How do I unfuck my life at 21?

Girlfriend just told me she's pregnant. 30 year old female. I'm 32. I've got a good job, she's about to finish her physics PhD. Naturally I'm going to marry her. Any advice from dadanons or schizos on how to raise a good family, have a healthy baby and avoid autism? What do I need to know about pregnancy and early childhood

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Good jobs for an introvert?

And please don't say
>Just get out of your shell

how to flirt with bf? please help me I'm so terrible at this. how would you like your girlfriend to flirt with you?

how do I stop objectifying women? they’re so curvy and alluring...

My girlfriend I met online suddenly had a set of life circumstances hit her and we took the opportunity to move in together. She's now a few states away from her family and I'm right at home in my home state. It is great, and I really love her, but there are some things I'm not certain how to deal with and it can be exhausting. Things like
>not really having any alone time or peace because I'm an EXTREMELY introverted person
>always feeling like I need to be an entertainer and in some kind of fun mood
>always feeling guilty if I'm not actively doing something with her even if I want to do my own thing for a day or two
>feeling like I need to be dependable even as I'm going through my own problems
>not being able to sleep in the same bed as her because we have exact opposite sleep habits (I need to doze off while watching or listening to something, she needs total silence and darkness)
What can I do? Open communication about things helps of course, but the problems keep cropping up. Is this normal? It's been about two months now.

I have been NEET for a grand total of 1 month. I know this isn't so bad but I know I won't ever get out of it.

The issue is, I can't move on because I am crushingly directionless. I don't know what to do with my life. I don't have any ambitions or dreams. I don't have anything at all to strive for. I cannot get out of NEETDOM or even the mindset that follows with it.

How can I find any sort of inspiration? I cannot live like this. It's killing me

What is your vision of being smart? How do you define true intelligence and wisdom? Can you give examples—authors, projects, or achievements—that you think show real intelligence in action?

How do you know the person you want to marry is the right person? Any married or even divorced anons have advice?

What percentage of women will actually not date/break up with a guy over differences in political views?

Seeing as how we get multiple threads a day on this same topic, let's try and condense it all here for the month of November.

It’s November again, which means a lot of people are taking on No Fap November — trying to go the entire month without porn or masturbation.
This thread’s for anyone on /adv/ who’s participating or just curious about the idea. Whether you’re doing it for mental clarity, discipline, relationship reasons, or just to challenge yourself — post here.
Let’s talk about:
Why you’re doing it this year
What’s helped you stay consistent
How to deal with urges and setbacks
Any benefits or changes you’ve noticed
Whether you think it’s actually worth it or just a meme
No need for “purity crusade” talk or shaming anyone who slips up. Just honest discussion and advice.
We’re one day in — how are you holding up?

How do I stop talking about myself? Other people are so boring, I wish they would just speak their mind without being asked.

How do I deal with envious people everywhere I go? Family, friends, workplace
People treat me unfairly and act as if they are justified and then the next moment they're seeking validation from me and trying to measure they're own worth. Are they retarded?
This is a huge obstacle and burden. Nobody ever helps me. Everyone tries to take from me but also associate themselves with me implicitly. It's like a coordinated effort to tether me down and cut me off from resources for the benefit of the group

So I want to get serious about drawing and get a drawing tablet. What I see everywhere is that you should get one that doesn't have a screen, but I don't have a laptop and I don't want to be chained to my computer desk while I'm drawing. The ones with screens are more expensive which is expected. What do you think?

>. A person who's very outgoing, has an active circle of friends, charming, and takes control of the situation.
When you're with him, he takes you around places, he leads conversations, he introduces you to other friends, and treats you nicely. You'll probably want to be around him, you're free to be a submissive person towards him because he makes you feel safe socially. The entire experience of being around him is exiting and addictive.
How do I become more like this?

How do I last longer in bed?

As soon as I put it in her, I cum within 3 minutes.

So apparently women think being in a relationship is going to make them miserable. That's what one of them told me when I asked them why they don't want a relationship.

How the fuck then do I get a girlfriend if this attitude is what I have to face before they even meet me?

As I wash the lube and cum out of my mouth/anus combo fleshlight from last night's goon session, I think to myself, "is it over for me"? 25yo, and all I've ever managed to do was fuck some female strippers and a bunch crossdressers and trannies. How do I fix this? I want more normal women in my body count

i dont know what to do, every day i feel more warped, frustrated, and dissociated and nobody knows what to do, whenever i try asking for advice, i either get mocked or get bandaid solutions like "hit the gym" or "go on a diet" if not blatant dismissal disguised as help like "touch grass" or "go to therapy"

everything feels so fucking useless and my inner monologue is desperately trying to convince me that this is useless to but surely I have to do something before i give into breaking in some regard by doing something incredibly evil and/or stupid

the only things i give a shit about are finding a way to get rid of the increasing omnipresent background stress that never goes away no matter what or finding a distraction to it or finding ways to cope by understanding it more. my memory is severely horrible and there are many parts of my psyche i cannot access such as feeling connected to any feeling besides lust or anxiety

i have no idea what caused any of this but its been getting progressively worse since i was 13 and now i am 20. i dropped out of high school in 11th grade because i didnt give a fuck about my future or anything

sometimes i think i should try to help others but i wouldnt know where to begin because i suck at literally everything except being annoying (this is not depression speaking, I am able to "feel" good moods but no connection to them) even then, the "good" moods come out of nowhere and I still acknowledge i am a drain on everyone around me

what can i do to stop this spiral of madness?

Is it normal for people to get bored and move in in relationships after the honeymoon phase ends?

How do I go from being an uptight, feminine neurotic gay man to being the chill go-with-the-flow wigga who's attracted to chicks? Not trolling, I literally want to do this IRL.

What is falling in love like for women?

I’m looking for working, actionable advice to get a gf and am willing to pay up to $1000 for it.
Not “just be urself bro” or “ask out the girl in your class bro” tier shit. It has to be real /adv/ice.

Need advice on interpreting the situation, Advice from girls would be much aporeciated.
short background on situation:
>Decide to remain friends with girl after a fling (we had nothing physical) because we are coworkers and she is married and feels guilty
>We agree to speak strictly in friendly manner from now on
>We are in love
>Insane sexual chemistry between us
>She then tells me she wants to send me some pictures as a parting gift since I never got to see her naked
>Sends me nudes
>We start sexting and I make her cum twice
>She feels guilty again agree to continue as friends again
>Fast forward to the morning and we talk like friends
My question is how real is the intention to send nudes as a "parting gift"? does everything really end here? Was this action actually motivated by a "goodbye" or should i expect more to cone from her?
I decided to not pursue aggressively for now what are your thoughts?

I'm in my 20s and after getting targeted I now have brain damage where math is difficult, but I can still function normally in day to day life. My plan is to get married, have a child, and then join the military so my husband and child ends up getting gibs if I eventually get offed. What else should I do?

Why am I never complimented or approached in public by strangers despite being good looking, charming and in shape?

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>>33909181
>that's not love its infatuation
love is just infatuation with longevity,
however the closest thing to True love you can find if you want it is to buy a dog because a dog is
Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

I want to kill myself. My planned method is combining vinegar and bleach to make a form of Chlorine gas. I live in a duplex, with my mother, younger sister, and I living on one side, with a single man what is only home 33% if the time, and has some marriage drama that I will not get into because his personal info does not need to be on the internet. Either tonight, tomorrow after school, or another day, I was going to shut myself in the garage we share with our neighbor, combine the chemicals in a small plastic water bottle, or some other container, breathe it in, and finally find freedom. I understand that Chlorine gas is fatal, but I only want myself to be the victim. I have failed 8 other suicide attempts (by different methods) and only 2 were even somewhat close to death before family showed up, or I gave up. Any ideas on how I can contain the gas within my garage so I don't harm neighbors, dogs/cats, and especially my own family, and a family with 2 5 year old's that live behind me? Please. Anything will help.

How can I permanently stop masturbating?

I'm a Belgian (flemish) citizen living in Spain, in a small village, close to Portugal. My wife is Mexican, I'd like to start an agency online, a business that could be run completely from my laptop and here in Spain. I do have many ideas, but anons here usually stimulate my creativity so I'd love to here what you would do, I'm open to everything that makes bank

I'd never (and have never) dated one, but I keep becoming attracted to men who are low or highkey alcoholics. How to stop it?
I think it might just be my immature self finding that sort of thing ""cool"" and not being able to get rid of this pattern. I've never gotten used to drinking, have been to a bar only a few times in my life, never alone, and have never tried even the mildest of drugs, like weed. I don't feel "cool" or experienced enough to hang out with someone like that, and if I do, I tend to overthink a lot and get nervous.
(not a tranny)

Do you think studying systems engineering is a good option?

I'm 27 and never had the crazy life or even normal experienced people have. I'm basically a neet and having no job, friends or girlfriend isn't helping. I don't know where to go because everywhere I go I feel out of touch.

There's this acquaintance of mine from my childhood. He was a jackass then and he's a jackass now. He thinks he's better than everyone and always the star of the show. He's a completely average looking guy, like the most generic NPC looking guy you can think of, wouldn't stand out from a crowd in any way. He posts a lot of photos on his Instagram of him playing video games, playing soccer, fishing, hunting, etc. Even one photo where his face was all bloody but he was happy as he held up the trophy from soccer.

And then women in the comment section go like:

Woman 1: Oh my God he's so hot.

Woman 2: Girl what are you talking about he's so plain!

Woman 1: He's not plain he's hot!

Womans 2: He's not hot he's plain!

And back and forth for several comments till he steps in...

Him: Ladies, ladies...can't we all agree that I'm both hot AND plain?

Woman 1: Oh my God! He's so humble!

Woman 2: Oh my God! He's so humble.

And those are real women and not his alt accounts by the way. They have hundreds of photos and thousands of followers.

And like...how the FUCK do you get women to fight over you like that? I go to the gym, my job pays $100,000 a month, I live in a big house, I paint, etc, and yet this shit NEVER happens to me no matter how hard I try.

>32 yo
>do biology tutoring
>one of my students is this pretty 18yo minx with huge boobs
>end up becoming fuckbuddies
>want to keep it casual and on the down-low but she now wants to introduce me to her friends
>refuse because I feel like it could get out of hand
>she insists and it’s caused a bit of tension between us
>don’t want to break things off because she is super hot and the sex is great
>she’s basically one of the few good things I have in my life right now

What to do?

Does she like me?

For some reason I don't like being in relationships with non virgins, it's like if a girl has even kissed another guy or especially had sex with them I see them as disqualified from a life partner or someone worthy of love so the relationship is doomed from the start and no matter how much fun we have or how good the intimacy gets its like I know something is past its expiration date

How can I change this mindset, there are so few virgins that aren't insanely fat or mentally ill

do you guys believe in this sort of stuff?

>be suddenly thinking about someone i hadn’t seen in over 10 years
>see them 2 weeks later, seated right in front of me at a restaurant

this one freaked me out a bit, but i think that person might’ve forced their way into my thoughts since they were very envious of me (literally tried to take everything of mine away from me while we attended college) so i must’ve picked up on their frequency somehow and we manifested eachother to see how we’re doing. it was valentine’s day, i was with my husband and pregnant while she was with out with her parents and sister. (we are in our 30s so lol)

another instance
>watch an instagram video about a woman who grows long chin hairs
>”kek what a mammoth”
>find a single long strand of chin hair the length of my thumb nail that i’ve never noticed before that same day. plucked that shit immediately
>never ever happened again

and more recently
>selling some old crap on facebook marketplace for money
>having a hard time selling: people lowballing and ghosting. but then remember “manifesting”
>think really hard about how i will get money
>my two of my most expensive item gets sold the next day without slashing prices by two different people

am i gifted or what? i find my life tends to be highly karmic. if i stick to my principles i get rewarded with high luck. i have people who gift me random things: at a luxury perfume store, the associate gave me specifically two free 30ml bottles of perfumes of my choice while my friend who was with me was ignored even though she tried to be nice to the associate for the same perks.

but it seems to be random, because i’m obviously not thinking about it all the time and have little idea how to control these outcomes.

anyone else experience something similar? how do i make the most of this to be in my favor?

>feel bad because not studying so i get my shit together and start studyin
>brain physically hurts
>"I'll bear with it"
>understand nothing AND my brain still hurts
>now i feel fucking depressed ontop of everything else
>literally don't know from where to tackle this shit
am i even supposed to "push through" when things are like this? Do i apply effort when it does nothing and feels horrible ? i feel like giving up and just waiting for a time when studying actually does something

Never go to therapy anons, the people shilling this shit are often "therapists" themselves, which are grifters. These parasites need to get a real job, starve them out.

IGNORE THERAPY POSTERS AS THEY ARE MOSTLY THERAPISTS SHILLING THEIR GRIFT

Was a shut-in for 3-4 years, Now I'm more or less cured and decided to socialize but I've literally forgotten how to talk to people, Not hyperbole someone says something and I just stand there like a fucking retard
Conversations *can* flow but I don't know the mechanism behind it, I literally didn't have a friend since elementary. and haven't had a conversation longer than five sentences in 4 years.

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I finally, have been given 1 year to life- acute myeloid leukemia. I will ask a bunch of different topics, i'm ESL so my prose is messy...I'll just ask bullet-point type questions so its clear.
>Should I really plan my own funeral? Music choice, slideshow, photos, shrine arrangements(?) etc? or, that makes it more painful and I should just do an austere, solemn event?
>Since I will literally die: Should I "let it out all out" and confess to crushes, curse and abuse (verbally) former enemies, try out every legal possible pent-up desire?
>I have two items from a Bucket List which are : meet a celebrity (I have a short list of possible ones; only one is ok), and pay for a "femdom beating up" session--just a woman kicking and punching me whilst wearing some type of costume like police or so on--Are these so utterly retarded I should, just forget about them altogether?
Any additional advice is welcome.

Even though life is a terrible mess and there is a lot of awful things going on, no matter what, try to enjoy life.

>be me (20M) at home
>receive two videos from my female friend (late Halloween party I think? that's what my cousin told me) at 5 am
>too sleepy and lazy to watch them now
>go to bed instead
>in the afternoon, I remember them videos she sent me last night
>she deleted the messages, they ain't there no more
>msg her "too late lol" even tho I didn't watched them
>hasn't answered yet

Maybe I'm overthinking, but this can't be good, right?
We haven't talked in a while, we were supposed to meet up 3 days ago and she kinda ghosted me.
Maybe she said summ in the videos about me and regretted it next morning.

>Talking to a therapist, she asks me about my sexual history
>Tell her I'm a virgin still at 28
>"Oh, so you're asexual?"
>"No, I'm not, I want to have sex I just haven't."
>"What do you mean?"
>"What do you mean what do I mean?"
>"You can't tell me you've honestly been trying this long and are still a virgin?"
I didn't know what to fucking say to that and she changed the subject. Therapy is fucking useless.

How do I analyze what went wrong and learn from it for the future? It's been like a year since it ended and it was my first real relationship (I was in it for like 10 months) and I still don't think I'm fully over it.

I try to talk to friends about it a little when I feel comfortable sharing, I try and analyze it as if I were an outsider but I did so many things wrong myself and I feel like he also did and that he sucked as a person. Well, I guess you shouldn't date somebody 12 years older than you as your first bf.

In a way, I guess I feel a little cheated and maybe manipulated? I'm not sure what to say about it. There were just multiple moments with this man where you get that gut feeling that's telling you "oh this is a bad idea" but not just like "oh it's bad for you" but rather a more primal "fight or flight" scenario type of thing, where you kind of fear of what he's going to do next.

He never hurt me or did anything bad to me but there were just multiple moments where I feel he was just like, trying to drill into the insides of my mind and basically manipulating it to his whims to get me to feel like he feels. I feel really awkward about it. I don't know what else to say or how to describe it. I've also been sort of mentally not that well for a few years now, sort of an asocial shut-in person so somebody holding my hand and hugging me and well, "loving" me for the first time felt good, it felt really comforting. Maybe that's why I don't want to let it go.