/adv/ - Advice

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Previously on ATOGA: >>33625537

I've been interested in cybersecurity for a while.

I'm proficient in basic networking and Linux usage, but I'm not sure how to proceed.

I'm currently progressing through Hack the Box Academy and looking for your suggestions.

Aren't interviews for entry level jobs kinda stupid?

My girlfriend started taking hormonal birth control against my explicit recommendation instead of opting to use a non hormonal method of birth control as I had advised her to do. Since she has started using hormonal birth control, our relationship has gone to shit.

Her anxiety has gotten so much worse that she has a minor episode almost every day, her depression symptoms (which she did a very good job of managing in all honesty) became significantly worse. The birth control itself effectively nuked her libido and desire to experiment sexually, and she now has to take 2 other medications to counteract the fact that the birth control made her anxiety and depression significantly worse. Her personality has become so horrid over the last few months that I genuinely do not enjoy spending time with her.

She luckily has not had any major physical side effects from the birth control (if anything it has made her lose weight which is sort of nice as she can almost pull off the sexy twig look. yes, I want her to be at a healthy weight while also being skinny)

I know that its the birth controls fault and not her, but I am at the point where I dont know how much more I can take. I desperately want her to get the implant removed, but she is refusing to do so until she hits the one year mark, despite the fact that she herself admits that the complications are horrible. I dont know if I can survive another 7 months of this while keeping our relationship intact.

should I as a kissless, hugless, hand holdless 30 year old virgin fly to Thailand for a 10 day sex holiday? I`m basically at a point where I feel like I`m no longer able to masturbate my way out of it like I used to be able to.. even if I cum 2-3 times a day I go to bed wondering what it would feel like to have a girl riding on my pink rocket or what it would feel like to have a wet pussy grinding on my face etc

and yes, I would be going for prostitutes, not normal girls

I got a job this year, and I'm still trying to play ball at a decent level, so my free time has been significantly reduced. I picked on reading and that's what I've been doing mostly in my free time but I don't get to watch tv and films at all anymore. I feel so sad cause I know there are so many great shows and films out there but I just won't be able to keep up with them. I'm growing up and I'm starting to get more responsabiltiies and I know it'll only get worse with time. I like reading desu but I just miss films and tv so much. How does one get over this feeling of letting go of your hobbies as you grow up?

I need the access codes for wiley plus and McGraw Hill connect. They are stupid expensive and I don't want to spend so much money for that stupid shit. How do I get them for free, or at a lower price?

Is being indian that bad that the entire world hates them and accuse them for things they never did?

I’m often on the other side giving advice here, and I’ve never really asked for any so here it goes. Perhaps you can help me.

I just want to give some context about my life and what you would do if you were me apart from “killing myself” like I’m sure many replies will say obviously. I’m in a very privileged situation but I haven’t capitalized.

>19
>Argentine, lived my teenage years in Uruguay; my friends are split in Uruguay + Argentina + USA/other
>Socially alienated at early age due to exposure to the internet
>Studying a degree in “digital business” (baby CS + business) in Argentina and doing relatively well.
>Look slightly below average
>5’9
>Live with my dad
>Drive a BMW E90 and my dad pays for everything related to it (gas, car washing and such)
>$900 monthly allowance where I save 200$, and most of what I plan on spending is nightlife (tables to make friends). Positive cash flow.
>$11K in IBKR account invested (I will never touch this money really)
>$20K saved in cash
>$3K in gold
>will allocate 10K into a crypto portfolio next month
>pic related is my finance flow as a social network graph. Orange cluster is my dad’s card extensions, blue is cash, red is stocks, light green is crypto, dark green is Uruguayan stuff. Purple is Arg fintech / banks.
>Socially not the best. I don’t know why, but the results speak for themselves. I’ve been told I’m great in public speaking and stuff like that (I used to excel in Model UN and debating), but apparently I guess I’m much of an “other” to my peers cause I don’t play their sports or listen to their music and whatever. I’m also described as being too intense and ruminating a lot, which is true. You might mistake me for the introverted anime gooner type for the way I’m writing this thread; I actually speak in a surprisingly NT way, it’s more about the intensity, anxiety and rumination I think.
>Dad is a respected entrepreneur (you’ll see why this is relevant )
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>so what do you like to do?
what am i supposed to say to this?

During pretty much all my childhood, my parents marriage was falling apart and during many nights I saw terrifying fights between them, which probably gave me some sort of trauma and may be the reason i let people walk over me and i am so avoidant of confrontation.

My father also had this idea that it was better if i was stuck at home forever, bored to hell, because on the street i could get some "bad influences", so i also missed out on basic social interactions, play-fights, and all those core experiences that allow people to know basic keys of socializing during their childhood

So now im a 30 year old man, my middleschool friends moved on from me, and i feel that i will never be normal at socializing, and i still avoid confrontation instinctively probably due to that childhood trauma. I have learnt the socialization process and the protocols and i can force myself to do them but its extremelly tiring for me and i kinda gave up. I spent pretty much all my youth just being a clown to try to get people to laugh because I couldnt just be earnest and form social bonds in other ways so theres that too

is there any way i could now fix this behavior? learn to stand up for myself, to be earnest in socializing, to not alert the normies and workmates that im not "normal" once they spend more than 20 minutes with me and i have no banter or anything to talk about anymore?
I do enjoy talking to people about specific subjects or doing small talk, im just not good at it

https://youtu.be/gwrek6k07Ho?si=fARAMB-_VkjtkBOx

Shouted racist heckle at BGSU basketball game in 2008(?). It was racist & wrong and I was a stupid 18 year old idiot.

I am now wondering if my actions resulted in a donor(s) targeting me & eventually murdering a few family members.

Both of my grandfathers died within about 2 weeks of each other in July 2024. I don't think they were natural deaths.

My tall gym bro made a bald joke today. Is he right?

How do i make myself care less about what people are saying to me on a website without identity or honor to defend? There are just people that are so wrong but think they can lecture me that it always turns into a spergfight nobody cares about.
How do i avoid this?

Hello

i made friends with a girl and we really clicked, and i started to fall for her. this relationship lasted a few months, then i visited her in person in her country.

i enjoyed my time with her but i was still unsure of the situation, handling a LDR, moving to a different country, etc... i wasnt sure if i should persue her, but she still seemed interested in me.

a couple of months later, she found someone, and is dating him now. someone local to her. as soon as she told me this i stopped talking to her completely, and every single day my heart aches thinking about her and i have dreams of talking to her almost every week. i know she's completely moved on and has no interest in talking to me, and she's too proud to talk to me anyways.

if i talk to her i know my heart will ache because she has a boyfriend and i'll never be her boyfriend. i want to be her boyfriend. i wanted to marry her. if i contact her it'll only lead to me feeling bad but at least i'll be her friend. i dont think she'll have any benefits to being my friend. should i contact her?

As an introvert, what are some challenges I will face and how should I overcome them?

Coworker Girl said there is no chemistry between us but she likes me as a close friend as we know each other for more than a year. Early this week she told tha she wants to see a horror movie, but nobody wants to go with her as her friends don't like these type of movies. I showed subtly tha I watched and also liked these types of films.
On Saturday she organized a small party for a few colleges andI also was invited. We talked about a bunch of things and movies and she mentioned again that she doesn't want to go alone to watch a movie. We talked about some horror films that we both saw.
Does she want my company? Should I ask her out? Of course not as a date. Is this a hint for me?

>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

Prev: >>33583742

I have never in my life talked to a girl my age they all looks so fucking heavenly and shit
Like how are they fucking real man
I need advice on how to talk to a girl for first time without looking like a creep

As a woman, how do you avoid unwanted attention when wearing a mini dress?

>I got fired by text on Friday
>I am paralyzed from the waist down, and I live in a rural area
>The only jobs are factory jobs which are out of the question, and service work for near minimum wage.
>I don't get disability, have been trying for a decade since I got hurt

Is there anything I can do at home for income or how can I get a company to give me a chance for a low level office position? I have CompTIA certifications, but those are a scam it seems. I figured that was my ticket into an office position.

She speaks in short, incomplete sentences, often swallowing half her words. She can’t follow instructions, like changing a light bulb. When I try explaining things to her, or using online tutorials, she just can't follow the instructions. If it says
>now put part A into B
She will put part A into part C, insist she did everything right, and become frustrated. I will fix it for her, she will see her mistake, she will be grateful for the help, but she will make the same mistake next time. It's adorable in short bursts, but dealing with it is getting hard. She mixes up her colors, and her left & right.Abstract thinking, planning for the future or discussing complex ideas, is beyond her.
I can’t have vacations with her, without fully guiding, and planning every second. I try to talk about more complex topics, she will adapt to my views, without understanding them. She will go along with everything, because she trusts me. I feel like I'm brainwashing her, because she will eat any ideology I show her, as long as she thinks I agree with it.
I feel more like a father, and she feels more like my daughter, so much that I don't want to be intimate with my girlfriend anymore.
She’s kind and buys me small, overpriced gifts with money she doesn’t have. I love her, but my frustration is growing.
She started calling things by baby words (potato = patata, and the likes), and shows a growing appreciation for having me do babytalk to her. "Googoo-gaga, who's my little cutiepie?" kind of stuff.
She grew up in a broken home. She never got to have a childhood, or loving parents. I'm worried that the trust and stability I show her, is now making her regress more and more to try to re-live that safe childhood she never got to have.
What should I do? I feel terrible speaking like this. I want to give her the safety to be naive, and innocent around me, but I can't deny that this isn't normal. Or is it?

tomorrow I'm going to the wedding of a girl I've had a crush on for the past 5 years. 5 years straight I've fantasized about her, I've kissed her lips a thousand times in my mind. now I have to watch her get married to some other dude. To make matters worse I volunteered to be their personal chauffeur so I'm literally going to be driving them back to their hotel while they're sat in the back of the car making out with each other. Should I have said no? I don't know why I put myself up to this, I might drive the car into oncoming traffic and kill the three of us.

Sometimes I think I'll never be gay. But it's so hard to get real women, that when I do see a decent looking tranny with their cock, I think, hmm maybe it won't be so bad.

What do you think? Should I just give up and go for one of these pretty cocked trannies?

Why are normalfags so insistent on their wife or husband moving on after they die? I don’t get it.

I'm ngl if I had a girlfriend that was good to me and the only way we were separated was if she died I'd be perfectly fine never falling in love again. Never having sex again. I would make her a shrine and worship her in ritual like every day. I'd live my best life knowing she somewhere might be watching over me. I’d take care of our children if we had any with 100% of my being, and to immortalize their mother’s love through myself. My love isn't so selfish as to mourn her being taken stolen or otherwise from me in this life. I choose the love that is eternal, so much so that it would wait for her in the next life. That's what I would want. That’s what my future wife would want. Idk, this topic gets brought up a lot at parties now that we’re getting older.

LETS GOOO I TESTED POSITIVE FOR AIDS IM CLEAN, i was quite worried at the prospect of having aids but thankfully the test result came back positive so im clean

I am 20 years old. I live with my parents and don't have a car, but I am wanting to get one soon. For right now, I use their car to go to my job, which is working at the deli in a grocery store. I want to go to college to become an accountant or a financial advisor (preferably the latter, because really I hate math, but my interest in history won't get me a good job). However, I absolutely hate my job. It's not really that hard, but I am incredibly depressed in my life because my job is so unfulfilling. I like writing, I like studying languages, and I like playing video games, but nothing I do in my personal life actually feels meaningful and because I have no way out of my situation, I feel completely hopeless and powerless and I'll have to just keep doing this until I can go to school. Even then, though, I'll need a job.
This deli is so awful. It's so mismanaged and understaffed. There is constantly so much to do and it's just a neverending cycle of going and slicing meat and making sandwiches. I realize it's a very easy job compared to most others, but it's not emotionally easy. I want to find another job, but everything available to me is either retail or fast food, which would be just as bad, if not worse.
What should I do? I am to the point that I feel so powerless in my life. I feel like I'm stuck in a cage. I would not be surprised that if this continued, I would end up just contemplating suicide. I don't want to do this anymore.

My girlfriend appears to have some sort of anger issues. I tend to be the most gentle person around others, and I usually am prone to walking on eggshells, so maybe I've exasperated the problem, but she seems to be quite to anger and negativity.

The most ready example is she will rage at video games in a very harsh manner. I know many are probably thinking that's cute or charming when a girl does it but.. it's not. But more importantly, it manifests in other ways too, like a very cold anger toward me at seems to come out of nowhere.

Everything else in our relationship is mostly fine. We get along, she's my soulmate, but her mood swings are scary and make me feel like I need to be walking on eggshells or apologizing all the time. What do I do? I don't want to call her out about it and make her feel bad. Her self esteem is already low and I dont want to take her down a notch by pointing it out. I DO want it to get better though. She's in her later 20's so I worry it might not get better.

I made an account in both bumble and tinder, got +50 and +99 likes respectively in a few hours
my incoming like ratio in bumble is 15.5% (i asked for a report), which according to picrel it would put me in the top 1.6% of men
I've also received compliments and super likes

yet I just can't match with women I'm attracted to, but I have no idea where to meet women my age irl (20s), I graduated from college and moved to another city
the very few times I saw women my age on a social setting, they approached me, and they looked much better than any of my matches, but it was honestly sheer luck they were there in the first place

This shit is already affecting my motivation to lift weights. Like, what's the point if you are a subhuman male with a small dick?
>inb4 greek ideal
They fucked little boys and not real women otherwise the ideal would be a big one.

My ex-wife trooned out about a year ago. It still stings. They were a terminally online NEET who mooched off of me and my parents the entirety of our marriage. They went from a "non binary" person for attention to a full FtM tranny in the blink of an eye. No one questioned it except my parents. Testosterone changed who they were as a person. Constant mood swings and needed more and more validation. Needing a binder to feel ok and getting a buzzcut. She would spend all day talking to her tranny friends off discord and bitching about Trump. We decided to get a divorce in April of this year after my parents kicked her out of the house claiming my parents abused our dogs. She lived with her parents for a few months and the plan was to save up for an appartment. But I realized how much happier I was without living with her. We lived in my old bedroom for a few years. It wasn't very comfortable. Anyways she moved to New York with her tranny friends. I'll probably never see her again. I probably wouldn't even recognize her. She wants nothing to do with me now because she remembered me jerking off on her feet in her sleep a few years ago. It just became a problem a few months ago. She could have brought it up in the numerous couples therapy sessions I paid $100 a pop for. We could have stayed friends.

Still in the process of getting a divorce. Its a long, tedious process.

How do I cope with the guilt?

My gf and I hardly ever have sex and neither of us have talked about it. I have no idea what her thoughts/feelings/wants about it are and no idea how to broach the subject respectfully.


Early in our relationship we'd have sex a lot, then I went on antidepressants and my dick broke. I went off antidepressants, dick worked again but we're still barely having sex. Been like this for 1,5 years.
Any time I try to touch her in a sexual manner, she gives nothing in the way of a response. She doesn't tell me to stop, doesn't moan or tell me it feels good/bad, doesn't move to make it easier for me to touch her, doesn't touch me back. Just nothing.
Anytime I try to make out with her, she just keeps her lips shut tight.


The few times where we do have sex is usually when she'll just outright say "do you want to have sex".


During sex she'll give extremely little in the way of nonverbal communication. It's literally impossible for me to read what she finds pleasurable and what not. No facial expression, no moaning. Occasionally she'll make a squealing noise, but she makes that exact noise when she enjoys something as well as when she finds something unpleasant. Only thing I know for sure is that she enjoys getting jackhammered or fingerblasted because that's the only thing she does clearly communicate about.


At the start of our relationship we communicated pretty openly and explicitly about sex, but the initiative always came from my side and any time I'd ask her if she found something enjoyable or if she'd want to try certain stuff she had a very difficult time putting her feelings into words, and eventually I stopped initiating the conversation.
So now we haven't talked about sex in 1,5 years.


With my previous gf I brought up the difference in sex drive like 3 times in 2 years and somehow she managed to experience that as me putting too much pressure on her so I'm very anxious about opening up the conversation with my current gf in a constructive way.

How do you build self-confidence and cultivate a strong sense of self?

Had sex with this chick and now she wants to be my girlfriend but I literally fucking hate driving and she wants to hang out every weekend

Somewhere along the line of my life, I lost sight of what I want or what would make me really happy. So I am in a position where I feel like I am just going through the motions of living. I am not suicidal but I don't feel enamored by living. It sounds like such a first world problem but its how I feel. Like I have friends who say "Yeah I can't wait to leave work and spend some time with my family on our family vacation!" Whereas me, I currently can't even fathom that. Even though I know I want a family. I feel inadequate because I don't want to have a family just because. I want to actually like my family. What can I do to get out of this slump. Not sure why my life goals are so clouded. I know I am not suicidal but I am also just not enthralled by living. This combination of feelings leaves me feeling very unempathetic sometimes too. I want to get out of bed and crave living. Again, I have never felt suicidal but I guess I just feel incredibly mid on the will to live scale. I feel like I am being kept alive by weird things. Like video games coming out. My thought before Elden Ring came out was "Wow, I hope I don't die before Elden Ring comes out." Most normal people probably have thoughts more like "Wow, I hope I don't die." I want that kind of normal.

I know this gets asked a lot but I could actually use some help on this.
I am about to start up a professional channel, I have all the resources and connections to jump into it and have a decent start. So it's not a total shot in the dark... Still I know chance its never a sure thing it will catch on.
What can I do to help insure it is a little successful and maybe makes part time money?
For context it's a subject matter expertise channel with entertainment elements. Think hobby channel with some real resources behind it.

I have never romantically connected with anyone and have lost all hope of being loved . All my friends are fake af and I barely talk to my family. I unironically believe everyone is dead and it's so hard to be the only one alive. Sometimes I think if I was dead(which I have attempted several times already) I won't even know this world and the people in it ever existed so it's all in my head anyways. I fucked my life so bad what now?

This video gave me self knowledge and a new outlook on life.

https://youtu.be/hgs9K36_E2A?si=TGHA9A3eiwSZep80

I think you should watch it too, and take notes while you do it.

Did you know that if you give women a blank check on the grocery budget, she will always buy way too much food and tons of food will go to waste?

Did you know that women get their reality from their emotions while men get their emotions from what's happening in reality.

I have ascended and finally have a social life at 27 but my mindset from browsing this shithole during my formative years still remains.

Is it possible for a man to become multi orgasmic?

And by that I mean cumming multiple times without losing their erection.

How do I become more productive when my only real motivation is "it would be nice if I got there" but getting there is often very boring if not stressful?

What's the minimum size for a dick to qualify as BBC/BWC?

18
Ugly
Never had a girlfriend
Can't fucking drive
My parents hate me
No friends
No one wants to hear me out
Not as smart as others
Can't study
Have trouble talking to people
It's so fucking over for me

I have a lot wrong with me I think. I have many hang ups and sticking points in my personality that make me a very inflexible person. I am near certain I am autistic. I hate when plans change and I hate driving at night. I can't stomach driving into crowded places either. This obviously limits me a lot for dating as I also can't drive with a passenger in the car. What I was planning was to basically over expose myself in such a way to these types of problems so that maybe I can actually function within them. I am such a ramshackle person that I can't stomach too many disruptions like this without falling apart. Is this the right path forward though? I just want to live a comfortable life and engage in a relationship if possible. I don't want to live like a rat in a wall panicking and running scared from everything. This world obviously wasn't built for people like me and I get that. However, I am still living in this world and I hate that all these double compounded fears hold me back and ruin my life. None of these things I particularly like doing though so its hard for me to combat them. Do I have to basically delete who I am in order to truly free myself?

Am I out of touch with reality if I want to find a job that pays me $100 an hour?

Is it shameful to be filming amateur porn? bc that's how I feel
I feel stuck.
>manager has been giving less hours and less OT
>bills chewing through my savings..
>in comes my ex
>she's a camgirl now
>offers to pay me in exchange for my dick on cam on weekends
I took it 'cuz I had to, but I hate her guts.
Typical basketcase bitch, she hurt me a lot, but now she's acting all friendly... But I have to go along with it.

I know there's two ways out of it but idk how to proceed:
>1. Get a new job
I got this job through Disability Assistance and they won't get me a new one for another 8 months..
>2. Change my mindset
Maybe if I'm less ashamed of myself I wouldn't be taking psychic damage... But idk how to do that.
This shit feels inherently humiliating.

I'm jealous of my friend. When I go out with him, I'm jealous of how easily he gets attention/laid from women. He's kind of a sex maniac and currently has 3 FWBs.

He actually says he can never get guy friends because of dudes always get jealous and he's glad that I'm not like that. But whenever I go out with him, it's so painful because he just seems to effortlessly do what is impossible to me. My confidence actually gets worse because he does this thing where he hyper-analyzes my communication with others and tells me where I went wrong. And he's usually right. But it just massively sucks and isn't really fun.

It's not to say I'm an incel/sperg. I'm not. I'm handsome, but my game is objectively bad, I mean its not TERRIBLE, because I still get contacts and stuff from women when I go out, but it usually goes nowhere. He wants to help me but also I feel like a shitty friend for being jealous of him. I feel like a lost dog following him around on nights out because eventually I just get so put out at how he goes from group to group effortlessly whereas I just see a bunch of strangers.

He wants us to travel together. I feel like it would just be him getting laid the whole time and me just listening to nearly nightly sexcapades which honeslty might just be too much. but also I recognize I am a shit person and not sure what to do. I can handle going out and having some introspection but travelling with him will feel akin to getting cucked almost I feel like

He's a good friend, and I think I can handle my ego getting slapped around for the better on an occasional night out, but I think travelling with him would destroy me.

At the same time, maybe it would be an opportunity to break out of my shell, but maybe I'm just a sperg and there is no breaking out of it for me. Idk.

My entire life I’ve been extremely extremely calm, I NEVER lost my temperament. People can laugh at me insult me, defame me and I wouldn’t even react. I always realize I was just good at holding in it. I was always uncomfortable in my own house with my family (mom and dad from birth to 20 years old). Now that I have authority over someone (my wife) I have this internal anger and I just want to release it. My wife was talking to me and I was looking at her in the eye and I just want to grab a knife and stab her and get close to her and hear her scream and her begging me to stop. Idk why I’m so internally angry maybe because I never ever showed it on the surface? Everyday I just think about me killing my wife and it doesn’t leave my head. Picrel is her eye