/adv/ - Advice

In this thread, we ask the opposite gender anything!

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Previously on ATOGA: >>33878503

What is the ugly side of dating?

>Ball and chain
>Women are mostly ugly
>Women use makeup and filters as a cope
>Women age like milk
>Women feel entitled to your finances
>"my company is a privilege you should pay for"
>Honeymoon phase ends
>Women will miss Chad
>Women love validation and attention from Chad
>Marriage isn't worth it for men no matter how you slice it

>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

Prev: >>33850893

For those who feel lost, you should. I have the answer. Come and attack me with your questions. Attack me with your doubt. Attack me with all the images you are a prisoner of. Tonight, my mind desires to be with yours. Tonight, you might never be yourself again, thanks to me. Thanks to the journey I have taken, first for me and now for you.

What's a normie-proof way of saying a girl is chad only?

I have the bad habit of abusing alcohol. However it only happens in a very specific context. It has to be when im with certain friends and when we meet up for a trip or a bar.

The frequency is absolutely not the problem. the problem is that when i drink in these cases I go WAY overboard. like starting to black out by the end of the night stupid. This happens to me like 5 times a year. but the rest of the time I drink very little or even nothing at all.

So the problem is, why do I at certain times drink WAY too much? most of the time i can go to a bar and keep it low enough to legally drink. Most of the time I don't even want to drink when im out and about or with anyone else other than particularly close friends.

How do I stop getting blacked out drunk with these people? I think the reason why I do it is because they are doing it and they do it because I am doing it. and we don't even do that together unless we are on a trip or if it's saturday night at the bar.

Is this even a problem? Some people act like this is normal, others act like im retarded for doing this

Long story short, I'm writing a plot device to be used for a story later. But I've got a dilemma in my story.

If a society can create perfect synthetic women, what unique value does an organic woman have outside of child birth/Ova production?

I'm trying to keep this as believable and logical as possible. In all of my explanations within the story is sensible and doesn't involve "well...just because okay!" or "space magic" as a reasoning for anything. But I keep coming back to this question. I'm really trying to prevent the women of my story from essentially becoming body farms but when faced with the consequences of such a system it always devolves into that.

How do I do it? I'm socially inept from years of social isolation, I'm basically socially retarded at this point and need help. I want to be more charismatic and likable but it's really hard because I'm usually very awkward

>volunteer for some political candidate this past winter
>meet another volunteer there and get his number
>reach out to him last week asking about current policy developments in our area
>i ask if he’s down to hang out (I want the networking give me some kind of benefits)
>he says pic related
How should I play this? Should I act aloof and innocent (ie “oh what are you talking about hahah. We can’t just hang out or have fun?”)? I feel stressed and frustrated now. It’s such an annoying fucking obstacle. He sees right through me. First time I’ve been called out like this.

How do i get a retardo/quiet weirdo gf on tinder? Is it possible or should i try somewhere else?

Hi, this is my first time using this site so I’m not really sure how it works but this is basically just my rant. i'm 19, bi, and a virgin. some people tell me I’m pretty (but i don’t really see it) but it just feels like that’s all anyone notices about me. I'd say i look pretty alternative, which might contribute to it idrk. back in high school, a guy pretended to be my friend but only wanted sex. when i ignored him he started stalking me and even contacted my family until he eventually moved away. at university, I met a cool girl who became my friend, and we planned to go clubbing together and i was staying at her house. her boyfriend’s cousin had just moved in, and since he played a game i liked, we started talking and added each other on discord. i was so happy because i thought I’d finally found someone to play games with but the next day when we called he began making sexual comments about me, saying he only talked to me because i was hot and kept begging me for sex. i told him i’m only interested in intimacy with someone im in a committed relationship with, but he wouldn’t stop asking me to reconsider and telling me how good he's make me feel. how do i make it stop i’m so tired of being wanted only for how i look. i want someone to love me like really love me for who i am and not just the way i'm perceived by other people. I want to find someone with the same interests as me and actually likes me and not just the way i look. is that such an horrible thing to want?? i want to be loved so badly, is there truly someone out there for me? or am i destined to forever be alone. i want a friend not just a sex partner. i want someone to grow with and laugh with but it seems i can never find someone like this. i'm trying but im growing tired. sorry for ranting i just really wanted to get this off my chest.

TL;DR I slept with my roomate and now things are weird, whats next?

I've been living with this woman for over three years now. I met her after posting an online ad because I was short on cash and needed help paying rent. We've never had any problems. In fact, I rarely see her at home since she's always working, some kind of bureaucrat or something, a complete workaholic. She barely talks to me, and our interactions are usually limited to a simple "hi" when we run into each other in the morning before work. I know she is my senior for 4 years but that's all i know about her.

But about two weeks ago, she suddenly asked me if I wanted to have sex with her. It seems her "girlfriend" cheated on her and she wanted to spite her. I said yes, mostly because I'd been going through a rough patch and feeling pretty depressed. We didn't even use protection, which I know was stupid given the STD risk. I may live with this woman, but she's still basically a stranger to me.

Anyway, this afternoon I was sitting around playing Xbox when she asked if we could talk. She told me last night she'd had a dream where she was pregnant, and when she woke up, she freaked out after realizing it was just a dream because she felt like she had "lost a baby that was never real."

I don't know why she told me that or what it meant, but I could tell she expected something from me and I ended up hugging her. Im very confused, i don't know whats happening. Whats going on? Im not very experienced with women.

I'm basically 40 years old and I have somehow managed to convince this freshly 18 year old girl to date me.

She turned 18 back in January

How do I deal with people calling me a pedophile when they see me with her?

She graduates high school next year.

I'm eating a donut that has bacon on it.

If I continue down this path, am I going to become obese with diabetes?

I have a 9" inch penis but when it's flaccid it shrinks down to 3" inches.

Is that normal? Or am I considered a "grower" and not a "shower?"

How do I go about telling people I'm dating a mom and her daughter?

The daughter is 21 and we are in a threesome.

Why do I feel guilt for being neet when I don’t owe anyone anything

How receptive would random women be if I offered them $100 an hour to take part in erotic modeling?

Would you betray western civilization and join the CCP if they offered you a qt renamon gf?

Me and my gf got together a few months ago, we're both seniors in college and it's my first relationship.

We finally started getting intimate about six weeks ago and at first I was super thrilled to finally lose my virginity, but I quickly realized that I had a little bit of a problem in that I can't really control when I cum. I asked a couple friends of mine if it was normal to only last a few seconds, and they told me not to worry, that I was probably just nervous (which I was) and this happens to every guy their first time.

But it's been several weeks now and it still hasn't gotten any better. I've searched the web looking for strategies to hold it in, but so far their tips haven't worked for me at all. I think my diet and exercise regimen are pretty healthy, so is my sleep schedule. None of the recommended mental or physical techniques seem to help, condoms don't slow me down either and they also introduce their own host of issues too.

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The love of my life has left me. Because of the burden from my past that I carry. She filled me with so much purpose and meaning. She made me feel a way I didn't think possible. But when it came to light, she left me. I am broken. I carry a burden far too heavy. I'd like for it to all be washed away. I want to be forgiven. I want to feel peace again. I'd like for myself to be washed away into non existence. To clear all the good and bad parts. My soul has learned enough lessons now.

How do I stop getting crushes on girls I know I have no chance with. I’m sick of this shit

I have had a massive pregnancy fetish my whole life. It is a fetish in the literal sense, I am not really all that attracted to non-pregnant women. That being said, I would like a wife and kids some day but for obvious reasons I do not want to seriously date a pregnant woman, yet due to my fetish it is hard to get any kind of long term relationship off the ground as I end up being rather apathetic towards the women I go on dates with. I also do not want to "explore" my fetish as I have found that it leads me down a degenerate path and I have felt an extreme sense of guilt and conviction the one time I did do that.

What do I do here? I am seriously looking for advice and not trolling btw. Thanks.

I constantly feel like a worthless piece of shit because of something I did (justifiably I believe). Six years ago I met an autistic woman on a dating app. We talked over a year, but she definitely seemed less intelligent than me and I kept it strictly as friends. A year later I went through a mental health spiral, and contacted her explicitly with the intention of being friends with benefits. Why I'm not sure, but I remember distinctly feeling worthless and pathetic at the time. We exchanged explicit pictures over a day/two days (I don't remember exactly, my memory is awful) but then I came to my senses, ended things politely, and blocked her. During the exchange I was pushy in what I thought, I suppose, was a flirty way but in hindsight was fucking gross ("aww c'mon show me more ;)" and shit like that). Nothing physical ever happened. I later deep a deep dive into her Facebook and learned that she was not just autistic, which I chalked a lot of her behaviors up to, but intellectually disabled. She held a job and was planning on moving out of her parents' place when I spoke to her, and we met on a dating app so I think she was capable of consent, but I still feel predatory and disgusting. I've never done anything like that since.

I feel constantly that I should be ostracized from society, that I should be abandoned by my friends/family (none of whom know about this), that I'm an awful human being. I don't know what to do with myself.

Or at least 80-90 % of it. Started a new job last month and everything was going well until three weeks ago. Two guys who started later than me started shittalking to me and after a couple days I told one of them to fuck off and he did, the other one was silent for a few days and started again. I took him out of the office to talk with him and it escalated into shouting and threatening each other. We were warned by HR not to do that again, the day after everything was fine but the weekend after I see more people got distanced and colder, some actively sabotage my work and try to make me look stupid while I excel most of them. Another week passes and it becomes even worse. Lots of gossip without me knowing anything that is said and using the few allies bit by bit.

Usually I don't care but even when I ignore it it stresses me and I become sick and need to take days off.

Tips?

Im not gay but i have grindr downloaded. I have it so I can potentially get s*cked off by ftms and femboys. And possibly if a guy is cute enough by one of them too.

But anyway I had to turn on the sound for notifications because I needed to hear the notification from my mom when she texted me because she was coming over. The vibration isnt that strong.

So I turn on the notification and my mom eventually texts me that shes here. She comes in and I just put my phone in my pocket.

Im in the living room with her and my gay cousin. We're talking about the government shutdown. All of a sudden a loud as fuck grindr notification goes off in my pocket. My mom asks what it was and I go just twitter.

My cousin goes no it wasn't and looks at me in a funny way. I look at him like dude stfu. He just ignores it and is like "Michael (me) that was a grindr notification". My mom is like whats that I thought it was twitter. My cousin is like "its just an app. A gay app."

Im like "dude what the fuck is your problem" I legit want to knock him out

My mom looks at me funny. Im like what mom. She's like you're gay? Im like no I just use it for femboys. She's like whats a femboy.

I dont know what to say at this point and say I have to get back to studying (im in college) so I go to my room

My mom left and texted me, i still haven't looked at the text. Im so fucking embarrassed. What the fuck. Im thinking about putting laxatives in my cousins food. Give his partners a little more lube if you know what I mean. Fuckin dickhead.

What should I do? Im not saying im bisexual thats gay with extra steps.

Is it rude to ask my hoarder roommate to clean up after himself? He’s 34

>be 30 years old
How do I approach 18 year old girls without coming across as a creep?

There's a really cute blonde zoomette working at a drive thru that I go to frequently. I'm 34 years old and I've been running into her working every Saturday evening. She doesn't seem like she's really into me though. How do I raise her interest and manage to make her pussy wet? I really really want to fuck her!

Happy Halloween! I'm just going to vent hear real quick. I just got my first real job at an ice cream/burger place(I used to work for my dad but that doesn't really count). And I thought it would be cool, but it fucking sucks. They want me to come in at the most inconvenient times. My college is an hour drive from my place, so it's a huge hassle to go there, come back, and get ready for work. I already feel super burned out. To top things off, I feel like I kinda suck at my job. It should be easy, just be a cashier, but they also made ma

ke ice cream (which is actually cool, I'm not complaing), wash dishes (I hate it, it wasn't in the job description either), and clean the place (also not in my job description). I'm basically a janitor who does cashier stuff every once in a while at this place. Oh and all of the other new recruits are picking stuff up way faster than me because I'm a retard. Fuck this dude. I can't quit though, my family needs a little extra dough atm. Wagie life SUCKS. And yes, I know I'm a bitch.

How can I start making money as a catfish?

Would women really feel bad about being raped if It was prime Tom Cruise doing It?

how and/or DOES this even happen in metropolitan areas? it seems like there is a huge boom in social club type programs for the dating scene, but circles of couples are extremely cloistered and standoffish in my area. i wish we had 2 or 3 couples we knew at similar age and income levels that we could casually invite to weekend brunches or other activities. i guess it mostly happens through work? or people preserving college/high school friends? but my business is remote, and at hers, shes the boss of a bunch of girls 5-6 years her junior

Im going to come out and say it: Im a 22 year old bong and I hate my country. I hate the people, I hate the fact that it never gave me a chance, I hate the fact that every time I try and put my foot in the door to begin my life I end up getting rejected. Military, police, fire service etc rejection, rejection, rejection. I hate the fact that I don’t share the same values and I cant see the world the way other bongs do. I hate the fact im not like other people in this country, that I never had the same experiences or milestones that others had while growing up. Never did drugs, had sex or partied or went clubbing. It also doesn’t help that I’m a closeted atheist from my muslim parents. I have no connection with my cultural identity that they raised me in. Ive made so much mistakes that cost me a lot that I just had enough and It made me realise something: Im not British. And you know what thats fine. I have to make my peace with that but Im also making a promise to myself that Im not going to die here. Fuck this place, I’m not going to be buried here. My plan is to gain a paramedic degree via apprenticeship here then apply for an emt position abroad. I wish I was born in America so thats my wish. I have to bite the bullet and realise that in order to leave I need to gain valuable skills and purse higher education. But are there any other routes that I can take to achieve this?

>M 36
>Have 17 F friend
>feels really weird towards her

We met 1 year ago when she was 16 at first I treated her normally like i would my other friends, she felt really comfortable around me so she started age regressing due to her childhood trauma. I think its really cute but god whenever I look at her sitting comfortably in my bed and acting like i child i imidietly get hard. I dont wanna feel that way what the fuck is wrong with me.

Her parents doesnt really care about her so im kinda like father figure but how tf im supposted to stop my dick from getting hard? I want her to feel more comfortable around me im not a predator and never wanted to be. What should I do

If you have sex with a female robot, but it's controlled by a guy, are you gay?

I'm making so many sacrifices daily in order to follow God. How can I know if He is real and I'm not wasting my life away?

Every time I get on a nofap streak, within 3 days I start to think constantly about gay sex and having a boyfriend. Does that mean I'm gay? I don't think about it nearly as much when I'm not on nofap and I usually only watch porn featuring women.

>begin uni
>have a friendgroup
>not liked enough to be in their groupchat
>I am well aware of their groupchat and whenever I'd ask about not being added there they just laugh
>liked enough to be kept around, they often ask me to come with them somewhere, not being made fun of but I suspect that I'm being shittalked behind my back
>one of them shows me a picture of one of his friend parking really shitty, he says "she's our friend but we don't really like her"
>makes me feel like I'm that kind of friend to them
>recently there have been talks about a halloween party, suddenly it goes with something like "yeah we aren't so certain about that yet, we'll let you know"
>everyone is suddenly busy today
>I am not invited
>due to my suspicions of them not really liking me and having me around for some reason I begin to avoid them unless it's natural to be around them
>I spend significantly less time
>they notice I don't sit around with them as much and ask me to come over but I say that it's fine
Idk why people are like this, if they try being a fake friend then what's the point. I'd rather be a loner at this point but it's too weird to break this whole thing up. At least I have connections through them and uni goes by easier. What do? Thoughts?

The freeze on foodstamps isn't what gets me. Because they'll probably resume benefits eventually. What gets me is the ABAWD rule that's about to go into effect. Basically everybody without kids is getting cut off from Nov 1st on.

Is there a way for me to get around this?

Last time on /atoga/: >>33875355

we are so fucking absolutely cooked i can go on /gif/ and theres a gorillion BMWF cuckold N threads and millions of good, successful, young white men are incels.

>Im friends with this girl
> Girl doesn’t express herself well but keep talking constantly, sometimes very cold.
>I tell her not to be like that, that I liked her more when she was expressive before.
>She says she won’t do that anymore and will go back to being expressive.
>She did it again lol
>I tell her I value her because I like her and care about her a lot, and that’s why I want to keep the friendship.
>She takes it as a love confession and tells half the world, and now everyone thinks I’m that typical guy who pretends to be gay to get close to girls, even though I’ve always said I’m bi, she tolds to keep the friendship (???) like it wasn't the mf point.
>Before I even knew she’d told everyone, I kept the friendship going, but she sometimes acted distant and meh.
>I later find out from friends that she actually did spread it, and it pissed me off because she treated my trust like nothing.
>After thinking about it coldly for a week, I decided to cut ties and distance the friendship.
>She gets defensive, sends a short message saying she didn’t tell anyone, doesn’t know why I’m like this, and “respects my distance.”I felt like i took the best choice of my 2025 so far.
>I go out with some friends, and they tell me she talked again, and now everyone thinks I went hysterical or something, and people are afraid I’ll distance myself from everyone related to her.
>I don’t regret anything. Even though I still care about her and hate the distance, knowing she was basically a snitch just confirmed what I thought. I can’t take her seriously or as a friend again.
I’m sticking to my decision, even though some friends say I messed up and wasn’t considerate of her feelings—when she was literally the one who started hiding everything.
>Thoughts?

I have no friends, I will never have them and I am going to die a virgin. That said, can I live a wholesome and fulfilling life? Most of my suffering is inflicted by my own mind because I think by standards of society and nature I am a failure and worthless so I start hating myself and get depressed and life starts to feel like a prison because I am permanently locked from being normal.

>be me
>Make a new account on whatever the fuck dating app there is
>See a 3/10
>Swipe right just so i can see what it is like here
>She doesn't even reply

Don't worry about looks because I used a 7.5/10 friend's picture just to test out what it is like, And this is what happens lmao

Like what the fuck is wrong with these shit

Dunno what to do bros
>dad starts complaining about back and hip issues
>think its just regular old guy pains
>does all the test work
>came back today that he has high indicators of prostate cancer (PSA 22)

I'm really fuckin scared anons, I've been hanging out with him all day but sneaking off to my room to cry cos I don't want him to see.
From what I understand prostate cancer is pretty treatable but its just the fact he's been having back and hip issues as well as some swelling in his legs is scaring me that it might be advanced and metastasized. My mum died when I was young and dad is all I have left, he's like my closest friend and I need him so this is really scaring me.

I'm so miserable that unexpected kindness from strangers can me me so happy. Yesterday I was at a lecture and was struggling to find which page the professor was reading in a certain book. So a girl (a cute one, btw) who was sitting behind me noticed and whispered in my ears: "It's page 9."

And today I was at the line on a supermarket and a man who I believed had entered the line earlier than me told me that I got earlier and let me go ahead of him.

These two interactions made my day. It's so uncommon to have strangers doing these little things to you in a metropolis, especially a cute girl. I'm happy but I wished I could be intimate with a girl as cute as her. I'm so lonely desu.

What should I say?