time. I can explain why but that’s not the main point.
How can I, relatively safely, ensure a 1+ day hospital stay and ER visit, ideally with it appearing as an accident? I must actually be injured for my purposes.
My country has free healthcare. Yes, I am aware this is kind of unethical, and as such I plan to donate the cost of my care to the hospital over the next two years.
No, I’m not scared of the pain. First of all, I’m a massive masochist, and I have always been curious about what it feels like to break a leg. I don’t mind minor permanent injury so long as it’s minor. I don’t do much physical stuff.
Anyone have any better ideas than breaking a leg, or any ideas on how to break a leg? Any tips from draft dodgers? If it helps, I ride my bike often

I'm bored of doing nothing of value, but I feel like there's nothing I can work towards
I've looked into volunteering but there's nothing for me there
I need ideas of things I could work towards as a shutin neet, that would be useful to me in the future

wife of 4 years and 2 kids (4 and 1 year old boys) because i had an argument with hermum involved came and said she wants a break. i took it to mean divorce, so we are getting divorced i guess.

we were living in the same house for the last week, i've just left, she gave me hope she said she needs a break too tired. she also said shes been wanting to leave me for 1 year, then she said 2 years, then she said 4 years shes been planning it.

im in a different country now. every time i close my eyes either her or my older son appears. i cant sleep for more than a minute without jolting awake. i know the only way i can survive is to not think about her, not text her, not beg not plead but its so hard. what do i do. i feel like my teeth are going to fall out

>be me, 40 year old NEET
>dropped out of HS at 17 because bullied
>spent next 20+ years rotting in room
>mom got me cashier job, had panic attack after a week and quit
>got diagnosed aspie, took IQ test expecting 160+, got 121
>met "girl" on IRC, fell in love, dated for a year
>she finally tells me she's trans
>sperg out and call her a pervert, block her
>regret it ever since, was happiest year of my life
>mom gets cancer, hire caretaker because too busy gaming and cooming
>develop weird fetishes, become alcoholic
>mom dies when I'm 31
>drink myself into liver failure
>uncle pays for rehab, get sober
>try to get job at 35, interviewer literally laughs at me for 30 seconds
>give up forever
>now 40, never kissed a girl, cry every day
>mfw I threw away my only chance at love
>mfw wasted entire life

Any advice?

Is it weird or a redflag that my boyfriend refuses to delete pictures of him and his exes? He doesn't actively look at them, he just has them.

He says it reminds him of his "younger times and good fun he had" and literally said I can break up with him if I have a problem with this.

I am 100% he is not cheating on me and he has absolutely no contact with his exes, he is a massive open book - no passwords on his phone, lets me use his phone and his social media accounts without any second-thoughts, he is not hiding any communication from me. Which is how I found those photos.
He is not even in touch with his exes, not even following them - "they are probably dead or married with 3 kids now, idk I don't care" he said once.

99% of the time we are spending evenings together and every single outing with friends I am always with him. He actually makes sure I come along with him. Sex is great too, we fuck almost every day and we have been together for 7+ months at this point.

I am just wondering if I am overreacting a bit? Yeah situation is a bit weird but besides this he is so fucking perfect.

I was recently given an ultimatum to get the jab or be unable to attend my family's Thanksgiving, since the more elderly members can't handle getting sick at their age. I've gone this long without getting it, but this may be my grandmother's last Thanksgiving and I haven't seen her since this all started.
What are my options? Do you think they'd buy me just having a bandaid on my arm, or is there something else I may need?

>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

Prev: >>33874509

do you guys believe in this sort of stuff?

>be suddenly thinking about someone i hadn’t seen in over 10 years
>see them 2 weeks later, seated right in front of me at a restaurant

this one freaked me out a bit, but i think that person might’ve forced their way into my thoughts since they were very envious of me (literally tried to take everything of mine away from me while we attended college) so i must’ve picked up on their frequency somehow and we manifested eachother to see how we’re doing. it was valentine’s day, i was with my husband and pregnant while she was with out with her parents and sister. (we are in our 30s so lol)

another instance
>watch an instagram video about a woman who grows long chin hairs
>”kek what a mammoth”
>find a single long strand of chin hair the length of my thumb nail that i’ve never noticed before that same day. plucked that shit immediately
>never ever happened again

and more recently
>selling some old crap on facebook marketplace for money
>having a hard time selling: people lowballing and ghosting. but then remember “manifesting”
>think really hard about how i will get money
>my two of my most expensive item gets sold the next day without slashing prices by two different people

am i gifted or what? i find my life tends to be highly karmic. if i stick to my principles i get rewarded with high luck. i have people who gift me random things: at a luxury perfume store, the associate gave me specifically two free 30ml bottles of perfumes of my choice while my friend who was with me was ignored even though she tried to be nice to the associate for the same perks.

but it seems to be random, because i’m obviously not thinking about it all the time and have little idea how to control these outcomes.

anyone else experience something similar? how do i make the most of this to be in my favor?

I care about my girlfriend deeply, but we have very different values and definitions of what a good night looks like.I prefer calm, quality time together, while she enjoys clubbing and nightlife with her friends. Earlier in our relationship, we talked about how clubbing made me uncomfortable and she agreed to stop, but over time she started going again and I tried to be okay with it since it was something she really wanted to do. Recently, she left a night we were spending together to join her friends at a club, and it brought back all the original hurt. I feel like I’ve been bending my own boundaries just to avoid conflict, and now I’m carrying resentment while she feels restricted. I don't think going clubbing is something someone in a committed relationship should do. If I was there I'd be less of an issue for me, but I don't want to go clubbing. I’m trying to figure out if staying means losing parts of myself, or if breaking up is the healthier long-term choice

I just saw my ex got engaged, we didnt date a super long time(1 year) but it still kind of bothers me.

The dude she got with looks like an OK guy but is a lower social class and makes less money for sure. I am honestly kind of dumbfounded by the whole thing but she was getting old(36 currently) so if she was going to have kids it had to be now.

My dating life after our breakup has been fairly shitty, I had sex since and a couple short term relationships but nothing really sticks. I fucking love my job though which is good I suppose.

Why do I always wake up with a bad taste in my mouth?
Is it because I sleep with my mouth open? I'm trying to do otherwise, I mew and thumbpull but I still have this bad taste upon awakening.

For background, I’m a 24-year-old Turkish woman. My husband is 29, Serbian. We live together in Serbia and have a small family.

We actually met when I was 19, studying in Belgrad as an Erasmus exchange student. We went to the same university, spent every day together and fell in love fast. He used to pick me up for class every morning and spend the whole day together. He was my first emotionally, sexually, everything. I even got baptized for him and left school to be a housewife. Eventually, we got married and had kids.

I was really close with his family too. His mom treated me as her own daughter , and we often cooked together and shared traditional recipes.

When we first started dating, we had this teasing, flirty thing that involved cultural jokes and racial slurs. We both made fun of each other’s backgrounds. He’d make jokes about Turks and I’d fire back with things about Serbian stereotypes. It felt like something private between us, something that somehow brought us closer.

But recently, I noticed something that’s been bothering me. I have his Instagram password (and he has mine). I was just scrolling through his account one day out of boredom, and I saw that he follows a LOT of far-right and nationalist pages “Save Europe,” “Byzantine revival,” anti-immigration content, that kind of thing.

And it really hit me. Like… this man, who married me, a Turkish woman and had children with me, follows pages that basically preach hate toward people like me?
I keep asking myself if he’s secretly ashamed of me, or if he just likes the “aesthetic” of those pages.

Part of me feels like I’m overreacting, like maybe I’m being too sensitive. But another part of me feels disrespected. I sacrificed so much for this relationship, my studies, my religion, my home country

Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? Am I overthinking it? Or is this something I should actually confront him about?

>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

Prev: >>33896995

I've had the good and bad happen to me. I've been homeless, abused, and lonely. I've experienced having a gf and friends. I've dealt with the lows and the highs. Everything sucks. I don't see the point in anything. Do you have reasons on why you're alive?

How the fuck do I get over my fear of death and the fact that that's it and there'll be nothing afterward forever

i feel self conscious about basically being a walking contradiction to what other people expect.

i'm a dude 31 years old. i'm bald and have lean muscularity. i'm straight but i'm expressive, and genuine, and enjoy talking and getting to know people and ask them questions about themselves. i also talk in a higher register (like in my mouth/nose rather than in my chest or throat). a lot of the time people, namely gay men, think i'm gay. women have also though i was gay for not being basically creepy and instead respecting their boundaries.

i love to dance. when i'm out dancing at a club or venue, more often than not someone will ask me what drugs i'm on or how many drinks i had. they won't believe me when i tell them i'm not on anything. and i don't take anything, i don't like to drink, take psych drugs, or smoke. i'm fighting a weed addiction of 5 years so i'm 2 months clean at this point.

my girlfriend has been mentioning that her friends are in disbelief that i'm with her, since i don't drink or smoke and she likes to smoke weed and drink sometimes, and take shrooms sometimes.

not gonna lie i feel a sense of frustration. like i'm the odd one out for being myself in society? like it's so weird that i don't do drugs when actually most people need drugs to get thru life and bear the world? i've been through shit as a kid that would make some people kill themselves, and it just makes me think that all these people are weak that they NEED drugs or alcohol to bear existence.

what are you supposed to think when you're the odd one out? it also feels like my gf and i have different philosophies on drug usage. i like being sober and it is frustrating having people project this shit on me

Old: >>33914510

What kind of man do I need to be in order to have a woman look at me like this?

May be some pschiatrists sits here. I want to sleep for ~15 hours a day. I came after work and fall asleep in cloth at sofa to the morning. I took palperidone prolong, I have corrected dose to possible minimal, and to end of the cycleI have paranoidal toughts. I change 4-5 pschiatrists, and no one helps. Without my meds I can't live.

I have a hard time relating to other people. Most people around me seem like they live completely differently from me in terms of priorities and interests. I don’t have any friends currently, but I know I can make friends, I just don’t have any motivation to because other people just feel like NPCs.

how do I stop objectifying women? they’re so curvy and alluring...

how to flirt with bf? please help me I'm so terrible at this. how would you like your girlfriend to flirt with you?

Like is that professional? Are you supposed to be able to do that? Because my current therapist who I've been seeing for about 6 months once a week by now knows about my issues related to depression, anxiety, adhd, ocd, bipolar, autism, schizophrenia, schizoaffective, etc (I'm not exaggerating by the way my brain truly IS just THAT fucked up, they are all official diagnoses) and how they pretty much kill any motivation I have to do shit including very basic hygiene and stuff, with my teeth and skin being so fucked up because of so much neglect to hygiene. And I've been struggling to do very basic tasks my therapist assigns me and therefore not making much progress if any at all. I do generally feel better after talking to her though.

But anyways about a week ago or so my therapist asked me "Okay, so let's think about this for a minute. So how do you know the issue with all this lack of motivation and hygiene neglect is ACTUALLY caused by the depression and schizophrenia and all your other diagnoses and NOT just simply caused by laziness?" And then giggled and put both hands up to her mouth like an innocent but mischievous school girl, as if she had just asked a gotcha question she knew I wouldn't be able to answer properly. And I wasn't able to really. All I really was able to say was "It's possible that that's correct but I know mental illness can be a cause for these things." And she said "Well regardless of mental illness or just laziness you still need to put in the effort."

Personally I found the question low-key offensive even if it wasn't her intent. It just kind of felt like she was disregarding everything I ever told her for the last 6 months I've known her for and just reducing it down to simple laziness. Not sure if that was her intent but it felt like it.

How do I go from being an uptight, feminine neurotic gay man to being the chill go-with-the-flow wigga who's attracted to chicks? Not trolling, I literally want to do this IRL.

Need advice on interpreting the situation, Advice from girls would be much aporeciated.
short background on situation:
>Decide to remain friends with girl after a fling (we had nothing physical) because we are coworkers and she is married and feels guilty
>We agree to speak strictly in friendly manner from now on
>We are in love
>Insane sexual chemistry between us
>She then tells me she wants to send me some pictures as a parting gift since I never got to see her naked
>Sends me nudes
>We start sexting and I make her cum twice
>She feels guilty again agree to continue as friends again
>Fast forward to the morning and we talk like friends
My question is how real is the intention to send nudes as a "parting gift"? does everything really end here? Was this action actually motivated by a "goodbye" or should i expect more to cone from her?
I decided to not pursue aggressively for now what are your thoughts?

I struggle to find a girl that's an artist, a writer or just a gamer, or a weeb.

I am an artist, and a modder, so I've long wanted a girl that was also into such things—so that we could collaborate together and work on cool projects with one another.
But I can't find these anywere.
On dating apps, the vast majority of women are normies with no interests beyond shopping, netflix, partying and the gym. The few girls that are into the same things I am, are obese. And I'm sorry, but I have standards too.
In online games, girls are bombarded with simps.
In artist communities, girls are bombarded with simps.
The real life remains the only avenue left open. But... where do I find this demographic? I can't attend an art school (or any school for that matter, since I work full time), most nerd girls don't go outside.

Where can these people be found?

I'm 27 and never had the crazy life or even normal experienced people have. I'm basically a neet and having no job, friends or girlfriend isn't helping. I don't know where to go because everywhere I go I feel out of touch.

You! Yes you! Get your fucking ass off those fucking porn sites, tell your CS Go douchebag friends to fuck off, and stop listening to fucking depressing music. Take a little bit of your government money, but instead of spending it on video games, spend it on an online program in Computer Science. Then afterwards get cleaned up, dress nice, and go through webcam interviews until you get a decent job.

Hell of a lot better than you being mopey all day.

You'll thank me in 5 years.

Seeing as how we get multiple threads a day on this same topic, let's try and condense it all here for the month of November.

It’s November again, which means a lot of people are taking on No Fap November — trying to go the entire month without porn or masturbation.
This thread’s for anyone on /adv/ who’s participating or just curious about the idea. Whether you’re doing it for mental clarity, discipline, relationship reasons, or just to challenge yourself — post here.
Let’s talk about:
Why you’re doing it this year
What’s helped you stay consistent
How to deal with urges and setbacks
Any benefits or changes you’ve noticed
Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
No need for “purity crusade” talk or shaming anyone who slips up. Just honest discussion and advice.
We’re one day in — how are you holding up?

My dad died, came back to life and then told me the afterlife is just staring in a white void for eternity with your consciousness alive but no body or stimulation. How do I cope with knowing this is happening?

She reads cheap YA sloppa. How do I transition her into a cute /lit/ boywife? I was thinking maybe Kafka to set her toes.

Why should I be allowed to take abuse for other people having problems/issues with things that aren't their business?

For example people seem to lose their shit at me "perceiving" them even though it's part of their responsibility to be perceived, like a person singing on stage, or even a live TV presenter.

(mind 20s male) i've tried couple dating apps even local ones and i have in meanwhile also tried in person approaches. and well dating apps are dating apps just as what i heard them to be like. not yet touched tinder but few others like warming up if you will. well then to the in person I find that in most situations people are tuned out from polite advances and then even industry meetup a woman i've chatted up couple times i ask from her this "I'd like to get to know you better could we meet up at a cafe?" and well it's as if she didn't register i was asking her to cafe to get to know her better. and well i've heard this joke from both side of aisle that women here are either taken or lesbians or both.

so what i advice i am looking for. beside tinder where else should i be at? rave parties do not work, bars don't work, cafe and libraries people are preoccupied, hobbies people focus on the hobby.

I thought school dating world was bad but dear god, after school it's nonexistent.

I would happy for now that I would manage get first dates going on as every date is progress to meeting that someone with whom things would go well.

How long can I stay in my apartment after I’ve been evicted? Like when will they kick me out? Can I just stay in here for another couple months or are they gonna kick me out like immediately?

Does it really take one to no one? No, this is a general question that applies to anything.

What are the chances of me going schizo if I smoke weed? (I'm predisposed to schizophrenia)
Also are people so brainrotted that they'll believe weed is worse than all the other pic related things just because some britbong Yootoob infographic show tells them so?

Im turning 30 soon and wanna start studying law to become a lawyer before 40, I dropped out of high school (no ged) and have been working construction for the past 10+ years, I just want a different career. Where should I even begin?

And don't get me wrong I make close to 6 figures doing construction so it's not about the money I just need something else in my life.

How fucked are you if you're a NEET with no skills or work experience by 30?

I'm a 32 year old woman. Give me any advice you think is relevant.

How do I unfuck my life at 21?

Does she like me?