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>Maybe for you it isn’t.
For me it isn't romance? I'd certainly say it isn't.
I have no desire to whisper sweet nothings into a friend's ears as I sensually hold them because our relationship isn't romantic. I'm not seeing how you find strong bonds to be romance when it's not different then a friendship.
>Potentially like I wanna cheat
Cheat how? You open up to some other friends and tell them your hopes and dreams? You most likely already do that and your lesbian gf doesn't get mad. Because it isn't an actual romantic relationship where those types of jealousies arise.
>Like how a friend-group might brush away my fears of a ghost haunting my house.
Brushing off a potential attraction to a male is not at all like seeing a ghost. Ghosts don't exist. If your friend group did that they would insinuating that you having a hetero sex life is akin to fantasy. To me that sounds like coercion.
But in any case we aren't going to change each other's mind. I think you aren't baiting but you are part of social circles that encourage being an ace lesbian and for some reason you don't think that's influencing you.
All I'll say is keep trying to find what makes you happy and I'd simlpy suggest not brushing off potential sexual attraction in the future.