how do you take the blame for your own situation and take charge to change it without succumbing to a victim mentality mindset of wallowing and stagnation before during or after?

How do I stop caring?

How can i still get into heaven

I have this new friend, he can be pretty short tempered. On top of this, I feel he can be stubborn and sometimes disrespectful. One example: We were in line for a club last night and the sign was in ...

>kick drug and alcohol addictions >stop biting my nails >remember why I was an addict in the first place I have pretty insane anxiety. It makes it hard for me to be alone with my own thoughts. I talk ...

just help me this is the 6th fucking time that im doing ts

I guess it's my fault for dropping out of university (CS - in Germany). But like even my friends with degrees aren't finding jobs. What the fuck am I even supposed to do?

Started viewing drinking, drugs, hookups, clubbing etc as degenerate activities. I used to do that shit but now it disgusts me. The only problem is that I need to find new people to spend time with bu...

I'm thinking of switching to an electric razor. I have relatively fine hair and I can go longer without shaving than most, but I put off shaving because it's a faff. Is there an electric shaver/ setup...

>Be me >Professor at Piedmont Virginia Community College (PVCC) >Have an autistic manchild in class > He won’t stop screeching > Jesus stfu about Sonichu > Starting to go insane > Manchild fails exam,...

Im 27, trans and I still live with my parents.

I was out exploring with my friends, we live in russia the kola peninsula. We found a mineshaft and my friends wanted to go in. Due to a troubled past and being a shelted child. My previous friend gro...

I haven't been able to cum in ~a week despite getting and staying hard. All that happens is that I feel that "peak" just before an orgasm, but not the relief/release. At some point I just get tired/lo...

how the fuck are you supposed to have a 9 to 6 and still have a life? >wake up at 6h15 >leave the house at 7h15 >arrive at ~8h35, check emails, etc >9 to 6 taking calls, 1h lunch spent eating and tryi...

Get a decent amount of attention but it’s more like timothee chalamet “aw he’s so cute” type of attention. I’m 27 now and not sure why I still look like a 20 year old twink. I do look after my skin an...

I'm constantly demotivated since I became depressed. I have so many wasted talents. I could have learned better the piano/guitar. I could have continued my theater course or learned how to draw better...

I've only cold approached a few women in my life, and it didn't go terrible, but I still have crippling anxiety and shame that prevents me from making my attraction clear. Alcohol doesn't really help ...

Imagine this happening ever since the massive dump of psych meds (60s?) into the west... Son disagrees with Mom. Mom then sends him to a psychiatrist. Psychiatrist medicates him. Now Mom can be re...

does this actually work?

There's this woman that sometimes talks to me at my local spot, she's a bit of a nut case but we have interesting conversations despite having different political views, also she's a dog mom that neve...

Do you have to accept if you belong to a bad ethnicity and learn that just because it's not your fault the perception of people with your background isn't without merit?

Especially hookers. I go to the downtown area daily after work and sometimes I manage to find a prostitute that does it. Where does this stem from?

I was a dumbass and graduated with a stupid degree that I now realize won’t get me anywhere What sectors of tech are still viable? Ive heard of horror stories of CS graduates finding absolutely no em...

After finding out I have an IQ of 70. What the fuck did I do to deserve this? It's like God wasn't even drunk when he made me, he was just being downright cruel. I'm a walking joke amongst other human...

Welp another failure with the ladies. Nothing bad, it was just a nothing burger. It just getting old how often the same shit happens. It's always been this over

>gf wants to go vegan >why: she has rheumatoid arthritis >basically, you get arthritis early from your body attacking itself; no cure >studies have shown red meat may aggravate rheumatoid arthritis >k...

Why can't I find something that sticks for a hobby? I keep chopping and changing what i'm into every month or two now. Like anime/manga, tv shows/movies, video games, drinking,sports. Why can't I just...

What jobs can I get with a philosophy degree?

girl called me a lesbian. Does this mean i am good looking? I have kind of long eyelashes and somewhat feminine features. Not anything really ugly or mannish on my face

I am fairly certain that what i am going through is fairly reasonable but since everybody around me is calling me weird, and truth be told its been going for a little too long, i would like to gather ...

working a shift at my side hustle, if cutie at work whose in my age range with whom I've had some good interactions with is there I'm going to ask her, "Hey, can I message you on whats app sometime,...

so i met this girl and i'm not sure if she likes me or not. we have gone a several dates and she's always talkative and touchy. >always responds to my texts and sends me a ton of emojis >she kisses m...

I won't read anything that starts with "I won't read"

Nobody wants to get together anymore. Nobody does anything without getting paid anymore. Nobody wants to do anything anymore. https://youtu.be/kVaolNKt2zw https://youtu.be/1d925iMSuLY Where do we go...

I groomed a 17 year old five years ago, everyone knows the story already. He says he's lonely a lot of times. I wonder if im to blame since I groomed him? Im pretty retarded but I know he has a life ...

How do I deal with loud social people? You know the kind with voices so loud you can hear them across the building? They just enter a room and they're like "HEY YA'LL, HOW YAWL DOIN"

Sure I’m crazy, crazy in love for youuuuu. So a psychiatrist is saying I’m schizophrenic because she genuinely doesn’t believe its possible I was bullied as badly as I say. They put me on meds and ...

I always doubt my mental sanity when it comes to my boyfriend so maybe he's the issue not me. Anyways, Whenever he pisses me off even in the slightest ( being a bit rude for a example) it ruins my who...

I got really lucky and met a 10/10 looking 18 year old girl, she is everything I want as far as values and behavior towards me (m24). However, when the night came after our engagement (1 month into ou...

How do i get a chubby gf? Like kinda fat but not obese

im an old man now , im 28 KHV, and I've slowly began coming to terms that my standards were too high - I did have girls into me over the years but I always turned them away cause they were always a li...

How do I get a dominating gf? A gf who just takes control and bosses me around?

I've been unemployed for about a year now and the only jobs that reach out to me are your average commission-based door-to-door sales job and those MLM scammers. Are sales jobs any good? I could see m...

I'm 27 years old. How do I stop getting in my head about my age? I keep feeling like it's too late to succeed in what I'm doing. I just want to be a good software engineer. I know that blaming my age...

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There's a cute chick working at a drive thru that I go to frequently. How do I go about asking her out without bothering her at work?

Less is more.

Recently my gf of 10 months broke up with me pretty much out of nowhere. She didn't explain why she wanted to end it except that she lost feelings. How should I get a closure on the situation? I'm thi...

This is my current model hp laptop model 15 dw0xxx I've had it for about 3 years now and it's showing it's age, what's something stronger I can buy without spending over a thousand dollars? I wat...

I am bad at without hyperbole, literally everything I do, even the things I like. I hate that of all the brains I could have ended up with I have a shitty one that prevents me from doing things like o...

How do you keep a woman interested in a long distance relationship?

I'm 27 and white and when I was 25 my parents started dropping hints that they want me to get a girlfriend. My dad said women would want me because I'm attractive and when I went to the store my mom w...

Should I ask this woman to become fwb out of the blue? We had a date 2 years ago and kind of let that go off but she gives me some femcel vibes, idk

Can I learn to be kinder to my inferiors? It's kinda boring to be frank

What is dating like in Japan?

How do I give love to my little daughter without looking like a pedo to society today? I don't think I can even hug her.

The surest way to kill my libido without cutting my balls off?

I turned 18 last week and I'm excited to be making some big changes I couldn't before I was a legal adult. I've been non-binary all through highschool, my friends always accepted and supported me, but...

Signed my lease and it says I have to pay on the 1st of the month but I cant move in until 2 weeks later. Is this legal? Yes im being a jew over this because im a college student and shit ain't cheap....

sup, how and where do i get a cute autistic bf ???

I took this picture on my business trip, I just don’t enjoy looking at her or being with her, she doesn’t even wear makeup, she takes a nap at 2 pm when I arrive home so I can’t eat. I get she gave bi...

I failed a test about anxiety and depression after a mental health check in my husband pressured me into taking. I didn't feel like it was a real problem to worry about but the doctors said my answers...

Hai!! This is my first time posting something here ig and uh oh idk where to post it…but I wanna make sum friends or js talk to ppl w similar interests bc IK this place has “cool” ppl:3 this might com...

So I just finished my first coding class and get the gist of Java basics. But not sure where do I go from here. Should I just get a data & algos book? or maybe a book on learning about java's librarie...

I don't want to keep living in this horrible place ,I'm still 17 is there any way to do it

>35 >NEET for basically entire life >no high school or college education >dropped out of school in 9th grade >never worked >have left house maybe 6times in past 15 years >0 social skills >obese >neve...

Don't like anime/manga anymore so what am i supposed to do for entertainment?

Falling into sin is so discouraging. I've been a believer for years. When does it stop? Will God honestly forgive me and love me still? Can you honestly believe this? If so, how do you do it? How do I...

>I have a girlfriend of 2.5 years (both 25 y/o) >My second long-term relationship, her first. >Lived together in a one-bed flat for 2 years. >When she moved to the country 3 years ago, she didn’t kno...

I was at mental health today. I explained that i progressed from poverty to 6 figures, not even counting what i pull in in passive income from investments. I mentioned how amicable i am, and how man...

He keeps threatening to write me out the will but it's just so funny.

My regular summer wagie job is doing that thing where they give you less hours each week hoping that you'll quit so they don't have to fire you. I don't care if the pay is shitty, I just need literall...

>be me, 21M >still financially dependent on mom since 2025 job market sucks ass >get shitfaced/screw up somehow/call mom out for being controlling, and mom steps in to fix things up >"stop treating me...

My family is retarded as fuck and always ask me for help dealing with each other then when I do they say they didn't need my help or they pretend there was never an issue. I've been away for 10 year...

i thought it was just a meme but i’ve come to see that latinas are indeed quite different than your average white girl. i understand they aren’t some monolithic entity but the difference have been not...

I'm a very introverted, yet passionate guy, 21 years old. I'm asking advice on how to get in touch with/progress with reaching out to a guy? I have had various (cute) schoolmates (who i thought might...

never posted here before but im ur typical mental case having a period of not wanting to leave the house, how do i find people to talk to who are similar 2 me online?

Im 27 years old and a nobody, which is "normal", but my problem is that i rlly dont see a way out of the concentration camp:human civilization to the point where ive started thinking about suicide bef...

I'm a really stupid individual, I can't even hold a job or know how to drive. I really want to become and archeologist because it's a childhood dream of mine but there's no denying that my stupidity m...

/adv/ in a nutshell.

I had a girlfriend but she kept asking me for the social media of my Chad friend "as a joke" I broke up with her even though she told me she loved me because it's obviously a lie, but we did date so ...

Is it possible to live a happy life being single forever? Is it sustainable

I’ve been using Obsidian with help from LLMs, syncing stuff to Drive and occasionally dropping files into Colab (don’t laugh). But writing formulas in LaTeX is a pain. Lately, I’ve just been handwrit...

I am 20F, live in a rural area, and have had the worst experiences with dating within the last 2 years. Literally why. Some background about me, I am very right wing, orthodox Christian, traditional ...

When men can’t get a gf, the common advice is for him to go to the gym, work on his social skills, dress well, improoove. But what the fuck do women do? Just exist? it’s just somehow expected for men ...

I frequently find that people answer my questions "none responsivly" "Do we have enough milk or should I buy some" "I don't plan on eating ciral" "Ok, but how much milk do we have" "I already told...

What's up guys, it's summer, but I don't have a car so I've been bored asf. I want to find a new hobby to pass the time, preferably something where I don't have to stare at a TV or computer screen for...

How do I cause the downfall of my enemies

Why does this keep happening? Do i really upset janies with my posts or i don't understand something?

Why am I so much weaker than other guys who also don't work out? Is it genetics or not eating enough protein or what?

I have trouble building muscle beyond this. I am already taking protein powder and pushing myself pretty hard. Never was able to surpass 165 lbs. Any advice for growth?

I grew up isolated. My mom hid me from people when I was a baby and when she lost custody of me and I move with my he moved a lot and chose to live in rural areas. I was bullied relentlessly because I...

"Sorry to inform you, but you have no been successful " I THOUGHT THE INTERVIEW WENT WELL FUCK it was minimal wage retail, man. And I still couldn't even get that. I'm a failure How do I not let this ...

I can’t be reminded of childish things without getting really sad. Whether it’s a baby crying, kids toys or cute animals it makes me regress in a way. It makes me give up any sort of ‘adult’ confidenc...

I'm feeling really depressed and lonely. I'm a virgin and I've really been craving the touch of a woman hard. Should I hire an escort? On one hand it seems awesome but on the other hand, I feel like i...

How do I find a woman who is loyal and doesn't lie? >anon they all lie Do they? How do you differentiate between white lies and bigger lies

How come when u get a grocery store job they put you under a mentally disabled with extreme ego problems? Humiliation ritual or shit test?

I am a 23 year old zoomer who is so depressed and done with this dying world I am just too scared to do it myself I want a beautiful woman to do it for me It’ll make my transition to the realm of e...

So I have a tremendous fear of lightning and thunder that a simple flash of light is enough to send me into panic mode. Lightning scares the absolute shit out of me that I bought a couple hundred doll...

Is 25 old? I feel old. I feel like the best years of my life have passed me by. I still haven't gotten a degree, I have no marketable skills, no friends and I've never been in a relationship. Is it ov...

I want a cat but they seem like real dirty animals, I know they clean themselves but they shit in little boxes that need to be cleaned daily and drag litter everywhere, is there a small animal I could...

This fell in my mouth I rinsed it with mouth wash and water and the lady on the poison center of my country wouldn't even let me tell her the full name of the medication and asked if I am on anything....

I have an intersex condition called CAIS. I am genetically male, but my body can't process testosterone from a defect so my body developed femininely from the womb. I had vestigial testicles that had ...

>Be me >21M >5'2 >Pretty fit ngl >5/10 face ill say maybe 4 >Still student but will have a decent paying job after my studies >Has hobbies i would say >Literally no experience with women, absolute vir...

There are so many cute girls like picrelated out there but how do I get with one? I am only 5'9" with an average face but I am jacked from going to the gym.

I just had a dream about my ex trans wife today. I wish she never cheated on me. Oh well. Another day of repressing my love. No matter what I do, I still think about her at least 2 times a day deeply....

I got a shitload of pdfs on my pc. But its a nit of a pain to read. Whats the best e-reader/kindle/whatever available nowadays?

I have terrible family. Yes, i not unique at it, many peoples have this problem i suppose. Im 19 years old guy, study in college right now at IT. That not my dream, but i understand i need earn moneys...

Can I have some copium about. Please don't be men >hating my face ( even my only ex bullied my appearance) but being too depressed to save for plastic surgery. > being single and lonely because it's...

I hate everything and everyone but I also see how pointless it is, the world doesn't care about my pain and will never care, how can I move on? Is it possible to heal from this? I'm always going to ...

Is there such thing as being so pretty as a female that you don’t need social skills to have a social life? I’ve been getting plastic surgery for the past almost decade. I went from a 3/10 to maybe a...

male 25 virgin addicted to sissy, cuckold and bbc porn. it’s a long story but i got addicted at a very young age and it has ruined so much of my life. i want to quit but i feel brainwashed and there a...

unchecked emotions are a hinderance observe your thoughts objectively and approach your goal calmly. It may be hard, but just put all doubts to the back of your mind Stop caring so much about that whi...

How do I stop feeling like I'm contaminating everyone I enter a relationship with?

Have you guys heard of the dominance pill? It's been talked about in some of the manosphere commentary. Basically, you learn how to profile beta males based on body language ie posture, movement, be...

ive been rejected by every girl ive liked in my life that whenever someone shows interest in me, even if i like them back, to do anything about it.. its like, i like the idea of intimacy but not actu...

(summary of what's happened to me: tried to kms, failed, too much of a pussy and ranaway from everyone. they think im dead) welp i cant use my card as my dumbass left it home. i have about 7000 yen le...

I want to be surrounded by large, naked, hairy, sweaty men that haven't washed in days and are shoving their huge smelly reeking penises in my face about to violate my holes.

Just heard her boss who has worked at her apartment complex for 11 years just got fired. Yet for some reason, my mother, who has worked here for 10 whole years, got passed up on promotion and the supe...

I’m a 21 year old man with Bipolar Type 1, along with schizoaffective disorder. I’m currently taking and have been taking for 2 weeks Lithium, Risperidone, and Depakote. I was thinking of adding in A...

Ever I started a new job last November I’ve been finding it hard to do much of anything. When I say do anything I do mean anything.I just sort of laze around like a vegetable wishing I could do things...

>Graduated >Never got accepted into an internship >No job >Never had a girlfriend or any romantic experience >Autistic and ugly >Stuck in hometown where I don’t know anyone besides my immediate fami...

I recently started praying and now I have a girl who loves me more than anyone else ever could. A long, elaborate prayer or just a short one can boost your confidence in your present AND future by a l...

is it possible for an ugly person to fall in deep, genuine love? not just finding a standard relationship with a girlfriend/boyfriend, I know that's possible. I mean full on blown deep love, the type ...